Natasha

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  1. Loved this talk and Eckhart's sense of humor Thank you for sharing!
  2. I do that too, and after everything gradually settles down, life goes on - you got to eat, make a living, go in the nature (I live by the ocean, so I often go there), interact with some people, etc. These are the kind of 'needs' I was talking about, not the addictive neurotic stuff Honestly, if I had a getaway from it all somewhere in he woods or mountains, I would do it. Even as a child, I preferred quietness and being alone. Less distraction has always been better for me. I just recently downsized, cleaned up my diet, don't have a cell phone, had my U-Verse cable turned off, got rid of some furniture and books that were just sitting around and taking space.. I'm making emptiness, both inward and outward, my friend. It's been really empowering to me.
  3. This is interesting: http://rationalspirituality.com/articles/Ken_Wilber_Ayn_Rand_Rush.htm "Wilber's concern is to affirm the ego, and transcend the ego, and preserve the ego while ceasing to identify with it and be limited to its worldview". Sort of echoes with what
  4. The split that Ant mentioned. Our mind would still have to manage the split between the reality and the dream. Unless one lives in a permanent state of enlightenment, which no one does. Wouldn't that create cognitive dissonance every second of living in this dual reality? The 3 solutions to resolve this conflict/ tension (according to Leon Festinger): 1) reduce the importance of the dissonant beliefs; 2) add more consonant beliefs that outweigh the dissonant beliefs; or 3) change the dissonant beliefs so that they are no longer inconsistent. Would Ken Wilber's integral spirituality fall into the first solution (like transcending ego vs ego death, etc)
  5. Cognitive dissonance - conflict resulting from incongruous beliefs and attitudes held simultaneously. http://www.instructionaldesign.org/theories/cognitive-dissonance.html Was wondering how this could be resolved once realized the truth of no-self. On one hand, knowing 'I' don't exist (non-duality), and on the other, dealing with this very 'real' body-mind construct (duality). Could this split in perception be the reason for so much pain and suffering.
  6. @Holdup Look for a girl who shares your interest in personal growth/ self-actualization. She can be sweet and all that, but if she is not serious about that one aspect of life, eventually you two will find yourselves on the opposite ends of the spectrum. Which usually turns an otherwise ok relationship into a miserable one. Ask some of the coupled men on this forum with unconscious partners, they'll tell you.
  7. Here' another good quote, "Death is the end of the illusion that there was someone" - Tony Parsons
  8. @Elton Watch Leo's recent vid on self-acceptance: http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-power-of-self-acceptance
  9. @ZenBlue Congrats on your achievement! I'm going no TV 'cold turkey', called my provider today and told them to cut the U-Verse connection off. Feels really good to have done it!
  10. @Dummy Rejection still hurts.. Old wounds, I guess.
  11. @Dummy Ayla had a special way that spoke to you. Sorry I'm lacking in that talent @Phocus You are great and much appreciated
  12. @Dummy What happened to Ayla? Did she leave the forums?
  13. @Dummy Letting go of fear and going for what would get your needs met could be one way to release pain.
  14. @Dummy Eckhart Tolle teachings helped me understand my 'pain body'. Here's a few of his talks and exerpts from his book that I found powerful
  15. Went to see Zootopia today and really liked its music track
  16. Steve Santagati, author of The MANual, a self-proclaimed bad boy, and an expert on relationships, answers the question if men can be monogamous, with yes and no
  17. Here's a cute clip by Eckhart Tolle about Facebook Ego
  18. This and also Leo's http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-exploit-people-to-grow-yourself
  19. @Bibi Learn to love, respect, and honor yourself first and foremost and how to be your own best friend. That healthy self-love and respect will teach you boundaries with others. Also, try to tackle any co-dependency issues while you're still young, because if you don't put a tight handle on this now and realize what drives the dynamics behind their/ your dysfunction (co-dependency is when someone's problems become your problems), your desperate seeking for approval and love will keep putting you all in wrong hands and places. You're an adult now, so don't be afraid to assert yourself and say no to others, including your parents. They don't own you. Hugs
  20. @The_Stubborn_One Good answer by the enlightened teacher https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8
  21. Good, I already do the things you mentioned, including consuming fresh organic food from the earth and breathing mineral air while meditating by the ocean. Will be also starting yoga classes this summer.
  22. @Henri I don't take drugs or have panic attacks, but still would like to know how does one protect the aura from leaking and allowing other entities gain direct access to it? Also, how do you feed your aura the vital energy? Thank you.
  23. From the little I know, once a nerve is damaged, it can't be repaired. And our brain consists mostly of fat and nerves. Would this explain why those who use drugs that cause damage to the white matter of the brain (front lobe), can't develop the third eye?