Natasha

Neat. I saw a couple of faces there too.

Because men are hunters by nature and love a good challenge. That's how they're wired. If something just falls on their lap, they're not going to value it as much past the initial stage. So keep your boundaries and stay true to your values. The right man will respect you for it and continue to pursue regardless. And the wrong for you man will quickly move on, so let him

The Elephant rock, Heimaey, Iceland

The first flower grown in space, a zinnia, bloomed on January 16th, 2016

@DrewNows Wayne's methods are mostly practical/technical while lacking in the area of spirituality. Perhaps that's the reason you stopped watching his vids. He's definitely a Stage Orange coach and those who are in higher stages of development might find themselves having outgrown his teachings as far as values go.

Perhaps you are empaths - you make yourselves (consciously or unconsciously) available to absorb other people's energy. Developing healthy boundaries and cultivating healthy self-love are two ways for empaths to stay clear of toxic influences. Observe, don't absorb.

Yes I realize all that and I stomached the Truth. You guys are just better with words than I am

The language break down makes it look like it's not the case, but we're talking about the same thing. Shifting perspectives is all still within the Absolute. Realizing that I'm both the screen and the pixels at the same time is what integration basically means to me.

Yes

Yes, there was complete and permanent disillusionment of the doer. The one that's typing this is but an imaginary form and sensations rising and disappearing in the void. Yet when I cross the street, I still navigate to not be hit by traffic. The language breakdown is quite a hindrance when discussing these things. But what I mean by integration can be described in Preetom's and Inlytened1's quotes below... as full circle

Resentment towards females stems out of resenting feminine part within yourself. It doesn't mean it's being gay. Everyone, whether male or female have opposite/complimentary energies within themselves. A lot of men are conditioned from childhood to suppress/reject/resent/deny their complimentary/feminine energy. Once you bring that out to your awareness and accept/embrace that part of you, the resentment towards girls will naturally dissipate. 'If Men Could Talk' by Alon Gratch is a good read if you want to explore this in more depth.

Would you elaborate? In my case after Self-realization I saw integration as almost necessary. Otherwise I wouldn't have been able to function in the Relative.

I think it can be both. Depending on how one's brain's wired, hormone levels, social conditioning, early childhood trauma issues, etc.

I watch his YT vids sometimes and from a female perspective can tell the guy knows what he's talking about. He digs female psychology and that's why his advice works. That being said, what he teaches is still a game and how to have an upper hand with a woman. But overall his material is still valuable for its purpose and the methods he teaches will give you results with getting women.

True. In the eyes of this beholder most of Hollywood 'hunks' are not even that attractive to me (Brad Pitt, Nicolas Cage, Tom Cruise, George Clooney, just to name a few). And some very average looking people who are neither famous nor rich I find quite attractive. Maybe my 'what I find attractive' radar is more tuned to a person's personality/level of maturity/their values rather than their looks.

@Maarten Leo is a young man, he looks nothing like what those pics show. And those snap shot images were randomly chosen and then altered. So I'm not sure if this is even something to be considered accurate. And, of course, ANYONE who is serious about their spiritual development is gong to evolve and mature as time goes on, and that would be reflected in their demeaner as well.

Thank you, that's perfect @Marinus

100% agree. Love = Being. Marinus is looking for a life partner, and I know you have one. What made you choose that particular one out of a billion others out there?

@Wekz I'm glad you left the toxic relationship. You're a strong person. There is a good book called 'When Pleasing You Is Hurting Me' by Les Carter, you might want to look it up. Hugs

Yes, this is God's love, it has no agenda. You can't fall in out of it. it's what is. I think @Marinus is inquiring into a human/romantic kind of love, though. But yeah I agree with your post above.

@Marinus Falling in love is brain chemistry induced activity. During the infatuation phase of a new relationship (which can last up to 3 years) we get bombarded by 'love' chemicals and this can be very deceptive. People tend to idealize the other person, put them on a pedestal, and this makes them blind to the real person in front of them. The reason we fall for someone is directly connected to our unmet needs. People want to be wanted to fill voids within themselves. This is one of the reasons co-dependency is such a common thing in relationships, when we look for the other to fill what we think we lack within ourself and think this will make us whole again. This is, of course, an illusion. A healthy relationship is an entity of its own, it's a circle that overlaps/shared with each individuals' independent circles. The two individuals' circles don't overlap each other, that would be enmeshment, which is not healthy. There is a great video on point in the relationship sub-forum I posted a couple weeks ago, called "If You Want True Love, Stop Doing This One Thing' by Jack Butler. Very insightful, highly recommend.

Yes, I agree

Watch his video about addictions

That pic was taken during a long walk in a botanical garden on a super sunny day in the fall. I had my sunglasses off and on. Didn't know that about the pupils, though, thanks for the info!