ajasatya

@Farnaby "children" was just an example. some couples join forces to reforest the world. some couples join forces to teach yoga around the world. some couples join forces to fight against world hunger. this is what i meant by "bigger than you".

yes. i only said what i said because you seemed concerned about this whole "am i deluded?" issue. those are mistakes that i made in my own journey, thus it's very unlikely that all of them will resonate with you.

@Farnaby this is an insight i had: if you can't fully embrace something bigger than you together, then the relationship is already doomed. maybe you're too young to think about having kids and building a family. or maybe you're just not experienced enough. a longevous intimate relationship requires a DEEP link.

damn, that one was too good. i got what i needed for today. thanks.

yes, we do! i don't understand what you're saying. maybe it's because i'm a dormant noob

yes. by "yes" i mean i know that i can't speak the absolute truth. i can only share what has led me to a increasingly better experience of life.

@Truth Addict here are some signals of delusion: you become too bothered about what people - leo included - believe/say your ability to enjoy life and love people gets thrown off by your eccentricism you're unable to experience peace of mind because you're thinking too hard about spirituality/metaphysics you can't overcome the dependence on the wisdom of others you can't overcome the dependence on the use of substances that facilitate the shutdown of the mind chattering you become attached to certain ideologies

@Soul-lover 2020 persons, plants, monkeys, lions, butterflies, rocks, water, atoms etc are the avatars of GOD. GOD lives through everything, as everything. GOD lives through dogs and barks; GOD lives through birds and sings; GOD lives through human beings and composes music, writes poetry, observes the Universe (also, GOD itself) and says "I AM". GOD is creation, creator and creativity. and by "nothingness" i don't mean "nothing". this is pretty much as far as words can go.

i don't know... the body just knew it somehow.

first, i feel like introducing myself. i come from a rich family. they taught me that life could not be appreciated because there's no time for such thing. when i was very young i was sexually abused so i grew up ill. i developed peyronie's disease. everyday up to 2015, this disease caused me extreme suffering in many levels from physical to psychological. i became an alcoholic and i met my ex-girlfriend. we started to date and she showed me marijuana. then i was drinking and smoking a lot. in march 2015 we broke up after 1 year and 3 months of relationship. i experienced an even deeper suffering, which made me collapse. i started researching about true happiness and this lead me to leaving my parents' house. i quit smoking and drinking. feeling totally free, i started to experience a lot of things. many yoga classes, reiki initiations, i became vegetarian, i forced myself into starvation situations, i started to walk on the streets to see the world from below, i became a member of sukyo mahikari, i started practicing zen, i joined a group called nacion pachamama, which gave me this spiritual name "iago iriarte". i decided to read about the life of the historical buddha, which made me laugh a LOT. in july 2015 i started to study about death very deeply. in september 2015 i went through a surgery to fix my penis. for 2 months i wasn't allowed to have an erection otherwise i could break the stitches. this experience taught me to achieve celibate. in this period i went very deep into the dharma and zen. i started to drop a lot of dogma and beliefs i had acquired on my journey. i started to listen deeply to a lot of people and this experience showed me how immersed in suffering almost everyone is. this made me realize how rare was the experience i was living. i was growing compassion in my heart. listening to people and hugging them became my passion. i quit my job and went back to my parents. i started to go to retreats to expand my consciousness. i met leo's youtube channel. with his help i could have legit no-self experiences. i found nirvana, a life without craving, attachments and uncontrolled desires. i entered a master in computer science and left my parents' house again. now i'm living in an urban ashram. i added "arhatha" to my spiritual name, which is the combination of two sanskrit terms: arhat and "atha", which means "right now". i met an yogini. she takes part in ayahuasca ceremonies, which i'm gonna join soon. we're living a happy long term relationship. i started a zen sangha called "zen passo a passo" (zen step by step) and my girlfriend is part of it. the sangha is growing quickly!

because GOD is the very nature of what everything is. GOD is the ultimate experiencer, experienced and experience. it will sound crazy until you integrate a few (or several) heavy mystical experiences. nothingness is reading these words...

@Farnaby do you (both, you and your gf) dream together? are both of you willing to grow and conquer your own place in this world? are both of you willing to overcome the natural challenges of Life together? an easy life can easily corrupt any sense of fulfillment, regardless of your social status (single, dating or married).

i'm not being pessimistic. i'm just saying what happens to people. if you want to be consciously responsible for becoming aware of toxic patterns and work hard not to allow such patterns to perpetuate, that's your choice.

@SQAAD @mandyjw oh wow, c'mon. it is just straightforward logic. you can't expect people to heal like that. some emotional wounds can affect people during their entire lives and it's extremely likely that such wounds would affect your children when it's their time to be parents. it's a common human pattern. very very rare people heal completely from murders in a way that it won't affect people around them. a friend of mine had his father murdered by a stranger. he is 34 and he is still DEEPLY MINDFUCKED. if he had children (thank god he doesn't), they would be affected by his paranoia. and this friend of mine is not even an outlier... he is just one among many people who had one of their parents murdered and have to deal with huge emotional baggage during their lifetime. note: his father was murdered by a stranger. what if his mother were murdered by his father in front of his eyes? hell... why do i even need to point this out?

ego will is god's will. separation is in the mind, only! because god can live itself believing that it's not god! that's just a tiny fraction of god's power. Reality is ONE as in... not two, not three...

@ImHooper you're free to do whatever, as long as you're willing to accept the consequences. being rude attracts rudeness. being kind attracts kindness. don't allow the term "dream" to confuse you. it's a dream because it's just as magical as a dream.

@Aakash "i am going to become a serial killer. but it's ok... the purpose of this is so that people will be able to learn about pain. it's the grand-design of the universe!" amazing doorway to devilry. and yes, it's very likely that some serial killer out there is killing people while telling such story to himself.

is "purpose" an story of the mind to make acceptance easier or is it fundamentally TRUE?

if you do something terrible to your family like murdering your wife in front of your kids, the karmic mark of such attitude will be so deep that it will affect your grandchildren and probably your great-grandchildren. such continuity of suffering is already the Spirit reincarnating and gathering its own thorns. the Spirit is ONE. it's an infinitely complex net that connects EVERYTHING (and, of course, EVERYONE) from "past", "present" and "future".

nobody can reincarnate. GOD/Spirit reincarnates. spiritual development and the evolution of species are ONE. thinking along the lines "someone reincarnates" or "when i reincarnate" doesn't quite reach it.

you need to go deeper. what do you mean by "i"?

looks more like a journal to me

@AudibleLocket here's a guideline that has been working greatly for me: happiness is finding your way to contentment with less. "less" means that you don't depend on social status, material possessions, drugs, junk food, sex etc to experience a high quality life. not depending does not mean that it's prohibitive... it just means that your emotional state is free of such attachments. this is why we practice zazen. if you manage to find your way to happiness with just sitting, it means that you're in great shape. this is impossible with a loose/distracted mind and this is also the reason behind the fact that i quit porn, gaming, alcohol and weed.

@AudibleLocket weed makes the mind loose. spiritual practices are meant to make the mind sharp. i don't know what you're doing.

@Pouya too much imagination. are those stories fundamentally TRUE?