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I tried this a while back, while yes I kinda works. I adapted a different strategy. But am I really supposed to squeeze really hard for like 10 seconds? My body is like: can't get it out? well I'm gonna try again and again. Basically am I supposed to squeeze in order to prevent anything from coming out, or the prevent the whole mechanic completely? The first one is difficult in my opinion, although maybe I'm just weak in the pc department.

@Shane597 Alright I see what you mean. Well for me moving within the same city helped( from apartment to a dorm) I was completely lost and friendless. I made quite a few friends here and now I'm fine in this regard, even if I move out. I easy to take it really personally but it's often just bad luck.

@Shane597 I would recommend not telling people how they are "problematic" they'll take it personally. They don't want your help and you trying to help will just offend them. I don't think this is necessary your ego, you simply want to help right? As for rules, I don't think there are that many. There are ways to make it easier, is there anything specific you want to do with you friends? Or simply quench the loneliness. I personally have problems with loneliness even though I have plenty of friends. As for genuinely being "undesperate" you can try to have two potential friends at the same time. Might take longer to pull off. Here a sneaky way, find girl that likes you, make friends with her, friend zone. Done. Desire can grease the gears. It can take months for her to realise you won't sleep with her, by this time you have learned a lot have possibly made some more friend though her.Girls in general are good friends.

@Akhil George In a sense you are manipulating people when you are talking to them in general, you are enjoying their company and/or having them helping resolve your problem. Now they might enjoy your company as well or feel good about helping you but it's still manipulation. It's very minor but you wouldn't talk to someone for no reason right? Just like you wouldn't talk to a stone for no reason. Now lying in order to have them to help you is something else I admit. But I wouldn't consider it unethical. If you say "excuse me could you point me to the nearest gas station, you're not lying. You honestly want them to tell you where the closest gas station is. It's their closed mindedness that makes them assume you're actually looking for a gas station.

Create fake reasons to talk to people on the street, like ask for directions.

Not a big fan of dreads and I mean if I want someone serious I wouldn't pick someone with dreads. That might just be a stereotype but I think it a very common one. If you ask yourself why you find her unattractive you might, be able to find more solutions. Or is she so physically unattractive that there is nothing she can do. I have a friend in her late 30s that have a similar problem, age is an important aspect. So your friend better find someone soon.

What do you open up about and why do they think they are not compatible? If you just throw all your problems at them all at once people get discouraged. Also if you bring up a lot of personal development early on, people tend to be a bit suspicious. I would advise against it.

For me working on improving my social skills, naturally got me in contact with girls. I was like a the biggest nerd ever before, so it's absolutely possible. Getting comfortable touching friends and family in a friendly/playful is a good start. It's also creates lots of opportunities for jokes and for you to have a good time. So getting comfortable a around guys and family will make you more comfortable around girls too.

Near the wall so I can use my phone while it's charging No but good old fashioned missionary.

I've had this problem for quite some time now. The problem: I meet new people, make friends with them, both of us open up and have a lot of fun together. But at some point we run out of things to talk about. We have already talked about the our past, our problems and our plans for the future. We have talked the about romantic/sexual interests we have and a large variety of other topics that both interests us. But then what? Now it's like we can only talk about things that happen today or "plans for the weekend" so we end up talking less, hanging out less and eventually stop completely. I have a strong habit of just talking one on one when I am with a friend of mine, not really doing anything. I mean we could go out parting but if we do, we mostly just walk there and go back together, at the party we talk to new/other people. This could be the problem but shouldn't it not happen to everyone at some point then? For me this often happen in less than a month. What's going on here, where do I mess up?

@Shakazulu Hairloss is genetic or due to stress. If the hairloss is genetic it's happens because testosterone is convert into a growth hormon, the one responsible for facial hair growth. If you are genetically, lets call it "allergic" to this hormone you will lose hair on your head. Look at you family member do they lose hair? If not you are generally safe.

Online dating? Or go to the library to study

I can try that, normally I just talk about whether or not we liked it. As for hitchhiking, How to make people want to give you a ride?

It can't just be me who get irritated when people are slow to respond, especially if you ask someone a question. Now I get it sometimes you don't know and might need some time to think about it or something. Even I recognise that I'm not the most important thing in their life and so yeah fine, perhaps the person does not want to text me right now. Thing is though if I asked someone if the want to say partake in a celebration or event and they don't respond within a reasonable amount of time I might ask someone else and then the original person gets upset because I "changed my mind". Simple solution: Write " I'll get back to you shorty" or "I'll think about it" or something. Also do you consider it rude to end conversation early with for instance "Alright, Good night". I say stuff like that all the time so just curious.

@HII Yes you are right, but for me watching a movie with or without a friend is kinda samey. I'm just sitting/ laying next to them quiet watching a movie. The other persons doesn't really add to the experience, sounds harsh. Expectation might be if it's someone I wanna cuddle with. As for hitchinghiking yeah that sounds interesting , never tried that. Any tips on how to get people to help you out?

@George Fil That sounds expensive

@Sid Morris Yeah probably

I eat oatly, it's oat replacment for dairy, they have everythink from to milk to creme fraiche. Stay away from soy, unless you want to change gender into female or as a female get health problems like breast cancer.

A headset with built in toothbrush, stupid but original. Think of a problem you have, that think about a way to fix it.

Whether or not someone deserves something, I think is poor why to think. No one deserves anything. You make your own reality the way you want it.

So there is this girl that I hang out with quite often, we watch movies, cuddle and so on. So a few days ago er did that but this time it was different, I kind of felt like I was on clouds. Very strange sensation. Now I'm normally very cold and I've never had any feeling for anyone before. But I kind of want that feeling again, I assume I need to be with her again to get it? Don't really have any desire to sleep with her, if that makes any difference. She is really hot though. Is this a crush or I'm a just curious?

I don't know for me it feels like most people that I meet are like this, we are all in your early 20's, student parties and weed-smoking is the norm around here. A lot of the times people aren't even aware that they are hurtful, or they don't think before they speak. Now I wish I could say that looks don't matter to me, but that's not the case. I'm not attracted to most people in general, adding character traits just makes it more complicated. Perhaps I'm spoiled. But it not like I focus on peoples flaws, I just don't feel any attraction towards them. One think I do judge are people like this(googled it): This is really unappealing to me, yet I can imagine "normal" guys won't care.

Well for instance if I meet a girl and after a while I find out she is smoking tobacco/weed regularly.(I don't at all) If my intention is simply friendship i'll think: "oh well that's unfortunate but, it not a big deal, it won't not hurt our friendship" But if it a potential partner I would think "That kind of behavior is not what i'm look for in a girlfriend, not to mention all the health issues". Now let's say she is rude to other people(not me), even when unprovoked. i'll be like: "I don't like that and it's really unattractive but I suppose it could work anyway" If someone does not respect my time by constantly being late or taking days to respond to a simple text, I also tend to get annoyed. Girls who make fun at others expense or have drinking problems are out. Every girls I've found attractive within the last 3 years have all had at least had one of the mentioned character traits or been taken. My ex did not, but never fell in love with her. I got "anxious" when we broke up. Not really sad but had a difficulty sitting still for ~ two weeks.

Work out, go to bed the same time every night, don't view screens 30 min before bed.

Me when I do noFap and is single: First 3 days is the same. Day 4 I started to get anxious, I don't like the feeling so I just get laid(because that's not cheating right?). That's not sustainable so I relapse. In other words I can't do noFap if I'm single. Does the anxious part go away?