ajasatya

@TheAvatarState the teachings are not the main guidance. it's about developing enough wisdom so that you know if you're being relapse or neurotic. this is why teachers can be helpful. good teachers can spot unbalance very easily.

no you didn't understand. there are some sticky/gross beliefs and there are beliefs used to cleanse those sticky/gross ones. after the remotion of the first layer of beliefs, you can ditch the others. ramana maharshi used to say "thorns to remove thorns".

@OmniYoga it can be a waste of time and mental energy or it can be a motivation for you to go and actually do the practices. concepts are also great to shatter crystalized beliefs and the sense of moral obligation to believe in some set of beliefs, specially for people coming from limiting religious or scientific backgrounds. you're much better off with a belief that you can let go easily than with a belief that you hold as true for sentimental reasons.

@Yannik practice: zazen book: the power of now

maybe on the meditation/enlightenment and partially on the self-actualization sections. but this forum is also filled with serious practical stuff.

@Yoshy why do you go through anesthesia before surgeries? why do you drink water when you're thirsty or eat food when you're hungry? why do sages meditate to find Truth? meditation alters blood/brain chemistry... does it make meditation an invalid method? breathing also alters blood/brain chemistry. if you breathe properly, it elevates the pH of the blood. shouldn't i be allowed to breathe to experience god?

no, i'm just addressing (and maybe successfully triggering) your pride . it's useless, you can let it go.

@DocHoliday you can write a computer program to write those. it's not that smart. do you think ∞! is huge? what about ∞! to the power of ∞!, ∞! times, in a way that it would take as much time as it's own magnitude just to print the formula out? just pointless mental babbling. math can only reach the limits of the human mind. it can't take you very far on this journey.

the humiliation is in your head. let go of the big ego and embrace failure. why are you meditating?

alright, drop the "almighty leo" mentality because it just hinders your progress. leo is a guy like us, in the sense that he's also facing his own struggles to learn and grow. the thing is that everyone can only go as far as their own progress and as far as i'm concerned, leo is not the best authority to talk about stable/longevous deep intimate relationships. we're all trying our best. i'm not saying that leo or other coaches are deliberately lying to harm you. i'm saying that they're talking about their own experiences, which may or may not suit your current needs. and here i am, talking about my own experience and insights when i was going through similar emotions. from my perspective, you're living a life that you don't want for you. i don't think you know what you want, but you seem to be uncomfortable in two big aspects: your job and your intimate relationship. what kind of job is this that you can just do whatever? you don't seem to feel like you're necessary and that's a sign of a bad job. if you can manage your obligations even with so much procrastination, then plan your "procrastination" and use the spare time to build something truly amazing. why don't you work on perfecting your skills to do what you actually want to do? you can even use the spare time to build your own business, if that's the case. and about your girlfriend, both of you seem to be scared of future possibilities. that's how i and my ex felt. we indulged in small talks, series, videogames, meals, drinks, parties and sex as an attempt to fulfill the lack of happiness and meaning with activities that provided instant gratification. serious commitment? building a family? hell, those subjects always scared the s#!7 out of us. my insight about intimate relationships is that they should aim for something higher than each individuality. it can be a family or even straightforward Truth. there are couples who dedicate their lives just to practice and spread the message of love, remaining childless. as long as your relationship is built upon the fear of loneliness and hurt, it will just get worse and worse with some small waves of illusory improvements due to superficial tweaks. i'm sorry if i sounded too negative about your current relationship, but the fact that you worry when you're not with her is a big red flag.

they probably don't know what they're talking about and are selling something they don't have. if you want good advice on relationships, listen to people living great relationships. go for those who are living happy marriages. talk to men who are living happy 30 years long marriages and you will know better. they will tell you how dominance and aggressiveness just f***s you in the a**. if you want interesting relationships, this is my advice to you: practice tenderness, compassion, patience, listening and will power to always improve the quality of your life. eat better, exercise, quit trash culture and internet junk (porn included). the true beauty of a man lies on his fluency in the practice of virtues. you certainly didn't go deep enough. you gotta go beyond mental masturbation. you need to come out on top and drop your old vices. thanks for sharing your daily schedule. but you still forgot to mention how you feel during those moments. how do you feel when you go walk the dog? how do you feel when you are with your girlfriend? how do you feel about her when you're not with your girlfriend? how do you feel during your work times?

what the fudge is going on here? so much trash has been said.

jeez, that gives you a LOT of spare time to do whatever. take a weekend to go for a long walk or hiking. start dancing classes. learn an instrument and a new language. boring life? sounds more like you want to be boring.

@aclokay you think you own her. ditch porn and masturbation asap. you're misunderstanding the goal of a relationship. what if she's just disgusted and doesn't want to be with you because you drain her, like a vampire?

if you're wise enough, no woman will ever want to do that to you

anger is suffering. any aggressive emotion makes you suffer. the proper attitude towards angry people is compassion. if you're wise enough, you never get hurt by others unless they hurt you physically.

then you may need to suffer a little more

it is true, but it has nothing to do with your name in particular. it's about the fact that having a name can be highly conditioning because your name reminds you of your old patterns. on the peak of my seeking process i started to use another name. it felt weird in the beginning but in the end it was a powerful and effective tool for deconstruction. of course, "spiritual names" can be deceitful and harmful like any other tool. one can get attached to another identity and the pattern of attachment does not change.

words can hurt you only if part of you agrees with them.

what's the density of fire? are you sure water and wind are different things? it's possible to make H2O from H2 and O2 so... also, we inhale O2 and exhale CO2. is C made of earth or wind?

@Shaun you're still stuck in the mind. emotions feel like rollercoasters when you're too attached to beliefs.

this very moment!

watch the mind's thirst, already trying to make sense out of what cannot be made sense of. let it starve instead.

you can't try to grasp the absolute perspective and still imagine lower/higher purposes or individualities such as "I" or "God". Reality is ONE. the mind can't go any further than this.

"your" will is "god's" will unity means ONE there is an illusion of separation on the level of thoughts, only