Natasha

@BHL_20

There are many good YT channels about narcissism, made by both men and women. It's a very good skill/ tool to have to be able to identify and counter-act a toxic person. Those who are not equipped to do that, will invariably and unnecessarily suffer. Knowledge is power

@jes I take 500 mg of Glutathione daily, it's a potent anti-oxidant that counter-acts free radical damage (including from excess sun exposure) and helps skin stay even toned. Best value I've found and purchase is L-Glutathione by Earth Natural Supplements, Amazon, around $30 for 200 capsules.

Not mine, but she has good info on narcissism and is quirky to watch

Enlightenment is the end of the energy of seeking. It suddenly can vanish, suddenly be there no more. And what is left when the seeker collapses is completely unknowable and can't be described. But you could say in words that all that left when the seeking ends is which is already free-flowing unboundness

"The ego is not a thing, but a subtle effort, and you cannot use effort to get rid of effort - you end up with two efforts instead of one. The ego itself is a perfect manifestation of the Divine, and it is best handled by resting in Freedom, not by trying to get rid of the ego, which simply increases the effort of ego itself." "The very desire to seek enlightenment is in fact nothing, but the grasping tendency of the ego itself, and thus the very search for enlightenment prevents it. The perfect practice is therefore not to search for enlightenment , but to inquire into the motive for seeking itself. You obviously seek in order to avoid the present, and yet the present alone holds the answer: to seek forever is to miss the point forever. You always already are enlightened Spirit, and therefore to seek Spirit is simply to deny Spirit." "As Hubert Benoit said, it is not the identification with the ego that is the problem, but the exclusive nature of the identification. When our self-identity expands beyond the ego, into the deeper psychic, then even into the Unborn and One Taste, the ego is simply taken up and subsumed in a grander identity. But the ego itself remains as the functional self in the gross realm, and it might even appropriately be intensified and made more powerful , simply because it's now plugged into the entire Kosmos." - Ken Wilber

@Water Ken Wilber's integral school of knowledge recommend to work on developing your ego first in order to be able to transcend it. From that perspective, what you're doing makes perfect sense and could potentially get you ahead

@jes If you have to be around a narcissist, you need to learn a technique called 'grey rock'. I use it at work and in life in general, and it works great. Here's how: P.S. And no, you won't become a narcissist by doing these techniques.

Yes, but the body/ mind structure (ego) called 'I' will be gone for good. And that's what Tony Parsons was referring to.

I've been actually wanting to translate your material for some time, but didn't know how to go about it . Sounds like a fun project. Thanks for the opportunity

I'll look at it tomorrow. Is there any video in particular you'd like me to work on first or it's totally up to me?

I can help with translating into Russian. Just need to figure out how to do it first

@Cesar Peace of mind = being happy with what is

I actually looked at those images using Leo's 'thought flattening technique' and didn't experienced any phobia/ disgust. Nice skill to have

Most of those images are computer generated fake stuff, something you'd see at a special effects movie set

@AbhishekDarak @Canadian "Death is the end of the illusion that there was someone." - Tony Parsons

@abrakamowse I'd like to visit the place too.. next time you guys go, let me know.

@Falk Here's a good talk by Eckhart Tolle on how to deal with unconscious people: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lqr98O8QT3M

@Lorcan

@abrakamowse Abra, which ones in the group pic are you and Neil?

That's not what I meant. Balance is important. If you watched Leo's vid on minimalism, you'd see my point.

Thank you, any time

@jes Leo has a video library on how to overcome insecurities: http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-power-of-self-acceptance http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-judging-yourself http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-love-yourself http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-be-more-confident http://www.actualized.org/articles/self-esteem http://www.actualized.org/articles/low-self-esteem-in-women http://www.actualized.org/articles/understanding-the-authentic-self http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-caring-what-people-think-of-you http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others http://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-deal-with-criticism-trolls-and-haters

@jes You're making the right decision by setting personal boundaries with your toxic Dad . No one has the right to control or own you, but yourself. I know it's hard, been there. Feel free to PM me any time. Hugs

@Lorcan The stuff that seems unimportant that we learn in school build neuron pathways in the brain and expands our awareness. Education/ learning was one of the few items Leo listed in his must-have things in his recent video on minimalism, and for a good reason. That dead language you're talking about is part of your country's history and the 'father' of the language you speak now. If you're overwhelmed with your studies, try to un-clutter some of the other stuff out of your life - hobbies, hanging out with friends, family commitments, etc. http://www.actualized.org/articles/lifestyle-minimalism