selva

HI, I am 22.For the past few weeks i have been addicted to online video chat especially to meet girls.I spent my entire day and night in websites looking for girl company.There are lots of free websites like omegle,wowchat,coomeet,shagle.But in these websites also there are such limitations for free user.you have to be premium member for enjoying these sites.I spent lots of time but didn't workout,my curiosity made me pay a huge amount to become member.Then i had a chance to meet girls,had chat with them even dirty chat also,this excited me to stay all day here.but over a point of time my premium subscription also got ended.But still my subconscious wants that excitement,every minute my mind thinking about how to get a girls contact and meet her in skype like that. Its hard for me to come out. I lost a huge money even though i need money,i spent here. I masturbated several times.(lost my energy) The thought behind these excitement is TO GET A GIRLS SKYPE MAKE A FRIEND AND HAVING A ENDLESS CHAT. Due to this i am not able to focus on things in my life. ANY ONE HAD EXPERIENCE LIKE THIS AND COME OUT OF IT.STARTED SELF ACTUALIZATION NEED A HELP

Chennai,Tamilnadu,India

@Leo Gurahow to get my illusion mind to reality.My mind is full of illusion and fantasy thoughts ,not related to reality. Its hard for me to do things in reality.How to overcome this.

bro i also faced same problems during my college.Make friends with good learning student.Hangout when you are free, also join him when he prepares for exam.

"THE PEOPLE WHO SUCCEED HAVE MOMENTUM.THE MORE THEY SUCCEED,THE MORE THEY WANT TO SUCCEED AND THEY FIND A WAY TO SUCCEED.SIMILARLY,WHEN SOMEONE IS FAILING,THE TENDENCY IS TO GET ON A DOWNWARD SPIRAL THAT CAN EVEN BECOME A SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY." -TONY ROBBINS For the long time i am trying to create a positive momentum in my life.For instance, Usually i wake up late,so first i decided to wake early for a week.First two days i'll do it,next day i'll not,fourth day i will and next day itself i can't make it.Again waking late continues then one day i will decide to make early,max 4 days i will reach after that again i fall back.Actually this kind of activity has created a momentum itself.I decided from day 1 of this year till now i can't make it happen atleast for a week.So how to bring the negative momentum to zero and then create a positive momentum.If i succeed this for a month consistently without any single day it will be great achievement for me.ANYBODY OVERCOME SIMILAR SITUATION,SHARE YOUR TRICKS AND THE PERFECT KEY TO HAVE IN MIND FOR ACHIEVE SUCCESS. THANK YOU

@Aamir King thanks.Finding life purpose will take a long period.Right now what i need is taking steps in current situation that is getting a job because its already late due to my bad mindset.

I finished my college one and half year before,during my college days i was totally depressed.Actually i dont express myself too often and that introvet kind.People arond me was very active in all activities.I just tried to copy their behaviour,but that didnt work.I was not able focus on my studies too.Its hard to tell the emotion i had undergone those days ,i feel lonely always, eventhough friends are with me.It was like hell,always felt living in a dark world.I am not able to understand whats happening to myself.Still i used to hangout with friends every place they used to go,but that dark feeling is always with me.I decided to do something on my situations.After thinking about whats going wrong,i came to know that my perception of reality is totally silly.My mind is full of illusion thoughts not related to reality,not having the common perception that everyone has.From there i started doing work on myself,doing meditation ,watching self help videos,jornaling like that.After finishing college i was at house not going anywhere ,slowly i got out from that dark feeling.Now i am FEELING POSITIVE , understand things and decided to move forward.So I decided to focus on my CAREER.The first thing i am gonnna do is get a job because its already late,so practically i can move out of my house get in touch with people and my minds also stays in reality.After that i will work on other areas of my life.Like this i planned,but in the process of searching job itself i feel like lot of things to be worked.Everything is interelated,SO MY QUESTION IS WHERE TO FOCUS,HOW TO KICKSTART THE WHOLE PROCESS,i am confused.Now i came to a point where my mind is wide open to LEARN GROW EXPERIENCE life. Please suggest your view and ideas. THANK YOU

Yes, I have taken acupuncture treatment for once a week every month.I had stomach problems before,after this treatment i feel better.My body gets energy and i feel active.