I think a majority of fights in a relationships are due to a lack of power and control of oneself in a relationship. I have just finished watching Leo's video about handling strong negative emotions and I can see that in my relationships I have not allowed myself to fully feel my hurt to a point where I could then have a rational conversation about it with my partner. I also think miscommunication is the corner stone of any conflict and I know I have held back from expressing my true feelings about a situation because I have preferred to stay in a bad situation with someone rather than deal with the possibility of the feelings of rejection and being alone.
I also think all relationships are an interplay of dominating and submitting or if you like leading and following. I know in my household I am the dominant force behind the washing up and interestingly enough everyone is very willing to submit and let me do it.
