Prabhaker

@SOUL I don't believe dictionaries, I trust words of enlightened masters. I have learned it from life.

Probably you were entering into 'Dark Night Of The Soul', you missed the opportunity.

You can be real seeker of truth, now the worldly desires can't distract you !

The difference between belief and trust is immense. The two are very different; while belief is directed towards an object, trust is an inner quality. The man of trust simply lives out of his trust; whatever happens does not matter. If he is being deceived continuously, then too, it does not matter. Nothing happens to his trust. His trust is something invincible, and that gives integrity. A man who trusts simply trusts. And each time he is cheated because of his trust, his trust is not destroyed, it is strengthened. Trust is one of the great qualities of your being. Trust is your inner growth, your consciousness at its peak. A man of trust. it does not mean in what he trusts, but he trusts; that is his innocence. Even if he is cheated because of his trust, that does not matter, because trust is more valuable than any small thing that he has been cheated of. You can take everything from him, but you cannot take his trust. Growth is a by-product of the inquiry into truth. Believers never grow, they remain childish. And remember, to be childlike and to be childish are poles apart, they are not the same thing. It is beautiful to be childlike. The man of trust is childlike and the man of belief is childish. To be childlike is the ultimate in growth; that is the very culmination - consciousness has come to the ultimate peak. To be childlike means to be a sage, and to be childish means to be just un-grownup. A real man never believes; he learns. A real man never becomes knowledgeable; he always remains open, open to truth. And he always remembers that "It is not that truth has to adjust to me, but just vice versa: I have to adjust to truth." The believer tries to adjust truth to himself, the seeker adjusts himself to truth. Remember the difference; the difference is tremendous. One who believes, he says, "Truth should be like this, this is my belief." The believer cannot even trust his own experience. Even if truth is revealed, he will reject it, unless it fits with him. He is more important than truth itself: truth has an obligation to fit with him. He is the criterion, he is the decisive factor. This kind of man can never know truth; he is already prejudiced, poisoned.

What if the guy is rich, smart and good looking ?

@Beau When someone touches your face they are showing true care for you, as they have to be delicate when doing so. If the guy is unknown, not acquainted with you, then he is uncivilized.

Meditation for me is not a child’s play. It is a deep transformation. Those who are in search will need infinite patience. Patience means hope, trust, and without any hurry, without any impatience. Impatience simply shows that you are not trustful. The journey is vast, and you cannot be in a hurry. If you are in a hurry you will never be able to move to the other shore.

People who are anxious for results often miss the moment of action itself, because the moment of action is now and here, while the result lies in some future. So those whose eyes are set on the future are bound to miss the present. If you are concerned with the result, if the result is what is important to you, then the action itself becomes meaningless. Then you don’t love your work, you love only the result. Then you don’t give your whole heart and mind to action – you do it reluctantly, haphazardly. If your attention is focused on the future – and you are where your attention is – then you can not be totally in the present. And action lies in the present. And that which is done inattentively cannot be deep and total; it cannot be blissful. Desire for results is a distraction from action, so give up your attachment to results and be totally in action. Leave future to the future, to existence, and be totally in what you are doing now and here. This question arises for so many reasons. One, you are not really working. You are just deceiving yourself. You are playing tricks with yourself. You are less concerned with what you are doing and more concerned with what is happening. If you are really doing it, you can leave the result to existence. But our minds are such that we are less concerned with the cause and more concerned with the effect – because of greed. Greed wants to have everything without doing anything. So the greedy mind goes on moving ahead. Then the greedy mind asks, 'What is happening? Is something happening or not?' Be really concerned with what you are doing, and when something happens you will know it. It is going to happen to you. You need not ask anyone. One thing more: whatsoever you are doing, do not think that results will be coming in the future. If you are doing something real, results are here and now. In inner work, if you have meditated today, results are not going to be tomorrow. If you have meditated today. the perfume of it, howsoever little, will be there. If you are sensitive you can feel it. Whenever something real is done, it affects you here and now. So meditation is not just a certain thing which you do for one hour and forget. Really, the whole of life has to be meditative. Only then will you begin to feel things. And when I say that the whole life is to be meditative, I do not mean to go and close your eyes for twenty-four hours and sit and meditate – no! Wherever you are you can be sensitive and that sensitivity will pay. Then there will be no need to ask, 'Am I progressing or not?' Only with this capacity of being aware of all things happening around you will you develop the capacity to feel what is happening within.

Words are parts of reality, but unnecessary chattering of mind is pathological. Truth can only be known , when you see reality without obstacle of words.

Words create gap between you and reality. Before learning a language , your every experience was a wonder, now everything is blurred. You can witness your thoughts, witnessing is separate from thoughts, mind. It is a technique towards meditation.

As mind exists, it is not meditative. The total mind must change before meditation can happen. Then what is the mind as it now exists? How does it function? The mind is always verbalizing. You can know words, you can know language, you can know the conceptual structure of thinking, but that is not thinking. On the contrary, it is an escape from thinking. You see a flower and you verbalize it; you see a man crossing the street and you verbalize it. The mind can transform every existential thing into words. Then the words become a barrier, an imprisonment. This constant transformation of things into words, of existence into words, is the obstacle to a meditative mind. So the first requirement toward a meditative mind is to be aware of your constant verbalizing and to be able to stop it. Just see things; do not verbalize. Be aware of their presence, but do not change them into words. Let things be, without language; let persons be, without language; let situations be, without language. It is not impossible; it is natural. It is the situation as it now exists that is artificial, but we have become so habituated to it, it has become so mechanical, that we are not even aware that we are constantly transforming experience into words. The sunrise is there. You are never aware of the gap between seeing it and verbalizing. You see the sun, you feel it, and immediately you verbalize it. The gap between seeing and verbalizing is lost. One must become aware of the fact that the sunrise is not a word. It is a fact, a presence. The mind automatically changes experiences into words. These words then come between you and the experience. Meditation means living without words, living nonlinguistically. Sometimes it happens spontaneously. When you are in love, presence is felt, not language. Whenever two lovers are intimate with one another they become silent. It is not that there is nothing to express. On the contrary, there is an overwhelming amount to be expressed. But words are never there; they cannot be. They come only when love has gone.

Meditation starts by being separate from the mind, by being a witness. That is the only way of separating yourself from anything. Watching is the key of meditation. Watch your mind. Don't do anything - no repetition of mantra, no repetition of the name of god - just watch whatever the mind is doing. Don't disturb it, don't prevent it, don't repress it; don't do anything at all on your part. You just be a watcher, and the miracle of watching is meditation. As you watch, slowly mind becomes empty of thoughts; but you are not falling asleep, you are becoming more alert, more aware. As the mind becomes completely empty, your whole energy becomes aflame of awakening. This flame is the result of meditation. So you can say meditation is another name of watching, witnessing, observing - without any judgement, without any evaluation. Just by watching, you immediately get out of the mind.

Answer you can get by doing consciousness work, it will be existential. It can't be verbal , in language.

Not that one can reach without seeking. Seeking is needed, but then comes a point when seeking has to be dropped. The boat is needed to cross the river but then comes a moment when you have to get out of the boat and forget all about it and leave it behind. Effort is needed, without effort nothing is possible. And also only with effort, nothing is possible. Every experience can't be communicated in language. I used metaphors.

Meditation, as such, needs no technique at all. But techniques are needed to remove the obstacles in the way of meditation. So it has to be understood very clearly: meditation itself needs no techniques, it is a simple understanding, an alertness, an awareness. Neither alertness is a technique nor is awareness a technique. But on the way to being alert, there are so many obstacles. Man has been gathering those obstacles — they need to be removed. Meditation itself cannot remove them, certain techniques are needed to remove them. So the work of the techniques is just to prepare the ground, is just to prepare the way, the passage. The techniques in themselves are not meditation. It is not a question of technique. You don't have to do anything. Meditation is something natural, something that is already hidden inside you and is trying to find its way to reach to the open sky, to the sun, to the air. But the mind is surrounding it from all sides; all doors are closed, all windows are closed. The techniques are needed to open the windows, to open the doors. And immediately the whole sky is available to you, with all its stars, with all its beauty, with all its sunsets, with all its sunrises.

Enlightenment happens, you can't make yourself enlightened. Doing consciousness work will not make you enlightened in near future, this journey is very long and vast. Doing consciousness work will prepare ground for enlightenment. Without doing consciousness work your ego dropping can become a breakdown, whenever it happens.

No, only a ripe fruit falls. Ego is part of natural growth. But that doesn't mean that you have to remain with it forever. It is a natural growth, and then there is a second step when it has to be dropped. That too is natural. But the second step can be taken only when the first has come to its crescendo, its climax, when the first has reached its peak. Ego will drop. It can drop of its own accord also. If you simply allow it to grow and help it to grow, there will be NO need to drop it. This is very deep. If YOU drop it, ego has remained inside. WHO will drop it? If you think YOU will drop it, YOU are the ego - so whatsoever you drop will not be the real thing. The real thing will be preserved and you will have thrown something else. You cannot make yourself egoless. Who will do it? It happens, it is not a doing. You grow into ego and a point comes when the whole thing becomes so hellish that the dream is broken.

I agree. They are the greatest problem. Looking at the world with a bird's eye view, a strange feeling arises that we have everything – just we need one humanity. And the most dangerous thing is that this preparation for our suicide, by all the nations, is in the name of war and victory – all childish and stupid. You can see it in the way nations respect a piece of cloth as their flag and if it is removed their whole glory and freedom is lost – you cannot insult the national flag. This is the situation of human retardedness. It is a simple fact that the earth is undivided. What is the need of so many nations, except that it fulfills so many people's ego trips?

There are people who practice celibacy for few weeks and then suddenly they lose all control, and over indulge in sex/ porn. This sudden over indulgence makes them feel depressed. They swing from one extreme to other extreme. A person who is living a healthy sex life can't feel depressed or 'tired of life'. I always advocate transformation, not repression. Through a understanding , a healthy approach, one can achieve true celibacy, instead of swinging between few weeks of sexual repression and then few days of over indulgence.

There are states of depression in which a person can lose interest in sex completely. Some anti depressants can kill your sex drive. There are monks who force celibacy by eating less, sleeping less, doing minimum physical work. Do you think they become energetic, alive ? No. A person can drain his all energy if he is mad after something , for example - earning money, he becomes insane. A person can drain his energy in fantasizing about sex without indulging in porn and masturbation. A real celibacy can only be consequence of meditative life, else sexual repression can't be sustained for very long periods.

Only a person who has negative thinking is attracted to positive thinking...A person who has no negative thinking will not think of positive thinking... Only a person who is not well thinks of medicine...isn't it. So to become a positive thinker u have to be a negative thinker first...or else who cares about positive thoughts...there is no need. The issue is the negativity...and what u r trying to do is basically replace negative with positive...and there lies the whole problem of understanding. The solution is not in bringing the positivity but getting rid of negativity...become bereft of negativity and u won't need any positivity. NOW, WHY DOES ONE HAVE NEGATIVE THINKING... HOW DOES THE NEGATIVITY BEGINS... FROM WHERE DOES IT ENTER. YOU WILL BE SURPRISED TO KNOW THAT All YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING IS BECAUSE OF THE POSITIVE THOUGHTS THAT U STARTED WITH. Please look in your life and see how the trap gets formed. Positive thinking is always future oriented...pertaining to what u expect out of ur actions...and all your action is motivated by goals. These goals are part of ur positive thinking and aspirations. You set your standards or goals or objectives and the time frame and the whole road map as to how to reach them. There is a zest when u plan all this...one is in a positive bent of mind, full of enthusiasm , energy. Now when u plan it's only ur mind that works...but when u act or execute there is ur body and so many other factors which are involved... parameters which r not in ur hands, which ur mind doesn't know about at the time of planing . The whole approach of planning is grossly optimistic rather than realistic. It is based on what u desire and expect rather than what u may or may not get. And when u start working or moving towards ur goal u realize u are failing so many times... u realize there are so many compromises involved...so many struggles, so many bad decisions, so many pitfalls, so much tiredness...so much fight, and on and on. Gradually negativity comes...the whole momentum of energy takes u turn bcos life is not what u had imagined while being in the optimistic frame of mind...there r obstacles...the outcome is generally not what u had anticipated...and the same positive attitude turns negative. That is why this world is full of negativity despite all the talk and lectures on how to do this and that, how to be positive...how to be happy....and all the "how to manuals..." The more the talk of being positive shows the prevailing abundance of negativity...the more the talk of positive thoughts indicates the presence of negative thinking in the life. Remember this: Whenever you are depressed, wait for the moment that the depression goes. Nothing lasts forever; the depression will go. And when it leaves you, wait – be aware and alert – because after the depression, after the night, there will be a dawn and the sun will rise. If you can be alert in that moment. you will he happy that you were depressed. You will be grateful that you are depressed because only through your depression was this mint of happiness possible. But what do we do? We move in an infinite regression We get depressed. Then we get depressed because of the depression: a second depression follows. If you are depressed. that′s okay! – nothing is wrong in it. It is beautiful because through it you will learn and mature. But then you feel badly. "Why do I get depressed? I should not get depressed." Then you start fighting with the depression. The first depression is good, but the second depression is unreal. And this unreal depression will cloud your mind. You will miss the moment that would have followed the real depression. When depressed, be depressed. Simply be depressed. Don′t get depressed about your depression. When depressed, simply be depressed. Don′t fight it, don′t create any diversion, don′t force it to go. Just allow it to happen; it will go by itself. Life is a flux; nothing remains the same. You are not needed; the river moves by itself, you don′t have to push it. If you are trying to push it, you are simply foolish. The river flows by itself. Allow it to flow. When depression is there, allow it to be. Don′t get depressed about it. If you want to remove it sooner, you will get depressed. If you fight it, you will create a secondary depression that is dangerous. The first depression is beautiful, God-given. The second depression is your own. It is not God-given; it is mental. Then you will move in mental grooves. They are infinite. If you get depressed, be happy that you are depressed and allow the depression to be. Then suddenly the depression will disappear and there will be a breakthrough. No clouds will be there and the sky will be clear. For a single moment, heaven opens for you. If you are not depressed about your depression you can contact, you can commune, you can enter this heavenly gate. And once you know it, you have learned one of the ultimate laws of life: that life uses the opposite as a teacher, as a back-ground.

There is no word equivalent to 'divorce' in Hindu culture, till death they live together, but love is not there. Those who don't suicide, do not live either. 'Everlasting love' is fantasy of teenagers.

Till self-realization we need efforts. Self-realization is reaching to your center. Many religions have believed that self-realization is the end—for example, Jainism—you have come to your ultimate truth. It is not true. Full enlightenment happens when we drop all efforts.

Most of the people belong to two categories , Unconscious Dishonesty and Unconscious Honesty, both can hope, if the live consciously. Those few who are conscious , are already saved.

Are you talking about speaking truth all the time...or are you talking about being honest towards your husband or spouse or your boyfriend/girlfriend..... Are you talking about being honest while paying your taxes correctly or are you talking about telling truth to your children all the time........ What are the dimensions and paremetres of honesty that you carry in your mind. Is it about being honest to your country or your friends or to your parents or towards your employer ......or being honest towards your workers. Is it about being honest when you see that it is going to kill you or somebody....... If you get entangled in these frivolous ideas, u will always be confused....no clarity. And if you move without clarity you will be divided and gradually schizophrenic......you will have multiple standards in your life and you will always be confused as to what is right and what is wrong......you will begin to manipulate things and situations most of the times....... Please observe a little fact about life.........you came first into this world and then others came into your life...and then gradually associations happened and then gradually conflict of ideas and morals and thinking patterns......isn't it... So first things first..... you came first and you should be important to yourself and hence you should be honest to yourself.....that is the first ground rule as far as my understanding and experience is concerned. "Be honest to yourself " and rest all will fall in place.....everything....and if you are not honest to yourself then no matter how much you try to make others happy, you will always be in trouble and others will always be in trouble because of you. And this could still be confusing as to what "being honest to yourself means" Being honest to yourself means that "happiness is always right and don't do anything that makes you unhappy , that creates hesitation in you , don't do anything that doesn't go with your nature". Most of the times we are in a situation where we are doing things because of people around us.....where we feel that we should do or not do something because it will make somebody important in our life unhappy...we feel almost compelled to do it rather than our hearty wish..... No, be honest to yourself and let others not decide for you , don't do anything because somebody will be upset if you don't do so ......or else you will always be confused.....what to do,what not to do........ There are relations every where and there are complicated situations because of them .....sometimes your spouse would want something and your parent may want something else.....sometimes one of your child may want something and the other child may want exactly opposite of that.....and sometimes you yourself would want to do so many things which others will not want....it's going to be one hell of a compromise to your nature if you are always playing to the gallery .... And please understand that you are not going to be always getting favourable outcome bcos of your instincts.....but you will never blame anybody else for your miseries and failures if you are honest to yourself in listening to your heart . Here, generally we are blaming others for all the problems in our lives. So be very clear...if you are not honest to yourself ...you will never be able to be honest with others....it's not possible....at the most you will be diplomatically correct....BE AWARE THAT YOU ARE NOT BORN TO ACT TO OTHERS WISHES....YOU ARE HERE TO LIVE YOUR DREAMS AND DESTINY..... Honesty to yourself will set you free......free from others and gradually free from your mind and conflicts.......... Honesty is not about being truthful all the time.....it's about being true to yourself, to have the capacity to listen to your heart rather than the calculations of your mind......