Cameron24529

I didn't know where to put this, sorry. But my friend and her mother keep offering to buy me food like twice a week and it drives me crazy. I'm a 20 year old college student so I'm always starving and refuse to buy any food besides cheap crap like ramen or hot dogs. So it's nice to have someone buy me something nicer every once in a while but for some reason it drives me insane. I always say no no no don't buy me food I really don't feel comfortable with you spending money on me like this. But they always will not take no for an answer and will harass me until I come with them or tell them what I want to eat. It's not even just food either they are always offering to buy me random things. I went grocery shopping with them once since my friend needed a ride there and they wouldn't even let me pay for my own damn groceries, they paid for $50 worth of my groceries. I needed a new car battery once and the father offered to buy a $100+ car battery for me since I drive his daughter around! It's not like I'm poor or anything I literally have $5600 worth of savings right now (although it's college money I refuse to spend). I had 5 friends over my house once and my friends mother offered to buy and pick up subway for all of us. No one else seemed to have a problem with this?? Are these people insane and should I feel uncomfortable? If not, why do I feel so uncomfortable? i know this hardly seems like a genuine problem but it keeps putting me in a horrible mood every time they do this and I'm hoping someone could offer some advice.

@Allinthemind yeah I do feel jealous and I'm still in love with her

@Ayla We do have social workers but we also have an RA on each floor that can ban people from their floor if there is a problem. So next time she comes up if she refuses to leave immediately I will get my RA and hopefully he will ban her from the floor. I'm not sure what to do about her making me jealous all the time tho she is always posting things on Facebook or Twitter and I can't help but check her page and see she's posting things about guy. I also don't know what to do about the blackmailing with the "abuse" she has already told a few of my friends and they got very pissed at me and came to my room to yell at me. I explained myself to them but I'm not sure if they understand. She has been texting me today threatening to post pictures of her bruises on Facebook and talk about how I abused her if I don't talk to her.

Yeah I know there's some more problems with that though. She will say she's gonna go fuck a bunch of guys if I don't do something (talk to her, be her friend, cuddle with her, it's always changing). Just today now she added something, basically if I don't do exactly what she wants (hanging out, cuddling, fucking, basically fwb, and listen to all her problems [all her problems are wanting to get back together]) then she's going to tell everyone that I abused her. Which did not happen but she's twisting me pushing her out of her room and playfully punching her arm or leg sometimes as abuse because she does have some bruises.

Hey guys this is my first post I am currently a sophomore in college and live in the dorms. Over the summer I broke up with my girlfriend because she is a very negative, angry, and emotionally driven person and we had nothing in common. The problem I'm having is she lives in the dorms with me, just a floor under me. She is completely obsessed with me and will randomly come up to my room and immediately put me in a bad mood. I have worked on staying calm around her but after a while it seems impossible. She gets so mad and is always yelling and hitting me for no reason. Then I will ask her to leave my room and she will argue until she finally leaves and then will threaten suicide if I "don't maker her feel better" (which really means saying something that she can twist into thinking we will get back together.) She has coerced me into having sex or cuddling with her multiple times and has even gotten me to be fwb for a while. I did not want this I felt trapped and forced. I really wish I would never have to see her again, she is bringing me down emotionally and makes me not even want to leave my room for fear of seeing her. Any suggesttions for mentally dealing with this? All I've tried is willing myself to stay calm which can only work for so long .