Spiral

@Serotoninluv Definitely being way too rational, get in touch with your feminine side.

Suffering in high doses can literally be paralysing, so you can't kill yourself even if you want nothing else. Although over a long period of time you starve so you die anyway, unless forcedfeed

@Highest It's awful but not in the way you would think, eternal torment and all that. I will explain further when you die you either go to heaven or hell as per the bible. But what happens when you body dies is a different story. Can't say to be honest haven't happened to me yet as far as I know.

Question: how common are suicidal thoughts? I have them on bad days. But I'm suicidal "technically" all the time which messes up my priorities. I'm a happy and positive person in general though.

@SFRL I don't like that test, I suppose it will show whether or not your are more ("collective" green etc) or "individualistic"( yellow, orange etc) but orange is not necessary more selfish than yellow. Anyways I'm sure there are some people here whom are yellow, but for me most give me the orange/green vibe.

I think it's a good saying. I also think you can be take it literally, and it would still work just fine.

We are traveling in time right now, forward that is.

Tell me about yourself. When see what the person wants to share with you.

In many ways we are the same, we all have out own problems but most of us feel the same feeling, some more often then others and for different reasons.

Gosh guys, if you want to know what stage you belong to, look at the ideology you have in regard to things like politics. And don't tell me you don't have ideologs you would vote for something even if you don't love it. Do you see the world in black/white, grey or some other way. It's not rocket science.

So I have this female friend who is attracted to me at least, physically. So I tried having extended eye contact to teaser her about it, while talking or listening to her. Thing is she can't talk if I am doing that, she just stops mid sentence. This is kinda of the result I was expected but i did not expect her to like it. P.S Don't do this unless you know someones likes you, you come of as really creepy. Is this a thing everyone, regardless of gender experiences? Do you like it when it happens?

Casual sex is problematic, not just in spiritual terms but also in regards to future long term relationships. This of course applies to both genders. Sex can be abused(and often is) just like drugs or other distractive activities. In others words if you trying to get past a breakup, sleeping around for instance just delays the pain for later. Now sex can also be a positive thing but its needs to be done in properly and in a healthy way in that case.

@Kimasxi The problem is the none fuckboys personally, if you want to be more attracted to him long term you're going to have to change him. If that's not something you're not interested in, you'll have to wait intil you can meet older guys (20+) Normally I wouldn't recommend changing people, but young insecure guys are easy to influence if you're an attractive female. By complimenting and offering sex you'll find that they become a lot more confident. If they have other insecurities you might find that having a girl not care about the insecurity can also to wonders. Slight risk of creating fuckboys.

@Kimasxi Well I've found that girls get in the mood when cuddleing, you might experience the same thing if you cuddle with him.

Find more guys, all the none fuckboys aren't like the guy you described. The best ones are the ones you assume are fuck boys but aren't.

I tried this a while back, while yes I kinda works. I adapted a different strategy. But am I really supposed to squeeze really hard for like 10 seconds? My body is like: can't get it out? well I'm gonna try again and again. Basically am I supposed to squeeze in order to prevent anything from coming out, or the prevent the whole mechanic completely? The first one is difficult in my opinion, although maybe I'm just weak in the pc department.

@Shane597 Alright I see what you mean. Well for me moving within the same city helped( from apartment to a dorm) I was completely lost and friendless. I made quite a few friends here and now I'm fine in this regard, even if I move out. I easy to take it really personally but it's often just bad luck.

@Shane597 I would recommend not telling people how they are "problematic" they'll take it personally. They don't want your help and you trying to help will just offend them. I don't think this is necessary your ego, you simply want to help right? As for rules, I don't think there are that many. There are ways to make it easier, is there anything specific you want to do with you friends? Or simply quench the loneliness. I personally have problems with loneliness even though I have plenty of friends. As for genuinely being "undesperate" you can try to have two potential friends at the same time. Might take longer to pull off. Here a sneaky way, find girl that likes you, make friends with her, friend zone. Done. Desire can grease the gears. It can take months for her to realise you won't sleep with her, by this time you have learned a lot have possibly made some more friend though her.Girls in general are good friends.

@Akhil George In a sense you are manipulating people when you are talking to them in general, you are enjoying their company and/or having them helping resolve your problem. Now they might enjoy your company as well or feel good about helping you but it's still manipulation. It's very minor but you wouldn't talk to someone for no reason right? Just like you wouldn't talk to a stone for no reason. Now lying in order to have them to help you is something else I admit. But I wouldn't consider it unethical. If you say "excuse me could you point me to the nearest gas station, you're not lying. You honestly want them to tell you where the closest gas station is. It's their closed mindedness that makes them assume you're actually looking for a gas station.

Create fake reasons to talk to people on the street, like ask for directions.

Not a big fan of dreads and I mean if I want someone serious I wouldn't pick someone with dreads. That might just be a stereotype but I think it a very common one. If you ask yourself why you find her unattractive you might, be able to find more solutions. Or is she so physically unattractive that there is nothing she can do. I have a friend in her late 30s that have a similar problem, age is an important aspect. So your friend better find someone soon.

What do you open up about and why do they think they are not compatible? If you just throw all your problems at them all at once people get discouraged. Also if you bring up a lot of personal development early on, people tend to be a bit suspicious. I would advise against it.

For me working on improving my social skills, naturally got me in contact with girls. I was like a the biggest nerd ever before, so it's absolutely possible. Getting comfortable touching friends and family in a friendly/playful is a good start. It's also creates lots of opportunities for jokes and for you to have a good time. So getting comfortable a around guys and family will make you more comfortable around girls too.

Near the wall so I can use my phone while it's charging No but good old fashioned missionary.

I've had this problem for quite some time now. The problem: I meet new people, make friends with them, both of us open up and have a lot of fun together. But at some point we run out of things to talk about. We have already talked about the our past, our problems and our plans for the future. We have talked the about romantic/sexual interests we have and a large variety of other topics that both interests us. But then what? Now it's like we can only talk about things that happen today or "plans for the weekend" so we end up talking less, hanging out less and eventually stop completely. I have a strong habit of just talking one on one when I am with a friend of mine, not really doing anything. I mean we could go out parting but if we do, we mostly just walk there and go back together, at the party we talk to new/other people. This could be the problem but shouldn't it not happen to everyone at some point then? For me this often happen in less than a month. What's going on here, where do I mess up?