Spiral

What constitutes high value is determined by society

Friends is actually my weakest point in life. I have friends, the shallow type you just go out to have drinks with or have lunch together. It been like this for about 9 years. The only close friends I’ve had are girls who were actually interested in something else than friendship. Here some take aways. 1. With guys you need to have activity that the two of you do(assuming you’re also a guy). Typically this is something like going out for a beer once an every two weeks. Gaming also works for instance. 2. Some things will make you unattractive as a friend. Take care of your hygiene and wear nice clothes. Try to look as nice as you can. Also avoid talking about odd stuff. I have a colleague at work who constantly talks about aliens and conspiracy’s. Might work with some who are into that, but most people will not approve. Also get out of your house as much as possible, internet brain is awful. 3. You need to invest in friendships, ask people to do things with you. Go to meetups. But also be ready to cut your losses if someone is not interested. 4. This one might be a bit unpleasant but you also need to offer something to someone. I know a guy that’s not really my type of dude but he always gets invited to things because he brings girls. Some people are funny, some people are rich. Some people organize fun events. However be careful not to be taken advantaged of. 5. Lastly and most importantly. Passion and suffering is the secret sauce of friendship. A lot of people make friends in the military because you suffer together and thus grow closer. This applies to work also if you have a terrible boss for instance. Passion works the same way, if you are both passionate about something it’s a lot easier to become friends over it. I realize that many of these examples might not be super relevant if you are in school.

Rather than watching a bunch of videos I’d recommend you practice in person. Practice makes perfect.

Having a healthy workout routine is good for you. You don't have to go overboard of course and become a bodybuilder. Building muscles to a reasonable degree has many advantages, especially as a guy.

You already are immortal, although this is the wrong subforum for that

Stop contacting her and don’t be friends

If your work is good enough you find that most people will work more than needed

Perhaps you should consider marrying someone?

Men allowed it to be legalized, but I suspect that’s not quite what you mean.

I don’t see you why two 15 years old can’t sleep with either other. That’s how I works in Sweden

Don’t focus on women, that’s a trap. Focus on yourself and women will come naturally. Think of it like getting a job, it’s better to have a great cv than trying to trick the employer you are better than your cv indicates. Getting in shape and great physical health is a great start.

Haha I like this one

Passion and suffering is the key to real friendship. Meeting up for a pint is nice but typically doesn’t lead anywhere meaningful P.S I’m awful at making friends so take my advice with a pinch of salt.

@something_else Yeah of course. I consider promiscuous sex unethical in general. Whenever you are using people as a means to an end, you’re acting immorally.

@actuallyenlightened If I wanna sleep around and live in a big city. I try being anonymous, you can give false name(or none at all) and restrain from providing contact details. I don’t however.

I’m probably not going about this in the right way. I buy none alcoholic beer(sneaky style). I just don’t wanna have the conversation with my friends.

I completely agree with you here, but I’ve never really understood the appeal. Do you know the reason?

Assume you are always wrong to some degree. The human mind isn’t capable of fully understanding reality.

@shree Happy wife, happy life. That how it works unfortunately. It’s boring and you don’t care. I get it, I also couldn’t care less about those things. However relationships require work to work out.

I don’t have a good time with other people when I’m in a bad mood. Others don’t enjoy my company either. If it’s serious I would cancel and maybe try next weekend instead at least if it’s a first date. First impressions only happens once.

I have gone there with gay friend of mine. While I really had a fun time, I wouldn’t go there without none-straight company.

What’s wrong with pretty women? Or hot women? You seem to use the terms interchangeably.

It’s a matter of preference. It’s usual in business. It can be a wonderful thing, for the shamanic archetype not so much.

I find it sad that lasting relationships is kinda rare and that so many kids have to grow up in single parents households. Like I was.

Only a poor product or service requires marketing.