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@NEW11 I pretty sure I had feelings because now I'm disappointed. Result: We are now friends but with less cuddles. Possibly less eating together as well. I mean I'm fine with that but I don't feel super motivated to friends with someone who just thinks I'm using them.

Update! I got the job. They did not even want my reference. It crazy how much, confidence and charisma can do.

@CuteCornDog How old are you and, would it be possible to move out? Sidenote the only way he could break the law by replying to you was if he treated you. Curious...

@NEW11 Well let's just say that she doesn't have much problem with being with a guy only once. She has also told me she has been unfaithful in the past, that just sounds like a world of hurt if I actually got feelings. I want to have her in my life, that's what my feelings tell me. It doesn't specifically how.

Well I'm not sure what I will do. If I would do, what my feelings tell me I would sleep with her.Pretty sure that's not what you meant. We'll see what we go from here. On the other hand she has also told me that I'm not her type and that she finds the idea of sleeping with me disgusting. Regardless of if she meant that, it's kind of mean and a unnecessary thing to say, it's not like I asked. Although she was also been in the mood on a few occasions so I suppose that might not really be true.

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@F A B Life is all a big role-playing game, by that definition in that case.

@NEW11 I mean I can date her and be faithful to her and so on. But I wouldn't say I have feelings for her anymore. I was in a relationship with another girl before, not having any feeling for her either and that didn't really work out. Not saying I will be in a relationship with her, but it's not off the table.

@NEW11 Yeah I suppose so, although I do prefer friendship. Some sex and dating can't hurt. Maybe some flowers, she loves that stuff. Although if it doesn't work out surely the friendship will suffer afterwards .

@NEW11 Yeah i'll do what you said, I pretty sure I had a very minor crush on her a few months ago. At the time despite my feelings, I did not see much potential in a long term relationship. The reason I care so much at that it's a very meaningful friendship, all my other ones are very shallow and due to a lot of people moving away within the next few weeks (to other countries) my social circle is going to "take a hit". Also this friends is into PD and so on, so she has a lot of growth potential.

@NEW11 I do think I've made myself clear to her before. We have casually talked about it that topic. @Lynnel Well it's not the first time she said it, in the past I've just not seen a very serious statement. In the past I've told that's wasn't the case. This time she actually wants to meet and talk about our friendship because of this whole thing. Most likely we will have this convo tomorrow and we'll see what happens. Currently i'm considering stopping eating and cuddling with her, and remind her of my lack of feelings. We'll see where that goes.

@Moreira Yeah, that's how you train your PC muscle. You can get way more dopamine from doing that over and over again. So don't, it would be worse then fapping. It's meant for sacred sex!

She is a adult legally if she is 18 right? I would also find it strange but if you both want to, what's the harm? If the brother is a close friend you might want to reconsider.

@NEW11 Yeah and she has shown interest before in more clear ways. Although I don't think it would be a lasting relationship and so I don't have much desire to invest in something that serious. I feel like I'm putting her in a bad spot if I say that. @ElenaO She knows I have tons of "side chicks". She came up with the term(not creator)and consider herself one. I made a stupid joke about jealousy when we discussed it. I actually very common that my female friends bring up each other even though they don't hang out yet know that I do. I just assume they like gossip and stuff. P.S I'm single so don't think there is anything unethical going on here.

Words are meningless and forgettable. The greatest joy in life comes from silence.

What if: I can't see if anyone upvoted my comment. But other people can? The stages of getting rep: Wow someone liked what I said Cool this smart person agrees with me. Got an alert, thats irritating. Not even someone who quoted me.

Day 4 is for some reason the most difficult for me if you look at it in isolation. It's like my body is telling me "wow man these are old liquids, are you expecting me to deal with this?"

She needs more friends, if she has a bunch of friends to go shopping with for instance, you won't have to. You should do something together once in a while in my option like, go for a walk, cuddle up with a movie or make a nice dinner together. If you're always hanging out the relationship gets boring.

I've noticed that if you have lots of stuff going on, being on noFap becomes easy. I haven't had cravings for a quite some time now.

Well perhaps you could pay the debt in 10 years rather then 1 year. Live a little, make it less of a burden on you. You can also work and study at the same time. It's fine if they watch TV, eat meat and so on. You don't have to just because they do it.

It's distracting you from being present in the "real" world.

This seems like the most common issue for people that do personal development. We should create a pinned thread about it. As for your question, new friends is the way to go.

@aurum Do be honest I do kind of feel the same way, thanks for your reply. I do think having to lose a friend because of a false assumption is really sad.

Perhaps a bit extreme, against "not so nice people". Minor acts of violence is great, try to inflict pain without making it seem like you are attacking someone. The brain is very adaptable when experiencing "danger". The side of the neck is very sensitive, so are fingers. Also you don't want to leave scars or actually cause damage to them. Sounds like sociopath behaviour? it's only self-defence. So for instance you put you thumb on one side of his neck and you index finger on the other while walking together, press a little bit and tell him to stop mistreating you. I will look like you just teasing him, that's what he will feel as well looking back at it.

@Max_V My life made a huge turn after I stopped playing video games, I came to the realisation that I had nothing of worth. No social skills, no friends, not a good relationship with my family, nothing. No real skills to speak of. Something I regret is not going out and actually trying things, get a summer job in some field. Maybe you find that you like working with people or in big teams or alone. Once you know what you like, you'll have an easier time deciding what you want to do for the rest of your life. Also maybe it's sounds difficult and boring but I can be more fun than you expect. Not to mention you'll find new people to potentially make connections with. You grow from it and get references.