metamorphose

Hey everyone so during the last few months I noticed a fear I hold on to. I‘m afraid of climate change and the general changes in the world following from how humans act and treat our environment. I know that in the end, it doesn‘t matter. However, I think I have to work trough this fear cause rational argumentation about non-duality and so on doesn‘t seem to work. I actually think my fear stems from my need for security. Any suggestions how to let go of this fear and work trough it?

Thanks for your reply, makes a lot of sense. Definitely want to do some research on that

Hi there I‘m 23 years old and technically fully grown (body wise). After the age of thirteen I remained the same height. The last 1-2 years I noticed an actual physical growth. As I couldn’t believe it I even asked 2 other people to measure me and validate what I seemed to experience. I am currently 4cm taller than 1.5 years ago and it doesn‘t seem to stop (another cm added during the last few months). So I wonder where this comes from. I started doing yoga about 3 years ago and noticed and extreme improvement in my self esteem and self worth, especially in the last 2 years. I wonder if those psychological changes also change my body. Maybe I stand taller or my spine is better aligned now. i just wonder if there is anybody else out there experiencing changes in their height

Hey there there was a time, like 2 years ago, I considered myself a minimalist. I still live pretty minimalistic, but I felt just alone by labeling myself I restricted myself if that makes sense. Anyway, that phase of decluttering was really important to me and now it‘s pretty natural for me to own and consume as little as possible. I surround myself only with things I need and/or really appreciate. The result is being more free, regarding time and money and a sense of appreciation towards myself.

Similar to what @okulele said, it‘s probably both. Your unique way of tapping into the infinite higher intelligence.

To answer your question shortly: yes your thoughts are full of shit. You are basically giving yourself validation by talking down on others. Cause objectively there is nothing better or worse in the way you than in the way the festival attendees „decide“ to act.

Hey y‘all I‘ve been thinking about smoking pot lately and wanted to share my thoughts and maybe get some input. I smoke pot on occasion, meaning once every other week with my friends and sometimes on my own. I like the idea of purifying myself, like spiritual purification, not doing any drugs at all (not even coffee) and so on. Not there yet at all but I‘m very conscious about my consumption. But on the other hand I really like smoking pot. Not in the „Yeyy let’s hang out and get stoned“ kinda way (not gonna lie, it can happen tho) but in the „I had some of the deepest insights about my own psychology when being on pot“. So what essence of my thought is: can you purify yourself and still smoke pot? And if so, would it mean to stop smoking pot with my friends cause it can lead to the „getting high together“ mentality? Or is it all just deception? I also have to say when I smoke with my friends, I feel a deep connection I am otherwise not yet able to open up to. Looking forward to your opinions and experiences

Hey, I‘m pretty sure this is a common topic: it‘s pretty hard for me to find likeminded people. I feel that I have a deep desire to build some form of community (or just a small group of friends) with whom I feel truly connected but I struggle to do so. I‘m pretty outgoing and have friends, so I have no issue with getting to know people in general. It‘s just either I feel it doesn’t klick - so it stays an superficial acquaintance or the other person (when it‘s a guy) has a romantic interest which I‘m not interested in. Do you have an idea where I can find people that are open to build long lasting, non-romatic deep connections? How did you manage to do so?

Hey, I was doing my first 10 day vipassana. It blew my mind and I plan to do it again next year. However, now I wonder how I will continue my meditation practice. Even though I feel great doing vipassana, I‘m not sure if it‘s giving me the results I really want/need. (Considering the fact that I only have a limited time frame that I can dedicate to my spiritual practice.) Any recommendations? Did you continue doing vipassana after your retreat? edit: When I practice vipassana, I really feel connected to my body but I don‘t seem to be able to quiet the mind even for a short time. Shutting down the mind felt easier at other techniques.

Thanks for all your replies. To be honest, I wasn't expecting that most of you would suggest not to cut her out. Probably you are right. I would really hurt her and in the end, even though I don't feel like I love her as a child loves her mother, in the end I would hurt myself by seeing her suffering. I will defenitely cut the contact for a while, just to see things clearer. After that I will try the approach of loving and ignoring. I guess I will grow a lot by doing this, it's a real challenge loving someone who hurt you a lot in the past. I feel, even though I forgave her all the things she did, I could never open up my heart again. If that makes sense.

Hey there, I'm seeking advise on wether I should cut my mom out of my life or not, and if so how to do it. This may sound rather drastic, but I'm going to explain the situation and maybe you can give me some ideas Background: My parents are divorced, I grew up with my dad (I live on my own now), my little brother stayed with my mom (he still lives there). I always had a good relationship with her, until the diversion. Everything was screwed up and I was really hurt as I felt left behind. She went to live with another man, thinking I will eventually follow her which I never did. My dad had no idea how to raise a child (i was 11 at that time) but we made it work out. I learned a lot and got independent at a young age. Growing up my mom and I stayed in contact, I visited her a few times a year but we never had something I would call a good relationship. When I turned 18 I found out that my mom "stole" money that I actually should receive when being an adult (it's about 12k). It's a complicated story, the point is: My dad and I were always low on money, I could have really needed it. (Luckily I now managed to get a really good relationship with money ). I confronted her, she never really showed guilt, said she needed it, never payed it back. If I wanted to, I could have forced her to pay it back by law, but I was like "Ok, it's just money. This will screw up the relationship to my brother and generally all the relationships within the family". I ended up forgiving her. As the years went by, we managed to get a better relationship. We talked about "girlsstuff" like boyfriends and whatnot, she visited me at my place, we went for hikes and whatnot. It took me a while to realise, that being with her is really draining. She is the most negative person I know. Starting from negative self talk to talking negatively about others (I will never to this, I am just like this, He has a weak personality,...). She does it to an intense, you sometimes start to believe it. I can clearly tell that my brothers shy, insecure and dependent personality has a lot to do with how she raised him. Generally speaking she accuses a lot, never sees her own failures. She plays the role of always being "the woman who has a lot of bad luck and everybody is doing bad to her" when in fact she's just not able to manage her life. She never had a job for longer than half a year, cause then "everything was to much", "they treated me bad at the job",.. a ton of excuses for not having to work (in the country I life you get money when you don't have a job and she's clearly taking advantage of it). It sounds like she is an bad person. But I truly feel that she loves me from the bottom of her heart and she is generous and kind. She just has a really messed up personality / life. I'm not angry at her - no more. I'm just not sure if I am still willing to deal with this - sorry - shit, just for the sake of a "good" family life. I know her, she will talk bad to my brother about me, as she always did (up to the point where I don't have a relationship to my brother at all. He is quite suggestible it seems. Not to a point where he doesn't like me, it just seems he can't open up to me at all) I hope what I wrote makes sense. There would be so many stories and things to tell, this is just a little overview of the relationship to my mom. Any advice? Oh and english isn't my first language, so please excuse any mistakes

Thanks! The thing is, I have a lot (not too many but not too little) friends. With some of them I share a very deep, unique relationship. I can talk to them about everything and feel fully supported. I don't have a romantic relationship tho, but don't really feel as if I even would want to have one. I feel as if the feeling of being out of place lays much deeper. I guess it has a lot to do with my childhood. I have been adopted and moved to another country at a young age where nobody would understand my language.

Hey there, just watched Leo's video "40 signs that you are neurotic" and did the assignment . I wrote down my top 5 neurosis and their root cause. What I discovered is that they all can be traced back to the feeling of not really belonging to anyone or anything and feeling somehow out of place. I don't conciously experience this feeling but after some contemplation I can clearly see that this is the root cause of my top 5 neurosis. However, I don't really know how to "fix" this. Of course, strenghtening my confidence will help but do you have any other ideas? Thanks a lot!

I think that reducing is way harder than cold turkey, but I guess that depends. In the last years I tried to quit about 10 times - each time I felt even worse and always started smoking again 1 or 2 days after I "quit". But after some time of self-actualization it suddenly clicked. It felt so easy to quit, I even had fun doing it! The biggest game changer was that I realized that you can't really respect and love yourself and simultaneously poison your body.