Spiral

If you can love yourself surely you can be loved also everyone can be loved. Your "horrible friend" is just horrible, don't worry about it.

No porn? I don't even have internet, no seriously I don't have internet where I live. It's not by choice, but works great for removing porn addiction.

I want to be healthy because makes me happy, is selfish thinking but that's fine because it works.

I have a slightly similar problem, we do stuff sometimes on her terms. I would prefer more often but what can you do right. Now as per how to get somewhere alcohol and movie nights have been the way most people deals with this problem, but if she was zero interest that probably wouldn't work either.

She could just walk up to you(really close) and whisper in ear: "I want you... now" in a sexy voice. Would work for me if she was my gf. Or just cuddle with me until I get horny or just unzipping my pants also works.

She asks you for say verbally? That's not very sexy. Showing is better then asking.

@Hardkill Sure unless you need pickup for social/confidence reasons.

I've found that status works to some degree, but even if the girl seeks you out. You need to be relatively capable otherwise she will lose interest. So you don't really need to do the regular pickup, but you instead need have status somehow. For me, since i'm always around girls(even right now as i'm writing this) girls tend to be interested to find out why. Although you need to start somewhere right? If you are bad with girls it's not because you are inherently bad at pickup, but pickup can show you what you are doing wrong. Seeking out status is kind of unattractive, you just get it because you happen to be good at something. Girls are not the most important thing the world, I was all about this when I was 19. You get some and then you want more.

@Ayilton noo he seems very green and yellow these days

@AyiltonWhy? don't you think it would work?

The scientific way of understanding the universe, is great of interacting with then universe. Because you learn the relationship a certain object or phenomenon interact with other objects and phenomenons. With this knowledge you can manipulate the universe to you liking by putting small things together to create something greater then sum of it's parts. Like a for a computer for instance. Using this method you'll get to figure things out but, why it does not really add much anymore, a iPhone six or and old Nokia. The newer phone doesn't make you happier. The expensive care doesn't have you happier. Science is not wrong, but there is more to life than it.

We don't have sun in the morning Why should I sleep naked?

Does not matter if you just want to get laid, don't believe me? Try lying about, it's just going to make things worse. You do't need to have fun with girls for hours without having end goal being sex, unless you live in super conservative country. Although it does help. Why do you think you would make a terrible father?

Being a slut to me is more then just being promiscuous, it's how a person views themselves.Generally they feel like their value comes from their looks and how much others approve of them sexually. So they have a need for approval and affection, that will lead them down a miserable path. This need as a coping mechanism to very briefly feel better about themselves. So technically you can be a "virgin slut" or be a girl whom have slept with lot's of guys without being a slut. People in stage green will disagree with this whole idea, which makes finding them very easy to distinguish.

Trump know people that's for sure, maybe in order to exploit them, but still. He manged to become president with all odds against him. His motivations might not be great, but that does not mean the results won't be. Think of Asia, in those countries workers are payed almost nothing under poor conditions and as a result they can export almost everything we make. Trump wants all the productions to move back to the US because he is wants to "empower" the country. If he has success the environment of will benefit as a result, due to different regulations and because of the unneeded transports. Also the Asian countries might reconsider their view on pay for their employees due this big loss of cash flow. To be honest this is really a annoying problem, my father also has a company but he can't compete with eastern countries because of their laws and low pay. I mean he could not legally pay someone that little. He has a transport firm so it's not like he is selling a product.

I got laid my first few times was via online "dating" websites. Sure it took a few months and for me and it was like 100% luck the first time. Some horny girl wanted some d and I guess I was good enough.

@Anna Konstantaki Well the desire for approval in general is problematic, it means you have limiting beliefs about yourself. Altought giving an girl a orgasm via text. That sounds interesting, haven't done that before(as far as I know) . @aurum Thanks for your reply

I can't talk about those countries you mentioned but I'm sure there is some, shaming is such an unproductive way of doing things. But it has absolutely been reduced heavily within the last 10 years.

"Knowing" things that make you happy is what matters. If you think you know, that a loved one that has passed away is in a good place, you'll feel happier about that. If it's actually true or not is rather irrelevant.

Were neglected as a child now can't fall in in love, makes sense. Ideas on how to fix?

Somewhat of a different topic but I've noticed that I have become decadent in regards to pickup. I need to go a club I don't particularly like, there I need to drink which I don't particularly like for money I don't want to spend. To later dance which I don't particularly like ,to music I don't particularly like, to find a girl I most likely don't find that attractive. Then I need to spend time making her like me and get my ass over to her place, to have poor sleep and to wake up sweaty and slimy from using a condom. Only to later have to find my way home. All this for sloppy sex with some intoxicated chick. I don't feel like it's worth it to me, maybe it's just winter depression and my libido be lost in absentia. Technically there is even a risk I won't be successful "seducing" the girl. Now you might be like well you don't have to dance or drink, that's very much true but in that case ill have friends nagging and being bothersome. Well what about pickup from the street, well not something we have in our culture but I suppose I could try it. Although very limited experience with this. @Ayilton Yeah there is some truth to that. To know your (female)self is to know the "enemy".

That sex was alright, not amazing by any stretch of the imagination. Our problem was with communication, she was extremely shy and had problems opening up. This in turn led to a ready awkward vibe outside the bedroom, we basically had nothing to talk about, like literally nothing. Not even for five minutes. First person I've ever had that problem with. I also weren't in love with her so the the relationship was kind of doomed to being with. Although I'm not blaming her for the break up, she did nothing wrong and I hope her the best, but it was a bad match to being with.

@LaucherJunge So you mean a girl who wants to have a actual relationship? That's not that rare dude... sure lot's just wants to sleep around but it's all about where you look for them. Nightclubs and tinder is kinda a waste of time in this regard.

@LaucherJunge Are you saying you won't go for 10/10 aka a flawless girl if you get the chance? Or are you just saying you're picky? Nothing wrong with being abstinent but, you're not going to find the perfect girl and that's coming from me and I have ridiculous expectations.Either way it's fine just live your life until the feels hit you, then you feel differently and things resolve themselves.

@BobbyLowell Respect is something a guy needs, just common decency will do the trick. Similar to how you expect you friends to respect your time and so on. Guys require respect, but you won't get a guy by just being respectful towards him. Just like a guy won't get you just because he finds you attractive. While I do not like giving sneaky tricks, because that gives someone a false perspective of you. Showing that you think that your worth is not derived from your looks is something I find attractive. I suppose you can talk to him and flirt a little bit. Tell me about him, is he the popular guy all the girls like? How old is he and how do you know him/of him?