Spiral

@Ayilton I should work on making the relationship work, yes but shouldn't try to change the other person. I can offer them advice and guidance when they want it, but I can't make them like things they don't. Say I really like tennis but she does not, I can force her to like it. My ex for instance only liked to go on walks and cuddle/ have sex, otherwise all her hobbies were the type you do alone or that I had no interest in like: French literature. She was great on paper otherwise kind, caring and so on. But I do want a little more the cuddles/sex and walks.

Leo’s top strength is... something we should not speculate in, because we don't know him.

A necessary evil.

@Deep Ok, although I don't you completely on the wrong track. @tyler7415 That's absolutely a fair point. @aurum Are you saying I'm egoic? no but, yeah hobbies is definitely one of the things I should work on. Better step up my meditation gains too. Maybe you have helped a guy making friends, by which he meant male friends. A lot of people in my life are unfamiliar with this and female friends does bring a lot of unwanted drama, feelings and jealousy.

@Markus It is common that you lose the friend in the process, if that's what you mean. (or rather the friendly aspects you had before)

Here is the "cuddle technique" Make a girl that you find attractive a friend of yours. Arrange it so that you cuddle with her. Cuddle in a way that turns her on. Profit. Cuddle when with her when ever you want some sexy time. Also no girl what's to be a official fuck buddy, keep that on the low.

"Hearing" never seen this works being used in this contex before. English is not my native language . Sorry don't really have any useful advice besides that think you should move on and work on yourself instead of this relationship.

@Deep Regarding "sexism" I did not mean everyone, just to a surprisingly high degree. That was a extreme example, I quoted from my neighbor, there are more subtle ways as well. What's my masculine ego? Do you mean my masculine side? I don't really think i'm particularly girl-like, I too like sex but it's not a priority for me. If I want to get laid I don't need to work for it because of the way my social life works. I'm not particularly emotional or indecisive either but, yes I barely have anything in common with most guys in regards to hobbies. Sports and video games bore me, do like whisky though. I work out, I study IT. I'm not saying i'm masculine or not. Some girls think i'm really masculine some think I'm really feminine. On the more feminine I suppose I do like to get cozy with a blanked and cuddle up with a female friend/girlfriend of mine and watch a movie, without any intentions of sex (most of the time ) Seems to me like lots of guys care a lot about this, I don't really see why. How would one embrace their masculine side?

@Shroomdoctor Yeah that's a good idea I'll try that.

The level of distraction a person need, is different for different people. So people with less problems are fine with small things, while people with big problems need greater things like drugs sex etc. Although I do think this is just like mr Shroomdoctor said. Also some people have "big no go zones" so the a like the don't like people being that physically close. I was like that when I was younger, it comes from insecurity. @supremeyingyang As an addition to that, for clearly, do you want her or just a girl?

A machine that can detect a persons level of consciousness so I in a easy way can pick friends, employees and girlfriend(s). So people don't have to spend time probing people.

@Shroomdoctor Yes I do agree, this is absolutely the case. But unlike girls I can't just like approach them and flirt and tease them for obvious reasons (unless they are gay). So I mean how to do I engage a potential a high consciousness man? Now I've tried to use guys unwavering interested in girls to my advantage by inviting them to hang out with us later and this way get their contact info, but this I've found is not to be very sustainable. Because the very often hang out with us and fail at getting the girl and then we never hear from him again or he gets lucky and then we never hear from him again .

For 15 years olds The girls in you class are hot as fuck, sleep with them, they might already really like you, trust me it's better than a wow raid. You might not get another chance for 4 years. Work out also. Also try to play less video games, get a summer job if nothing else you can buy games for the money. Also don't pick technology in high school that shit is boring as fuck, pick economics or something. (If you are in a country where you pick majors in high school)

"Ask a stranger to buy you something" I would really not like this one, otherwise I think I'm fine, have even done some of these haha Here is another one: Go into a hotel and use the toilet they have, normally you need to ask in the reception, you can also use pool or what ever they might offer. If it says "hotel customers only" of course don't do it but they normally assume people are customers there. Also if this is illegal in your country of course don't do it.

Its not 100% bull, because when you growing up the people you are around aka your classmates have big impact on you development and you future personally. Imagine almost being a year older then someone other people when you are seven it makes a big difference. Now can it predict what's going to happened today? no, but it can follow certain models for what problems people born in a similar time of the year often experience.

Are you still living with her?

I would be careful talking about psychedelics, at least early on.

@BjarkeT Not necessarily but enough questions now. Long story short yes.

@BjarkeT Ego: Look if you identify with being a bald guy and you consider that to be a bad thing, you'll consider that a problem. Enlightenment: wow i'm everything and everything is perfect the way it is. You won't care, just like you don't get emotional when you see someone random bald guy on the street. So you can kind of skip this kind of issue at least if you are enlightened, although you still need food and so on, so you can have problems. @Shin haha correlation not causation!

@BjarkeT Well I don't really feel like we disagree here, there are a few options to dealing with a problem here are a few. Example: You losing hair and growing bald. You get someone kind of surgery or product to fix it.( short term solution). You learn to deal with it by resisting the emotion, and pretending the problem does not exist(not really a solution at all) You get past the problem and growth instead(long term solution). Killing the ego, automatically puts you at option number 3 because it does not matter. Because you have no ego. P.S moral of the story if you shave your head you instantly become enlightened.

@BjarkeTWhy do you want to resist your emotions anyway, you don't want to resist them. You want to change the once you get in the first place P.S enlightenment is also about experiencing more and deeper emotions and the once you like. So you don't really in a sense care about you old problems they don't "hurt" the same way.

You can resit your emotions either way, getting rid of the ego helps as you no longer consider them "yours"

Well for I'm instance flatfooted, this would a problem for me either way. Now does effect my life in any way worth mentioning? no. This is the kind of situation you'll find your self in if you have become enlightened.(pun intended)

Northern lights is pretty sweet too.

@Azote Yeah the likelihood of you becoming a vegetable from you internal problems, within the next 14 days are rather slim. But there is always that chance, so try to improve yourself at a reasonable rate.