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@Visionary as dogen zenji said, realization and practice are the same thing. the best way to avoid language is by practicing enlightenment. zazen is solid and straightforward. if you practice with proper effort, your mind-body experience will embody the enlightened conditioning. as a very tangible result, you'll be able to silence your mind almost anytime you want. it takes you into a deep state of peace and compassion.

@Elahe feel free to throw yourself into new groups of people. personally, i like kundalini yoga practitioners because they're super healthy. in the USA there's this big event called Sat Nam Festival, for instance.

@Peace and Love i'm going to answer from my own experience learn how to be 100% happy alone and build solidity on that state don't demand anything from others know that people only hurt others because they're suffering be able to love everyone. EVERYONE. not just your intimate lover learn how to satisfy yourself WHILE satisfying the other person sexually don't quit things you enjoy doing alone even on a LTR, know and feel that you'd be just fine if it doesn't work

i simply feel what i read

@jennywise oh wow, i could almost feel your anxiety while reading your text. i've been where you are so i'm going to say what i did and why. i noticed that i had been building my own cage somehow. i couldn't see it. it just felt extremely claustrophobic. i had had tough moments before and everytime they came i tried to meditate but it didn't go quite well. but this time it was different... the suffering i was going through was too heavy for me. i couldn't handle it so i gave up completely on the ideas i had about life and myself. i finally admitted that i was very ignorant and started to invest time on a journey to comprehend the source of my suffering. i started to study the life of siddhartha gautama (some dude who had this same issue a few years ago), the four noble truths and zen. i joined a meditation group and that was it. i remember going to the zendo (meditation hall) just to cry and cry for the first 3 weeks. but the zen method healed me and i turned my life into a zen practice. it works.

@traffy.law i suggest the historical buddha's advice. just don't take jobs that concern to killing stealing sexual misconduct lies intoxicating drinks and drugs

@Huz i found this method that works for me: read a book while listening to its audiobook. as an example, i recommend the deep experience i had with this book audiobook

@somenathpal don't try to use spiritual teachings to explain reality. nothing can explain reality. not even the most precise equation can explain reality consistently. spiritual teachings serve to push you towards liberation. be truly free. can you let reality be the way it is without justifications or judgments?

@Anna Konstantaki the first set of teachings that really hit me came from a book called nothing special - living zen, written by a female zen master called charlotte joko beck. the teacher doesn't really matter. for me, it's about being able to embody and practice the teaching. this is where the finger pointing to the moon analogy comes from.

@Anna Konstantaki sages have no gender. first step is quitting sexism.

@somenathpal you're still confused, mixing the relative and the absolute perspectives. quit intellectual reasoning. you have to go beyond that. far beyond. do the job. there's no shortcut. zazen takes you straight to IT, but it might take a while. maybe some years. do you want the Truth? i cannot give it to you. nobody can give it to you. no words can express it. the price for the Truth is higher than you may consider.

sit quietly and try to find, in your field of awareness, this thing that makes choices. the illusory nature of the ego makes you see others as separate beings such as yourself. also it makes you feel as if you were in control. if you let go of delusion, you may find yourself in a dream controlled by a big mind. and "you" and "others" are just means for this big mind to feel itself, to experience itself. big mind, higher self, god, buddha nature, pure consciousness, krishna, the void, the tao, whatever you want to call it.

the perfect words have been said. it's your show. it's your universe. there's no one else here, just you, and nothing is being withheld from you. you are completely on your own. everything is available for direct knowing. no one has anything you need. no one else can lead you, pull you, push you or carry you. no one else is necessary for your success. it cannot be simpler - you are asleep and you can wake up. if you understand that it's the best news you could possibly receive. behold! the way is open unto thee. jed mckenna - spiritual enlightenment the damnedest thing

@stevegan928 it's not about become something else or doing other stuff. it's about knowing what you are while you're doing anything at all. if you're trying to be special, sorry... you're still going to be suffering in trouble with your pride. enlightenment, attaining nirvana, means being at peace beyond your sexual or any other ego driven impulses.

you have to practice contemplation. give yourself as many contemplation moments you can. just for a few minutes forget everything you have to do. forget everything you are. gender, duties, family, name etc. be a spirit. observe the complex patterns of atoms that are presented to you in front of your eyes. explore your senses. you can practice this anytime. learn how to live the moment fully, which means simply deeply observing it with all your body.

i'd recommend a zen sangha. zen is straightforward.

@Pauline Bureau why would you want enlightenment? the only fuel for enlightenment is suffering. if you're suffering, there's no reason not to want to be free from it. if you're not suffering, don't drown in another ego race towards a new achievement.

@Samuel Garcia you'd have to watch how he really deals with his "personal" life. the enlightened ones have the actual knowledge that it's all a dream and don't attach to anything. not even world peace. they don't try to be that honest. they simply are because there's no point on maintaining lies. that's where their presence comes from. edit: don't think that they won't react to danger, though. the body has it's own intelligence, which is far more brilliant than the intellect it carries with it. the body protects itself and NEVER lies. the body never ever fucking lies.

how come nobody has mentioned zen yet?

be content with whatever

death = recycle of illusions. ego dies. body-mind experience dies. memories die. only truth remains.

nothing reincarnates. the i that reincarnates does not exist. there's simply continuity of reality being conscious of itself. desiring and fulfilling itself. this is the fuel for experiences, such as the one "you"'re having right now.

@Aamir King here

listen to your heart. how do you want to heal yourself? make that your aspiration. short book. 50 pages. http://www.adyashanti.org/index.php?file=bookstore