Spiral

Not a big fan of dreads and I mean if I want someone serious I wouldn't pick someone with dreads. That might just be a stereotype but I think it a very common one. If you ask yourself why you find her unattractive you might, be able to find more solutions. Or is she so physically unattractive that there is nothing she can do. I have a friend in her late 30s that have a similar problem, age is an important aspect. So your friend better find someone soon.

What do you open up about and why do they think they are not compatible? If you just throw all your problems at them all at once people get discouraged. Also if you bring up a lot of personal development early on, people tend to be a bit suspicious. I would advise against it.

For me working on improving my social skills, naturally got me in contact with girls. I was like a the biggest nerd ever before, so it's absolutely possible. Getting comfortable touching friends and family in a friendly/playful is a good start. It's also creates lots of opportunities for jokes and for you to have a good time. So getting comfortable a around guys and family will make you more comfortable around girls too.

Near the wall so I can use my phone while it's charging No but good old fashioned missionary.

I've had this problem for quite some time now. The problem: I meet new people, make friends with them, both of us open up and have a lot of fun together. But at some point we run out of things to talk about. We have already talked about the our past, our problems and our plans for the future. We have talked the about romantic/sexual interests we have and a large variety of other topics that both interests us. But then what? Now it's like we can only talk about things that happen today or "plans for the weekend" so we end up talking less, hanging out less and eventually stop completely. I have a strong habit of just talking one on one when I am with a friend of mine, not really doing anything. I mean we could go out parting but if we do, we mostly just walk there and go back together, at the party we talk to new/other people. This could be the problem but shouldn't it not happen to everyone at some point then? For me this often happen in less than a month. What's going on here, where do I mess up?

@Shakazulu Hairloss is genetic or due to stress. If the hairloss is genetic it's happens because testosterone is convert into a growth hormon, the one responsible for facial hair growth. If you are genetically, lets call it "allergic" to this hormone you will lose hair on your head. Look at you family member do they lose hair? If not you are generally safe.

Online dating? Or go to the library to study

I can try that, normally I just talk about whether or not we liked it. As for hitchhiking, How to make people want to give you a ride?

It can't just be me who get irritated when people are slow to respond, especially if you ask someone a question. Now I get it sometimes you don't know and might need some time to think about it or something. Even I recognise that I'm not the most important thing in their life and so yeah fine, perhaps the person does not want to text me right now. Thing is though if I asked someone if the want to say partake in a celebration or event and they don't respond within a reasonable amount of time I might ask someone else and then the original person gets upset because I "changed my mind". Simple solution: Write " I'll get back to you shorty" or "I'll think about it" or something. Also do you consider it rude to end conversation early with for instance "Alright, Good night". I say stuff like that all the time so just curious.

@HII Yes you are right, but for me watching a movie with or without a friend is kinda samey. I'm just sitting/ laying next to them quiet watching a movie. The other persons doesn't really add to the experience, sounds harsh. Expectation might be if it's someone I wanna cuddle with. As for hitchinghiking yeah that sounds interesting , never tried that. Any tips on how to get people to help you out?

@George Fil That sounds expensive

@Sid Morris Yeah probably

I eat oatly, it's oat replacment for dairy, they have everythink from to milk to creme fraiche. Stay away from soy, unless you want to change gender into female or as a female get health problems like breast cancer.

A headset with built in toothbrush, stupid but original. Think of a problem you have, that think about a way to fix it.

Whether or not someone deserves something, I think is poor why to think. No one deserves anything. You make your own reality the way you want it.

So there is this girl that I hang out with quite often, we watch movies, cuddle and so on. So a few days ago er did that but this time it was different, I kind of felt like I was on clouds. Very strange sensation. Now I'm normally very cold and I've never had any feeling for anyone before. But I kind of want that feeling again, I assume I need to be with her again to get it? Don't really have any desire to sleep with her, if that makes any difference. She is really hot though. Is this a crush or I'm a just curious?

I don't know for me it feels like most people that I meet are like this, we are all in your early 20's, student parties and weed-smoking is the norm around here. A lot of the times people aren't even aware that they are hurtful, or they don't think before they speak. Now I wish I could say that looks don't matter to me, but that's not the case. I'm not attracted to most people in general, adding character traits just makes it more complicated. Perhaps I'm spoiled. But it not like I focus on peoples flaws, I just don't feel any attraction towards them. One think I do judge are people like this(googled it): This is really unappealing to me, yet I can imagine "normal" guys won't care.

Well for instance if I meet a girl and after a while I find out she is smoking tobacco/weed regularly.(I don't at all) If my intention is simply friendship i'll think: "oh well that's unfortunate but, it not a big deal, it won't not hurt our friendship" But if it a potential partner I would think "That kind of behavior is not what i'm look for in a girlfriend, not to mention all the health issues". Now let's say she is rude to other people(not me), even when unprovoked. i'll be like: "I don't like that and it's really unattractive but I suppose it could work anyway" If someone does not respect my time by constantly being late or taking days to respond to a simple text, I also tend to get annoyed. Girls who make fun at others expense or have drinking problems are out. Every girls I've found attractive within the last 3 years have all had at least had one of the mentioned character traits or been taken. My ex did not, but never fell in love with her. I got "anxious" when we broke up. Not really sad but had a difficulty sitting still for ~ two weeks.

Work out, go to bed the same time every night, don't view screens 30 min before bed.

Me when I do noFap and is single: First 3 days is the same. Day 4 I started to get anxious, I don't like the feeling so I just get laid(because that's not cheating right?). That's not sustainable so I relapse. In other words I can't do noFap if I'm single. Does the anxious part go away?

@Alexo45 Well I do still socialize but it's getting harder especially with all the growth I've had. I never find anyone I really feel like I have something in common with. Now I would not stop hanging out completely, but to be honest spending time with other people is kinda a waste of time. Romantic partners have some potential I guess. In one evening of partying you can achieve a lot of things especially if you can include the morning after. Sure it can be fun but there is no real benefit long term.

Learn some tantra, practice it with her. Practical things is clear to the untrained eye. She will see the potential.

Please do not have too much faith in horoscopes, it's not not necessary lies. But don't believe in them blindly.

Make sure you to give the impression, that you care and take care of yourself. This is a very important part. But be careful not to over do it as you'll look insecure if you do. In other words make sure you get your (facial) hair all nice and clothes in order first, but don't overdo things like perfume etc. It's (almost) always better to be clear about what you want out of the conversation. You can start by just wanting a good time talking to someone new, for instance. I don't mean you should tell them though, but try to make it clear non verbally.

Well I do it to make sure I spend time with people that add to my life. You going to be the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with and all that. I don't want to spend time on people who I know won't make great friends or people who's priorities in life are completely different. So if someone in my eyes has drinking problems and finds sex to be the most important thing in the world, I'm not that into being in a relationship with them because of that. It's not like I can change them anyway, so I try to find someone else.