About 6 months ago I ended a 9 year marriage. My ex cheated on me at least once, made out with several people over the 9 years and was always out till 1 or 2 in the morning despite my pleas for her to come home earlier. The experience was a blessing as it taught me to get out and be independent and work on improving myself. I think I've come a long way.
Having been separated for about a year and trying to figure out what that meant, I have been dating more than 6 months.
About 3 months ago I figured the dating apps were a numbers game. I had trouble getting second and third dates and being told I was handsome charming nice but not the guy the girls were looking for. I started going on as many dates as possible and ended up hitting it off with two different women in the same week. I told them both I was dating and not looking to settle down in order to gain relationship experience.
As time has progressed I have enjoyed spending time with both for entirely different reasons, although one seems like a more sensible long term choice while the other seems like the more volatile but very fun option. I've made the sensible choice before and ended up wishing for something more.
I've worked hard to be honest with both without providing details but both make it clear they want some sort of monogamous commitment and would likely cause quite a bit of drama if they knew I was struggling with this.
Basically I am stressed to the gills feeling like I am juggling these two and trying to keep word to myself (to take some time to be single)
Any advice on Reddit or a basic Internet search says to break it off with one however I thought this forum might have other advice. I've ended up in this situation by pushing my normal level of comfort- not diving headfirst into another serious relationship.
I'd love to hear someone's input on this!
