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Can absolutely imagine that works. Another fun way to do it is to, flirt with them and let them have a good time with you as a costumer and then leave you phone number in the paying thingy. This way there is no awkwardness at all she can make up her own mind if she wants to contact you are not. In my country girls are often a bit outgoing so maybe I'm just biased. I have never done either though, it's a tricky situation.

@Emre Do you feel like she is cheating or do you think it's in poor taste?

"Deserve" People deserve whatever they get. It's not up to you to pick who deserves what. The only people who deserve to be told are the ones who are. Maybe just semantics for you, but thinking someone does or doesn't deserve something is going to backfire on you. If you think someone does not deserve something you haven't forgiven them for something they have done or is currently doing. Now you may not want to help or have someone as a friend of yours but that's a completely different thing. P.S. This guy deserve this

@Ilya Meditation and inner work. It depends on what specific need you have.

@SFRL @WaveInTheOcean I'm not saying you shouldn't have sex, I agree you should be able if you want to. For me romantic relationship is more than just sex you should hang out with each other not because you want to have sex with them, but because you like them and like to spend time with them in the ways you both enjoy. You have genuine care for the other and have hobbies and activities you both enjoy outside the bedroom and these are things that bring you together. The sex it self is just a big bonus. For me a girlfriend is first and foremost a female friend I have fun with, can relay on and can share my thoughts and hardships with. If the girl is just in it for the sex then you might as well just be exclusive fuck buddies no? Made a little triangle graph(in paint) of what i mean. All relationships can be found in this graph, friends are at the Friendships corner and so on. Now you should of course have more friends and people in your life, else you're going to have problems.

Statement: "If you can not have a relationship without sex you shouldn't have one at all" Now I just made that one up, but I do think it holds merit, does it not? I mean if a relationship is not worth it because you not having sex then you should't have it. I'm main referring to romantic relationships. Fuck buddies is a completely different topic. How do you feel about that?

Stop needing things, if you don't need anything from anyone else you won't objectify them.

If you look at it this way: There is a car, your body and consciousness Light get reflected from the car, your eye picks up the light from said car and converts into useful electric information. This information is now send to "your" consciousness and you become aware of the car. The information is also stored in short term memory, if a emotion is used then it's also hard "printed" into your long term memory. If you brain later things of the car, you become conscious of that thought. So you must be aware of the fact that you mind always serves as a lens of sorts. Also if your being bombarded with thoughts, you won't have the clarity to perceive reality as it is, you are lost in thoughts so to speak. Because there is only so much information that can be sent at any given time. So here is where high vs low consciousness comes into play.

@ZX_man Yeah and I feel you, had a girl scream at me last week because I did not want be her boyfriend This one is quite the screamer in general. I hadn't even slept with her.

@Hardkill Maybe you use lots of seduction techniques you've learn, the problem with them is that come of in a certain way you are not. When said girl discover this she will leave. Seduction techniques works by giving a dishonest view of the person who uses them and therefor are dishonest. Guy who never learned any tricks don't use them and simply behave naturally.

Thought are usefull, but you'd probably be more happy without them.

@BobbyLowell Are you friends with him?

@Girzo Sorry if I came off as angry or upset. I just find this topic as more complex than you made it out to be. For me this kind of stuff also comes of as dishonest, just like pickup tactics. If it makes any better, I also disagree with "Being your full authentic self -> Increases your social status" as this also is true to some degree,but very situational. A desperate, socially awkward person would instead benefit from gaining attachment and improve their social skills. Also they would benefit just follow the guidelines you made, rather than being their authentic self (at least directly).

This list at least to me feels like a list especially for people whom lack social status completely, so from 0% to x%. I mean it's better not to ask for permission at all rather then for everything. To get to the really high levels you need social awareness to pick carefully which question you should ask. Not asking can come off as selfish and inconsiderate. Especially when it comes to others insecurities.

Looking down on people, makes people dislike you. Also agreeing with people is not going to increase someone's status. Confidently stating your own and allowing other to have different opinions will increase someone's status. Asking for approval is in my opinion seen as weak and insecure and therefor not something that raises ones status. ...and so on and so on.

You are using 100% but not very effectively and only using your brain is underwhelming. The good stuff "arises" in the gut, but is often mistaken for something that coming from the brain. Althougt you don't literally think with your gut of course, instead look at as a door or opening to something else.

The word soul is deceiving as it implies separation, aka that everyone have a separate soul.

So I've noticed that most of the people who discover their life purpose here on the forum, has a life purpose that revolves around personal development. That's alright and all but if that would apply generally we would be screwed because everyone can't be teaching personal development. I fear that we are mislead there because we feel like that's the best way to contribute. Also because I assume we have had found lots of use for personal development yourself. I want to see more: "I want to be doctor" or something, but almost everyone I see here wants to do personal development of some kind. Even I'm like: "yeah let's start a YouTube channel" but in that case I would just fall into the same trap myself. On the other hand perhaps I makes sense because we are all into pd and most people find their life purpose without personal development. How do you feel about that?

@ProblemSolving It's all about finding the right people, if you like video games, surely there are others whom like the same game as you. That could be a easy way "in".

I don't get it, you don't like the hours your boss wants you to work and he does not want to change them. Therefore he is a bad person? Then you complain and you get surprised, when he gets annoyed. I mean did you not discuss how much you would work and earn when you were in the recruitment process? Now if he was really angry and is screaming/insulting you when yes that is not appropriate. That kind of behaviour should not be tolerated at all. But if he in a strong voice told you to do what you signed up for then I do think you're just spoiled, no?

@Will Bigger May death rain upon you

What do you want to do, go to a club/bar or something literally outside? If club/bar then why? Meet new people? Dance? There are lots other types of events you may have a lot more fun at together, if you intention is to meet new people.

@Ilya Sure, being needy is bad, but getting a girlfriend can grow you a lot if you never had one before. I would not consider the desire unnatural, you are supposed to biologically.

@Ilya If you want something work for it.

I have a similar problem, sleeping with her might help. Sounds awful, sure but it can really help. It helps with your insecurities if nothing else. Giving oral is boring. Either way you probably don't like her that much, maybe you just like her because of her gender, it's a common thing. If you want to have a sex drive don't masturbate for, say 2 weeks and you'll be in the mood for sure.