ajasatya

some women may not suffer from being reduced to a sexual object. in fact, it may even be a fetish. but it's a particular case. even for those women it doesn't work in the long run. everyone (man or woman) likes true affection. the vast majority of the women i met appreciated the fact that i would listen to them and look at them without malice, trying to know their deepest sufferings. they felt great because it always had been extremely rare for them to talk with a friendly man in this machist society. as a result of compassionate listening, they release a lot of suffering and cry their pains out, which contain horrifying childhood traumas very often. another result is the fact that i was able to master my sexuality, of course. that's why i said what i said when the guy asked about celibacy.

poor john. by acknowledging the fact that he is special, he didn't notice the fact that everyone is equally special

@Butterflystory yes, i've done it. it's extremely liberating. body: practice yoga. one of the purposes of yogasanas is to channel sexual energy to other areas of your being. mind: practice compassion. when thinking of a woman, be aware of the fact that she suffers greatly and needs to be acknowledged as a true human being instead of simply a means for your own sexual satisfaction. try to attain this kind of look when looking at people:

these experiences are awesome but my advice is not to look for them unless you're already completely healed because the initial effort should be driven towards purification (complete shift of lifestyle to a healthier way to live) anyway, we can try to explain reality with words... we can try to judge these experiences as real or not but that's all nonsense. everything is within reality. i've been taking ayahuasca periodically twice per month (sometimes three times) and i can see clearly how much of a huge shelf of experiences reality is. open up and have fun. the human domain of conscious existence is quite vast.

awesome topic! congratulations for your healing. i wish you true happiness!!!

the first step usually requires some planning and courage. i had to leave my parents and start a life based on minimalism so i could focus completely on the path. a sudden leap of faith... the old self murder.

try everything else. for real. sooner or later you'll see that true happiness comes from not needing external things. self-development is finding that freedom.

sit quietly and try to reach the core of this pain you're feeling. go for it and stop running away. this pain comes from the fallen pieces of your egoic armor. let go of your pride completely and come back to humility. it's the most mature way to live on.

how's it like to live leo's life one day?

coming down to the conclusion that there's nothing to do, which is a proper pointer to people who have been meditating for quite a while. but the guy himself recognized that he still has work to do in order to discipline his monkey mind, so the "do nothing" teaching is useless at this point. instead, i recommend this.

@Ether then disbelief this very one:

no. towards complete responsibility for one's own health.

@Sri McDonald Trump Maharaj, can you help @mikeyy?

@OnceMore it looks like one of those rare cases of a broken pride. it's time to come back and review your reasons. have you experienced Love in the last few years? not intimate love. not attachment. i mean real Love.

@tarek1945 sure. we're welcome! i wish you the best of Life. with love,

@tarek1945 people will come up with crazy ideas about enlightenment, but the core work is purification. observe how you create your own suffering by being egoist and use meditation to let go of craving, possession, control, anger, jealously, impatience, avarice and luxury. these impulses are strengthened by thoughts of an undisciplined mind. life will feel very pleasant after your purification. this is enlightenment: true peace of heart. of course, enlightenment is not something you do in your bedroom. it requires a complete shift of lifestyle, as you'll see in a few months from now.

@mikeyy ask them. they know better. tell them your intentions. they might be able to help you.

Life's already what you want. dealing with anxiety dealing with remorse/guilt dealing with sexual desire dealing with your eating habit dealing with your parents dealing with your friends dealing with your intimate lover dealing with your children etc those are the fields. study hard but be careful... they're 90% practical and there's no teacher to tell you that you've passed or failed.

@Marianitozz that's what i did. but if you're interested in what "others" think about it, then you're not ready yet. just start by living like a monk. becoming an ordered monk is something else.

@mikeyy check this out. please give us feedback about what you find out!

@Marianitozz why do you want to hear our opinions?

@Preetom i like to talk to people and to listen. i like to know what makes them happy and sad. i like to look at their eyes and be able to really see them. i like to see children running and playing around. i like to see people healing themselves and shining like the big old sun. i like to dance and i like it when people dance with me. i did write a short journal. you can find it here. during my transformation i tried to write a book but i wasn't able to catch up. recently i've written a short book. it's in portuguese, though. about the 24/7 mindfulness practice, go for it. it's the best gift you can give to yourself and mainly to everyone around you :). pura graça.pdf

keep looking keep searching as if there was something to be understood some superior knowledge to attain so you can feel special so you can feel different so you can feel better so much of you. my dear brother, there has never been anything to comprehend. we keep on running away but eventually we understand that there's no need for anything else but to be kind. kindness, my dear brother. kind words. can you love me? because i don't want to play your game of being better than... i don't want to run. i'm getting older. i rather walk and smile. i rather be kind, gentle. all i would want from you is that you can feel complete, content, present.

@stevegan928 no. on mondays i started to practice zazen in a sangha only at night. then, after a few weeks, i started to remember the intention to practice meditation in random moments. these moments became more and more frequent so i started to meditate while doing other things. and then there was one point where the meditative state was my natural state and i was able to reach celibacy very easily.

@TBurg82 hello! i had the same problem. practicing yoga, zazen and biodance healed me. but it took a while. it requires patience and consistency. nothing else could heal me. i had to do it.