ajasatya

here's a good start: question your values and beliefs. set them on fire and see what survives. what is the kind of life that you want for yourself? do you care about being a good example to society? what are the main characteristics of a great human being?

this is an impossible task. how can you make sure you're not cherry picking your samples and introducing HUGE biases in your study? studying controlled data is already complex enough. have you ever seen how a serious statistical social research is made?

@Sidi there is no fundamental answer. it's a relative value. the question is: are you brave enough to commit to a set of values that you've built for yourself? again: these can't be built for you by someone else. luckily, that's your job and yours only.

those labels did nothing more than harm to me. such a waste of time and mental energy.

@NoSelfSelf not sure if this will help, but what can be more interesting in a conversation between 2 human beings than the human beings themselves? develop true interest towards the other person. ask about what he/she thinks about his/her own life or about life in general. if you know how to listen properly, people will tell you the strangest things. the perspective of a person is an infinite rabbit hole.

the is the root cause of your struggle. you have a crystallized conception about what is true. if you're unable to let go of your beliefs, this forum may turn into your Hell. good luck.

@mandyjw i recommend that you team up with a trustworthy lawyer and a trustworthy psychologist. this looks like a potential seed for a green/yellow company.

@John Iverson more important than achieving success on this field: learning to lose and accepting rejection.

@Hardkill how do you think your question would be answered? data? interviews? hypothesis tests? what metrics would you use? how would you define a "good leader" numerically? before sticking to a question, i suggest that you ask yourself how would a good answer look like. keep in mind that deductive answers rarely work in reality. if you're not playing with abstract logical environments, you will need data to support your theses.

it may work with monkeys, lions and birds. but the human creature is too different to fit in such simplistic box. if you're involved with lower levels of consciousness, then yes. money, power, physical strength and low agreeableness may suggest that you are a good candidate to proliferate. in higher levels of consciousness, your ability and fluency in the practice of human virtues are far more important than lower traits. a small list of powerful virtues: honesty humility willpower kindness compassion temperance flexibility

@Empty i'm going to say this because nobody else has said it: i'd just get the hell out of there.

@Sauvik ever thought about dropping all this male/female/alpha/beta/gama thing? for how long have you been playing with these toys?

@improvementedward wake up early and stretch. eat something and then do some light cardio. try this for 1 week and see how it feels.

you don't have to leave the place you live with your parents in order to start working on your future for real. the day has 24 hours. you sleep 8 and spend 8 hours dedicating yourself to school. that makes room for 8 hours everyday for you to work hard on your plans. what do you do with your spare time besides watching porn?

@Wekz good! i'm happy for you

@Heviin question to contemplate: can you really choose the path to enlightenment?

conscious duality, such as the human experience, is one of the highest manifestations of GOD. the very fact that it's possible to say "i" and feel separated is already a true gift of existence. aim for the bigger picture! there is no reason to fight the sense of "iamness". instead, investigate where it comes from

this and this

the closest example from what you're saying that i know of is from a book called "the surrender experiment" by michael a. singer. and even his story involves suffering!

good question. although i've never even heard of an enlightened human being who found his peace without being triggered by suffering, i do think that suffering is the genuine fuel for enlightenment to happen. even for those who seek enlightenment motivated by love... the very act of seeking is a manifestation of dissatisfaction, which is also a form of suffering.

then what are you waiting for exactly? survival can be hard enough even if you don't procrastinate.

@CreamCat i see. i'm done here. good luck!

@CreamCat do i smell fear of commitment? that's still to abstract, as pointed by @Shin. can you explicit exactly what you are going to do about it right after you close this tab of your web browser?

@CreamCat let's take a step further then. sorry if i am being pedantic but this is what most people evade when doing this kind of work. how exactly are you going to become a master? what should you be doing 24/7 that you aren't?

would you be ok with biologists making experiments to generate human sources of internal organs to be sold for high prices? (reference) who holds more responsibility to ponder/answer this question? members of the biology field or people who work at mcdonalds?