Spiral

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  1. Good, this is how dates are suppose to be, hopefully you will be able to be like this always and forever
  2. 1. If she really rejects you, don't try again. 2. If you want a girlfriend, don't go around kissing girls randomly, make them earn it. 3. If you don't want a girlfriend and just want to be promiscuous, don't care about what girls think of you, but make sure they know what you are after, aka don't be fuckboy. (I would recommend trying to find a long term relationship, but you are young so i will not expect it of you) 4. Girls like decisive guys make a plan and stick to it, but if it makes sense to be spontaneous do that. Good luck and have fun
  3. That's pathetic, don't you have any sympathy for other people at all? You are not special at all, you just happen to get really lucky.
  4. Haha, why do these threads so often escalate into insults or even get sexual?
  5. If it from a stranger or someone inappropriate, creepy... regardless he probably likes you.
  6. We do have certain biologically decided character traits that can differ from person to person, but otherwise not really, it's mostly based on our past.
  7. Emotionally not all, but I am secretive about my past. I have been burned before, so I'm very picky regarding whom I tell certain things.
  8. I don't follow a specific pattern. Wake up at 09.00ish Works out and meditates, basic morning stuff) and waste time 12.00 cooks/eats lunch 13.00-16.00 studies uni stuff. 16.00-23.00 spends time with friends/girlfriend (dinner at 18.00ish)or have a look on the forums/youtube. 23.00- ??.?? Have "swedish fika" with one/two of my foreign female friends or study or have movienight or girlfriend. Repeat.
  9. I don't care much for enlightenment either, i meditate, learn and i try to grow. Would i happen to get enlighten because of it, well i would not complain. That's awful
  10. “Happiness is not about what the world gives you - happiness is what you think about what the world gives you." -Google Executive
  11. A method i like to use is, being selfless without anyone knowing, this way you avoid people whom try to use you.
  12. Have you tried it? Currently in a relationship so i would feel bad if i registered.
  13. Have sex out of love and skip the porn. Even being promiscuous is better than porn, but i would recommend doing neither.
  14. It's a REALLY important part, but only regarding the mentally aspect, in other word it really seductive from a primordial aspect (I.e. sexy) If you got it and take care of yourself (physically),than yes it's probably enough for most women/girls. Even i find detachment really appealing for both friend and partners, but i don't know if i like men are sexuality/romantically attracted to it. I can imaging some responses might say that "but looks also matters", yes of course they do but confidence and detachment can overpower looks to a big degree making it a really powerful addition to any men's arsenal of traits. But being desperate and insecure is really unattractive regardless what you look like.
  15. yes , unconditional love is mostly about empathy and sympathy, have sympathy (or pity) for him, for how his life must have developed to make him this way. Healthy and happy people don't treat other like this. This is a insight you can't simply read about, you must experience it yourself to truly understand, preferably by self observation. If you fully embodies unconditional love you will be unable to feel anger or hatred towards other people regardless of what atrocities they commit, forgiveness will be like breathing.
  16. While i agree with @Arkandeus , you can practice these teachings in other situations that are not crucial to your future. Bring in up with the student union, or possible some authority figure. Awful if it effects you learning negatively.
  17. Naww the universe is predetermined anyways, it's not alive and therefore got no any desire for optimization. But there is more to life than this universe, a much older thing, eternal in fact. It is perfect, infinite and even conscious.
  18. Studying is best done in up to 45 minute intervals, then a let's say 10 min break and then repeat. Studying for hours on end, will give diminishing returns. If you start to procrastinate use the 3 second rule get back on track. How long have you meditated for, and to you have a concentration practice? Monkey-mind is a fierce beast, that can take a long time to tame.
  19. Does not matter at all, I like to put them on my knees.
  20. Ascetic by the following definition "a person who leads an austerely simple life, especially one who abstains from the normal pleasures of life or denies himself or herself material satisfaction"- Dictionary(2017)
  21. For me gaining responsibility was a big factor in growing up, when you are still a child, you don't have to take things seriously because you'll be fine anyway. But when you're an grownup you have to, or you'll be living on the streets(metaphorically). You have to in other words be completely independent and preferably have to build everything from scratch (i.e. not be spoiled). Traveling alone might also help, preferably abroad.
  22. Consciousness exist regardless of time and space, yet contains all possible universes , timelines and objects. Yet is infinity small in regards to size. Q:You know what else has all these prosperity in science? A:"Things" that resides in the 10th dimension.
  23. @Steph1988 @Flare Guys.... Don't fight about this, there is no point, neither of you is going to change your mind anyway.