Spiral

I can really resonate with this, sorry to hear that about that, that's really unfortunate. Perhaps the rest of us should keep our "cult behaviors" to ourselves.

Tried it but never got into to it, felt strange and forced. (During sex)

Guys don't go to a restaurant on the first date,she is likely to say no even if she likes you, grab a cup of coffee at a local cafe or something . If you have a spend a dollar or two who cares? I think you can afford that. Here is a trick, the more you give the girl the possibility to easily leave, the more likely she is to hang out with you. So even if you don't think about it and by accident block her exit she is more to want to leave. Or if it's awkward to leave early as you mind find it in a restaurant. @Emerald What if I have every intention to pay, take out my card and is about to pay and then you offer to spit the bill? Should i take you up on your offer? To some degree i also feel like if you want to help out, you deserve a chance. i'll explain further if a girl asks me out(that happens in Sweden) and insists paying even thought i offer to spit the bill, I will feel like I owe her something. If I want to go on a second date with her then fine ill just pay that one and it's all fair and square. But if i don't i would feel strange "rewarding" her with sex as that is probably not her goal. Some girls even get absent if I offer to pay, I find that anti-aphrodisiac. aka certain feminists.

From what I've heard from my female friends is that guys they friend zone are: Guys they cant get but enjoy hanging out with. Guys that they are interested in but the timing is off. The most common reason is that they are not attracted to the guy sexually and/or romantically but they are fun to hang out with. Girls love cuddling, so cuddle with them if the girls finds you likable enough to hang out with you. Don't even try think about going further then cuddling.

Custom thumbnails is something I strongly recommend, I made this one and my video is horrible but the thumbnail gets you attentions. So people will watch it and you get views so more people watch it and so on.

Everything bad brings along something good. Looks to me like insecurities are somewhat good for your health, i'm not and can never motivate myself to go to the work out. But do hope you're able to resolve it.If nothing else at least suffering makes you stronger.

I tend to be honest generally all the time about how I feel about things, but you can always pick your words carefully. So instead of saying, "I don't like this" you can say "this not really my type of food, but i'm really grateful we can have this dinner together" In a positive way. If whoever cooked ask how I feel about the food.

I do sometimes have this problem especially if we recently had an argument and i tell have or something complete genuinely that i wish them a good time, they would assume that I was being passive aggressive or something. it's annoying because you cant really show it via text.

@spicy_pickles This has more to do with your confidence and need for people to like you, rather than being selfless. I can absolutely see why you might come to that conclusion tho. My suggestion is to decide once and for all that you'll stop and create a new social circle, it's a lot more difficult with people whom are used to have you that way to accept you changing. Hope things work out for you, it's a frustrating problem.

Guys let's all go live in caves and eat berries like the good all days.

wow man we don't need truth, we just need to think we got it. Does it really matter if a or b is right if believing in either equally makes you happy etc?

Don't watch porn, that helps. Also just because you are horny does not mean you should masturbate or get laid, Body wants pleasure -> get's horny -> body connects pleasure with being horny -> body is always horny. Go outside that also works, either way you can't masturbate there. (Or shouldn't)

Back story A few years ago I had extraordinary interest in other people, literally everyone. Now this I admit was due to me being friendless and incredibly lonely at the time. Now i'm I suppose a bit spoiled in term of social circles, but I've lost something very profound, I don't listen so intensely anymore. I do listen and IMO very well but I don't care as much as I did before, nor do I enjoy it as much as before. Now don't get me wrong, I'm a very social individual and I normally spend a few hours a day "one on one socializing". But I often find myself getting bored if I've known the person for a long time, it is as if we run out of things to talk about. This is especially the case if I hang out with them basically every day. I have found a solution but it is horrible one, if you hang out with crazy neurotic people, you know the weed smoking, alcohol and sex addicted kind. You never really get that bored because there is always something crazy happening. But of course as i'm sure you can imagine, this is problematic in more ways than one. Question What's your take on boredom? How to be less bored in general? My take on it, you're neurotic and so you want to get distracted and if something/someone is not distraction you enough, you get bored.

I'm not doing the Lp course, but I would find it difficult to admire someone if there weaknesses really makes me not like them. Even if I find that they have some quality I like. Say the are really successful but rude or something.

Nose breathing.

Thanks, never thought of the maturity angle regarding this topic. I'll try it out.

How do you optimize boob massage(boob squeezing or what it's called) for the sake of pleasure of the receiver. It is bad to focus more on one, or? I'm a newbie here, never put much thought into it. Or is it kind of "meh, it's nice and guys like it, so why not let them do it."

@smd Well hey, to each their own. I personally enjoy gossip or talking about sex or whom a girl is having sex with. Hope I did not seem angry or degrading, haven't eaten yet

@smd You don't get me at all, nor my problem. I'm not interested in sexual or romantic relationships with the girls i hang out with, because I already have a girlfriend. Normally it's girls that pick whom they hang out with yes, unless you are that "godly alpha". Now am i gonna call myself that? no, but on the other hand I've never been rejected in regards to friendships or whatever else girls has to offer. I only enjoy female company and therefor only makes friends with females, the problems is separating nice ones from the kind ones in a quick manner to avoid spending time with the ones that make for poor friends.(Or girlfriends for you single guys) Now yes sure I like teasing and so on, so "hot but not kind girls" have some value but I get bored of them eventually, so having kind girls around is good long term(As they make better friends).

If anything his ego died

@CreativeInertia He is fine

It's fine, feel like a waste of time tho. Don't you have better things to do?

I have something, maybe not really your field. But I've recently befriended a lot of new girls, problem is that I've made the rockie mistake of pick the hottest ones (not the best potential friends), pathetic and stupid I know but I could not resist. Anyways so to my question, how to (preferably quickly) separate nice and kind girls/women.Latent lover or not I do think men will appreciate telling the two apart. Huge turn off for me, if a girl I like is acting really poorly to other people. Nor someone I want to take care of my future children. By nice I mean someone that acts kind not because they are but because they think they'll get something from it or have been told growing up to be kind. Otherwise talking about long distance relationship would be something I would like. How to make them work and so on(if possible)

Are are some really practical things. Eat good Work out Pick you friends wisely. Not the most fun, but the once that really support you. Avoid porn and excessive masterbation. This way growth becomes a lot easier.

To grow you must first suffer in both muscle and mind.