Sevi

@Annetta thank you baby? wish you could have joined us too... @Dragallur I haven't done it yet, I'll go for it this upcoming Sunday on june 4th.. most probably I'll be changing postures, for the first time I'm trying this? @Shin oh, I'm so happy Shin! So GMT18:00 as usual ? @Dodo@Shin

@Dragallur @Dodo@Shin I couldn't tag more than 3, but guys this Sunday, june 4th, I'll do 8 hours sitting, any tips for me? And anyone wants to join? Namaste?♥

In any type of performance anxiety, in most of the cases, it comes from putting all the focus and the attention on the self. You judge yourself about what you have and what you can offer, by comparing it with your ideal image/expectations about whatever the case. To deflate this intensity and the pressure, simply we shift the focus into something else than the self. The other helpful thought is to think that you just are gonna present/demonstrate/share what you've got, free from your expectations about the response you're gonna get. You might have a very intense desire to be accepted and loved by a woman; but the thing is the only love you can be so sure about is just your own love to the other. Generally the more you feel you are excepted and welcomed, the anxiety level starts to drop, but it's important to remember that, it comes from the quality of the connection and the communication within the parties. In this particular case, it is also important to remember that the other party is not male. This means a lot. I'm gonna use an analogy for this. In couple dancing, especially at the very beginning of their learning, males get so anxious to ask girls to dance and be capable of remembering the moves, using them in the right timing and also at the same time, leading the lady into her moves; and make her satisfied with it. So they start to think about what 'they' know, 'how much'moves they know, how 'they' are gonna 'control' the whole situation.. Where what women care is if they are gonna be asked by any gentlemen to dance, if the man looks at her while they dance and if he looks like he appreciates her, that's it. Women don't care almost any aspects that men consider important. And this difference about expectations from the situations, generally remains the same. When I teach couples to dance together, the guy gets so happy doing every single aspect right and then looks at his partner's eyes to receive some appreciation, then the lady gets so frustrated because he was just focusing on the moves and the 'achievement' but not 'her' ?. She is kind of right in her sense too, because all she wants to have him look into her eyes and hold her firm and tight, and sense that 'she is' the center of his attention; they really don't care if the 45°rotation of the medio corte was right? I hope this helps a bit to shift your mindset to be comfortably on the flow with your partner and let go of the unnecessary pressure. Lastly, as @TJ Reeves mentions, the interpretation of your sensations, or your neurological feedback from your body is a game changer too. Meaning: there is an experiment within two groups: one group is being educated that stress is not a bad or unhealthy thing, they learn about its gains and stuff; they learn the positive and helpful effect of nervousness in life; while the other group interprets stress and anxiety as a 'bad' thing; expected-ly, the first group's anatomy and bodily responses become way more healthier than the other group.

@Peace and Love very well said isn't it interesting that how our perception of the world/reality is goes through from very different filters! But yet how lucky we are to have the chance to re-build those filters, even maybe get rid of them for good

@Torkys thank you. How you lie video is a very helpful great work. Since you offered this idea, may I ask you a favor? Do you see any self-lies in these posts of mine? If so, could you point those out to me? Sometimes it is so easy to fall into self-deception even if you want to stay true to yourself. It's easier to see those, from an outside eye.. that would be very helpful to me..

@Dodo you to the point funny how we spend our time and energy to figure that simple fact out.. Park bench meditation so you are adding a new trend then

I'm in, today I'm late.. Anyone else meditating today? Mmm.. turning the attention inwards.. a beautiful thing..

Did this really happen? Very interesting.. I would be thinking about it for days to find out if it supposed to mean anything?

@Shin don't say so.. what about being so happy for getting that close? and appreciating your brain for doing it's job of careful protection to maintain your homeostasis so you can still physically exist to do more adventurous self enquiries? * at freaking 7 o'clock am, I'm trying to figure out the right way of saying things? ... it's job of careful protection of/to? maintaining/maintain your homeostasis Or ... it's job to carefully protect your maintaining homeostasis The second one seemed right, right now. What the fuck++?!&%!++ ? with love❤ Ahhah!!

@PetarKa on the other hand, you are completely right, because I almost can 'see' their judgmental/resisting inner talks; when the objectives in life and the perception of the life vibrate differently in people, that doesn't allow the individuals to create a unison.

I totally agree. That's one of the videos that I love the most. Without taking 100% responsibility sincerely, I think we would just delude ourselves, which I see a lot: for the sake of pd, everyone invents a different, creative way for escape the real issues. I think we fear pain, that can be one of the reasons. @PetarKa I don't give others any room to judge actually, it's not their business at all, maybe because of that idk, most of the people around me behaves.

I'm in. ? Hahah! I mean I was in? I've just seen that I hadn't submitted the post.. so being more accurate I am out right now? Wish I posted it on the actual time?.. (funny, I don't know why I care).. ok. Whatever. I wish a beautiful Saturday for everyone!!! Kisses and kisses and kisses and hugs?

No, I actually really love solitude, that's why this thing is contradictory for me.. what I see is I have hard time to acknowledge that loneliness; that I even allow myself to feel it. The thing is that I had worked on it before to overcome and I thought I did; seems that still I have something to share with myself.. thank you for your response@hinawashi , I appreciated it.

HA HA!! Go for it @Shin !! Get them to know their real-selves

@Peace and Love you are such a strong woman❤ thank you being open and give us some chance to feel you and understand you... yes I was enjoying your sharings too, you are very valuable for this forum. I respect the way you take care of your inner being with delicacy and honestly I'm happy that life freed you from a form of pressure. I tend to think that as women we kind of project that early memories of our relationship with our fathers (or father figures) on to the other males sometimes, I wonder what would you think about that?

@faith sure I will. There is no question about that. Till then just let the life happen, it's around for a little while you know I'm sure it knows what the hack it's doing?

@faith the kitty, nihilistic thinking itself, love you too. Myself included

... And I was contemplating the other day in the cool breeze of a morning, ... about existence... ...with these little water drops on my side... on this piece of a grass ... with this soft light beam with us... ... ...We didn't get it, but we liked it.. .... ...And we are sorry for the bird! ...

... ...A little bird told me that you've been nihilistic thinking... ... ....And I ate him.

@Peace and Love this sounds so beautiful and so romantic, I'm so happy for you... and I'm so happy that you're resilient enough to be back to the forum! I'd like to ask you something, if could be open to discuss what happened the last time, that would be a great chance to grow out of it altogether as forum members, but of course depending on the requisite comfort and the sensitivity level.. Because it can teach us little more about female-male social interactions, from a mutual actual experience of us. Much love ❤ Welcome back ❤

Check the benefits and the satisfaction you are getting from it, most likely it provides you some gain, so genuinely look what the hunger/need is for, then think about some other ways to supply it for yourself first, and then depending on the cause factor, you might like to find your way out, to be free from that as a second layer. Seems like you are trying to be the one who is controlling the dynamics of the interaction. That recalls that you want to be in charge, maybe so that you are trying to make sure that the other party is not abusing you, using you; or harming you in some format? Like; your father is like that, so you are trying to protect yourself from his offense? Or you're being like that too, so your father cannot score against you? Maybe? So, kind of you are reacting back to your father subconsciously in such settings and winning over him?

I have an account, and I didn't check it for quite sometime right now, and I'm kind of forcing myself to check it? It's definitely a very efficient and effective communication tool, it helps me to understand where the common conciseness is and to see the differences in different groups. To observe modern conditionings is interesting. I don't a tv and I don't watch news, but I like to follow happenings through citizens' filters, that's a quite interesting experience. And there is this strong resistance to it in general, like a kind of 'evilization' of it, makes me ask why. Why would we reacting back to that tool this much while in some format almost all of us are connected to it? Might it be because its mirroring effect of our habits of escape, or our way of ignorance.. because having the chance of seeing a visual evidence of a disaster or unlawful activities in an instant from a first hand observer, clearly doesn't live any space for us to ignore what's happening in the world. And happened recently was entertaining too, while I was watching some videos on YouTube, I started to have some facebook commercials? I didn't know that they were doing that, so interesting: commercials go like this: 'sevi, go connect with your friends! ' 'find your friends!' And I'm like: soo this is your motto guys, ha?! and you are really tracking the ones who are not involved... So they also work to keep people connected to it. Business is business, can I blame them??

This is such an interesting post actually. I don't know why but I felt uncomfortable to give my honest opinion of that I think it's a self destruction. Till this post I couldn't really name that sensation of mine, but that's really it I think. The article made me think about what tattoos represent in communication line in social interactions. First I found myself in a very judging position which I wanted to refuse right away; I saw I was forcing myself to be tolerant but I still continued to have 'opinions' then I said maybe I'm not that much of a tolerant person. And then I thought, if someone wears a tattoo, then that person (consciously or unconsciously) trys to tell something: there is a clear delivery of 'a' message (of course I might have been trying to protect my self-image of being tolerant too) so, they are already willingly stimulating opinions too.. ironically it can be expected that they might be upset with you that 'you cannot hold an neutral position toward the situation'. 1) I think it's a sign of attachment to something in the aspect of spiritualism; for consciousness work, it can lead you understand your root causes and your drive to your actions (even if there is a spiritual attributed meaning there) 2) it's and art for the tattoo maker, but for owner I cannot help but thinking there is something going on, and yes I do think that for some level that is self destruction 3) well? it is probably obvious right now, I don't have any.. I cannot imagine myself resonating with any drawings that long and that deep so they can be on my body I remember one artist explaining it as a life philosophy that to be accepting and coping what is around you, to be comfortable with it to live with.. but that idea is so far from how I experience my being.. Too long response for a simple tattoo idea? but it got me thinking?

Interesting. I couldn't wrap my head around measuring infinities though, I'm so programmed to think infinity as a sole presentation of oneness, I watched it twice? but still I couldn't shift the way approached? maybe I need couple of more rounds, ahah..

Sorry about being off-topic, @username you mentioned once you opened a major thread for Leo's resent videos, was it you? I'm looking for that major thread, do you know the title of that thread? Ok, thanks. No, it's not something important, I just didn't want to open an another thread..