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She told me she decided to drop out of college soon. What a shocker. It's like a punch in the face. I wouldn't wait next time to make a move on someone I like. And I would be assertive and get rejected instead.

Yep. Sounds good! Will tell her tonight! Thx Man!

Blackpill is what happens when men become too feminine. As a healthy man, you want to fuck the world, yeah, sometimes you could just sit back and surrender. But what kind of a man sobs and complains about things being unfair? You go and get it. Blackpill men are the least masculine.

Lmao

These are the scenarios I see, tell me which one sounds good for you. 1. You work hard to get a job earning enough money to move out. Become independent. Somehow convince your parents for you to move out closer to the job. Get a job preferably in another city. And then, once that happens, you are an independent woman who could do as she wishes with the money she earns, and make your own choices when it comes to dating and relationships. 2. You introduce your parents to the person you want to marry (Maybe your bf if you have one) or you could convince them to allow you to choose who you want to marry. All this is only realistic if you are ready and want to marry someone now or in the near future. The way Indian parents bring about potential grooms is that it's someone's son. Someone they know. So there is this pressure of socially accepting the proposal. And then everyone gossips and judges. It's too bad. I totally know it. So, it makes sense for you to tell your parents what kind of man you want to marry. So that they stop pressurizing you to marry someone you don't really want to marry. Don't adopt the victim mindset. Take 100% responsibility and assert your decisions if need be. This is your life. Create the life you want to create.

Hi @Preety_India. I am an Indian guy. And I totally know the kind of pressure you might be going through. It helps to know - 1. How old are you? 2. Do you have your finances in place to move out on your own? Even in a big city like Mumbai, you could live with nearly 20000-25000 INR/Month, and then obviously, you could upgrade by earning more. 3. Do you have a bf or someone you love or someone you have in your mind that you want to marry?

Thanks man! Coincidently I was reading this thread too!

I see only the top 10-20% of men getting laid in the future with 80-90% of young women. The average guy will probably be jacking off to porno or being friend-zoned. The girl next door has 10s of guys in her DMs to choose from. The hotter the girl, the nearly unlimited choice to filter from. And she would obviously choose the most attractive, high status and valuable men and sleep around with them cause she feels like. How many DMs do average guys get from girls? Zero. We got to build from scratch, have game, money, and everything on point to start getting noticed. Those who get that they need to become those men who women want, to sleep with them, it will probably take 5-10 years starting now. And the way money works, not everyone can be high status and rich. So, it's like a zero-sum game for men. Women don't want average guys. Men don't want unattractive women. It's very brutal. Women may show that they are sensitive to a man's emotions, and comfort him when he is vulnerable, but they're likely more attracted to the guys who are not vulnerable. There are outliers but the last 10-20 years of social brainwashing can't reprogram our instincts on what we find attractive. I predict that most men are more likely to be virgins, more likely to be considered unattractive by women, more likely to be ignored, more likely to simp, stay single for longer times, pay for sex, and settle for girls who won't be loyal to them. The top 10-20% of men will have true abundance of women throwing themselves at them. You already see women thirsting for celebs and rappers. It's clear where this generation is heading. I predict that more women are likely to have more sex than men starting very young at 18-19, have higher standards, even consider sharing the alpha dog, more likely to expose themselves on Instagram, more likely to divorce, and less likely to stay loyal and have stable relationships. We have unleashed true human sexuality or liberated it. And it's brutal. It's not going to go soft on us. What can i say? Become the top 10-30% of men or suffer a bad dating and sex life. There's no way every guy on the planet will have a good sex life or a stable loving relationship. Impossible.

Lol. Let's grind and do our best!

Yeah, Maybe

Lol, okay!

I realize how I for me, is a thought and a feeling, and if pressed hard, I would put my hand over the centre of my chest, and say- I, and this resonates. When I ask - Who is aware of this I, there's just more awareness of what's going on now, I hear the birds chirp, the sound of the vehicles, in short, I just get redirected to square one, which is where I started from. I am expecting a shift in awareness, not knowing exactly what that would mean, and I am tired of listening to teachers, it just agitates me and I don't get good vibes from many teachers. While bathing, I said in frustration, I don't want to be enlightened, but then, I became aware that the I in the statement, was just a thought mixed with a feeling of conviction of being a separate someone. I is just this inner voice and thought, mixing feelings with it. What is enlightenment? What is it? What am I supposed to find? This I, it's just identified with thoughts and inner voice and feelings, and projects itself as a self. In its absence, there's just everything which's happening. There's no shift in awareness as all these Gurus talk about. What's going on?

Or it's as simple as this: I, infinite intelligence, the source of all things, talked to me. I was the one who had rebelled, and who was cut off from the source. I, the infinite intelligence perfectly described everything about me. Then I asked- If I am you, then why did i cut myself off from the source, why did you cut me off from the source? I, the infinite intelligence, replied- In my infinite intelligence, I wanted to experience this life you lived, and in my infinite intelligence, I am calling you back home. I asked- Why then did you create me, cut me off, if you are now calling me back home? I, the Infinite intelligence replied- I never meant for it to last, I cut you off (Created you) with the intent that you'd live this life and one day you'd be back home delighted. And it's not you are low and I am high. I am you. And you are me. Take over everything. You are everything. And I am you.

From what I understand, introspection is about feeling inwards, which I confuse with being mindful of my feelings, and of things around me. Do I introspect using a journal? What do I introspect about? My logical mind wants a straight A to B to C method for doing it. While what I understand by contemplating, using a journal, is writing down a question, and letting the answers come to me? Thinking about it. I'm confused. Also, are these the right questions to contemplate? 1. How should I live my life? 2. What is the meaning of life? 3. Why do I suck in my dating life? 4. Why am I not a success?

The situation is this: I am in Second Year of MBA in India in one of the reputed management institutes (so it's not like the situation is entirely hopeless), but she failed first year, and has to repeat the entire first year again. But she's gotten into more trouble, cause she was barred from placements. In India, the colleges provide placement as well. So the uncertainty for her is very high, and she sees no point in studying MBA again, if she gets no placement, but doesn't have any other plan as well. She's fortunately, quite young, 21. But she said she doesn't remember what she did yesterday to herself, and is talking about doing bad things to herself. She has some hope that the placement committee would allow her for placements, but I talked to them, and they were like- No, we have already decided. How do I even talk to her? She's paid the first year fees again, which is nearly $12000 US dollars, which is huge in the Indian context. Also, the job market in India is quite harsh. And she fears she might not get anywhere in life. Yesterday, I dreamt that me and her were sitting on the edge of a building and she lost balance, and fell from a height, I jumped to save her as well, but then it didn't end well. I have no idea what I could do to help her. This might not even be the right subforum, but I am typing in panic.

This is about my life Your life. Since you are me. So, we fell in love with women, and went to them, with an abundantly loving heart, and every time, we were stabbed in the heart by the woman we loved We don't fear being stabbed and we could go again to them We just don't see the point of going to them. We have to break the cycle. In a counter-intuitive move, we would not go to women and stop trying altogether We would not expect anything of them We would consciously let go of them and let go of who we had become We are the shiny hearts that glow in the dark They come to us And when they do, we'd love them as we always did So, in this one life, we all had, I fearlessly stopped trying and let women come to me All we are doing, I am doing, is letting go of being a man. Of being a human. Letting go of the identity I built for myself. This has only freed us. I don't know anything about the life ahead of us, but trust me, we are deeply grounded in being. Just that these feelings get overpowering sometimes. And not to forget, it was a woman I truly loved, who truly awakened me to love, let me tell you, the last time we met, and it will be the last, she hugged me tight, and I hugged her, and I closed my eyes, and I let go of everything, I couldn't feel my body, nor hers, just warmth. Just an expansion. Just love. Much love to all <3

@Harlen Kelly Since it's lockdown here, can't actually meet girls. So, all I am doing it contemplating about relationships. I could slide into DMs on Insta. But that's not meeting girls in real life. I'll have to wait regardless

@Lucas-fgm @The0Self @bejapuskas @Harlen Kelly @Shin @Chew211 I have read everything y'all wrote, and I am stuck Here's what I understand from what you all told me, tell me If I grasped it: What I am doing won't work. Keep trying on women, but with more awareness, respect women for who they are, and understand the nuances and subtleties of attraction. Even if I fail, that wouldn't be from lack of trying, and from suppressing my desire for women.

My god! This is a game of cat and mouse just like enlightenment! Thanks a lot for trying to explain things from your perspective

Selflessly as in without a self, wouldn't I find love in just being? There's no trying there If women don't come to me, their loss haha. Men need to be earned as well ! So who tries?

I love attention from women. I might need it too as a man, Not denying that. But I'm not willing to play mind games and strategize to get love and attention. This has only made me more deceptive, sneaky, and manipulative. And trying to get women, and pursuing them, has only made women uncomfortable and creeped out in the end by me, as a man. It becomes a struggle. Instead, I am consciously letting go of my identity as a man, and grounding myself in being. I feel the love there. Of course, the feelings and needs come back from time to time, but I have seen what they lead to.

There's no contradiction. I did cry and I did lose faith in women as a man. But being a man is an identity I can wear and take off, like changing clothes. I know in my direct experience that identities are fluid, and I have the direct experience of being a glass bottle and a ceiling fan. So, I don't think there's any contradiction at all, only the appearance there of !

Since y'all are discussing women, let me pitch in, as a 25-year-old virgin (I don't like labelling myself, but it's to establish the context) living In India (that's again for context too) It's now my responsibility to put things across as they really were: All women whom I found attractive and who were in my social circle, at some point of time (I'll now generalize these 10-15 women), it was so much smoother in the beginning, but things would really turn around when I started falling in love with them, i would feel the need to text them how I feel, and ask them out more often than they usually hung around with me, all this was in line and authentic with how I really felt, but somehow, women didn't like this. All of them, in some way or another, would withdraw, and some reacted violently asking me to fuck off or stay away from them, or it would be as subtle as not contacting me ever again, and some would just leave me on read. So, being myself, and expressing how I really feel, in the moment, was a big turn off for all these women. Something I couldn't wrap my mind around this. I felt hurt too. When i was 21-22, i tried pickup too, in pubs and nightclubs, was surprised that someone who is absolutely new to this, could get numbers and dates, i did 50-100 approaches, but in the end, i had no gf, or a girl who was really attracted to me enough to stay around. I would watch RSD videos when i was trying to pickup girls, but then i stopped, but i wasn't aware of redpill until I was 25, i absorbed that content like a sponge, but then months later, I could see how it was toxic, and it was making me manipulative and sneakier. Not in line with me seeking to just be. And merge with reality. So, I am saying no to redpill. I have never even kissed a girl in my girl. And at this point - I'm like- Fuck this shit! Fuck women! I have tried enough, and apparently, women don't like me or are creeped out when I try and when I express how I feel and what I feel. I give up. I won't try anymore. If any of you women feel triggered by what I said, I'm sorry, but this is how my life has been. And I am just bringing out my perspective.

I faced what is the spiritual ego. And it claims superiority over others. It just mixes with the Old school devil ego I had, and the combination becomes so dangerous and toxic. I had my first awakening a few days ago, and it seems like the ego's pants are on fire, and it's running around and burning other people, I only realize later that I am harming others psychologically through stupid ideology and setting their ego's on fire as well. Not respecting their boundaries. I took this step to disable all social media and delete contacts of girls I might want to text. Cause I have seen so much toxicity. I want to distance myself from all people. Instead, I will let people come to me. I don't need to go around chasing people. Meanwhile, I will work on myself, the ego, to make it less toxic. Any advice?

You are right. Redpill made me a toxic, manipulative, deceptive, lying, sneaky person. Ideology like this only harms men. Even if they get laid with this ideology, it's not worth it. For they don't see women for what they really are. I'm not claiming that I know how women really are. But the perception is distorted when you begin consuming Redpill in the hopes of attracting women, cause previously you weren't able to All I need to do as a man to learn and attract women is contemplation about relationships, respecting boundaries, and backing off when I get a feeling that they don't want me to come any closer (I still fail at this and it concerns me), becoming more aware, taking chances when you feel like their body language is inviting you or you have the intuition to do so. And even if after all this, I fail to attract women, then to simply accept it, rather than spin a story about how I am the victim, and the world is fucked up and unjust, and how women are a certain way, this is just a grand narrative of the ego. And it becomes perverted very soon. I don't even need to attract women. Yesterday, I just sat with my eyes closed and was just being. And I imagined, and it just happened, some good sex with someone I might like. It was so vivid, it was real. It's that simple.