Spiral

I would recommend making the request low effort , such as a café visit or a walk. The Idea is to allow the girl the ability to leave early if she doesn't want to stay. Now will she hopefully not leave early, but if she can she is more likely to say yes. I would also advise you hold off from people in your program or courses, it gets awkward if doesn't work out and if it does it's not good to meet regularly in uni like that.

“Loyal” you can’t be loyal to anyone besides yourself and I don’t mean that in some spiritual way. You choose whether or not you want to abide by the rules you set for yourself, don’t want to cheat on other people? Then don’t. Don’t be loyal because they your partner would get hurt. Be loyal for your own sake. If you partner is not worth it then find someone else or be single.

I’m best friend(22) is dating a bald guy and she found him on tinder. She is quite shallow as well. I think it’s mostly a problem if you let it effect you.

I would advise against it, although I’m friends with one of my exes(she lives in another country)

Get all the action, when you realise it doesn’t make you happy then move on to bigger better things.

MDMA is not harmless, it’s has multiple effects some short term some not so short term. It’s also dangerous because you can over heat, it causes fever like symptoms. So I would skip it, on the other hand in a small dose isn’t the end of the world. Although it’s a serious drug and not some LSD strips. If your girl is into drugs she’ll probably want you to get into them as well and it’s not like crack that you can see the results of MDMA on someone’s face.

You shouldn't be rely on only one person ever, that creates dependency. Which creates a unhealthy relationship, I would rely on friends and family whenever possible. Although honesty is key so while you should rely only on your partner to need to be completely honest with her all the time. Sidenote maybe this is just me but, do you ever regret not saying something? I don't mean talk to a attractive girl of the street. I mean with friends and family. Because I don't, but I do remember countless times I regret saying something I would have benefited keeping to myself.

@Shin How often do you not hear that the relationship was great but then it felt like "the guy kind of took me for granted". The first year is the easiest part. Because you won't keep the effort up, because the hormones stops controlling you.

@sarapr Never mind.

@Psyche_92 Guess it a cultural difference, but I find the conversations regarding "sarapr" inappropriate. Not because I mind but, because the specific person where they can see it.

Wft?

Wear a thick condom and let her be on top will definitely help. Breathing out when you/she put it in helps, so breathing in just before than out for five seconds while putting it in. Lots of forplay. Controlling your breathing properly. I heard once that girls can’t get there if they hold there breath, maybe that works for guys as well? It’s creates a kind of panic of sorts. The classic trick, think of something else(nasty or unsexy), or squeeze a finger to cause slight pain also helps distract you. Odd last resort, wear a condom that’s too small for you. Kinda hurts and weak erection probably occurrences. Also worth trying go on noFap,why? Because you can go on if you finish early.

Pick a suitable partner, when you in a viable state for a long term relationship. Going slow is better. In almost all regards. Set clear boundaries early and be honest all throughout the relationship. Communication is key. Make sure you understand how to have a productive disagreement, rather than the destructive kind. Promote none sexual activities together, preferably the kind that excludes too much talking. This is to make sure you have classic fun together that restrictive in topic burnout. Also do romantic stuff, without spoiling the other person. They should not get unrealistic expectations that you don’t what to meet a year into the relationship. Great sex is of course important.

Well I find it annoying when muslims try to convert to me on the bus. Although plenty of mormons where I live as well (Also Swedish)

@Lynnel Well seems to me like a great opportunity to make some new friends. You'll have motivation and everything.

Is anything selfless? If I help an old lady cross the street I’ll feel happier, so I benefit. Without this mechanic there would be no “selfishness”. Even if you are enlightened it’s not like you are helping someone else than yourself so that also becomes redundant.

Alternatively you can derive safety from friends and family. If you lack proper friendship you kind of become dependent on your partner and that’s not good. Preferably you don’t want to be dependent on other at all but your partner is especially bad.

Find someone else, this type of girls are really easy to get some action from. Especially if they are in a long distance relationship. Feels bad man, but not worth it. Why wouldn’t she cheat on you if she is cheating on her boyfriend? I would find someone else. Being unfaithful is really bad, because if you are you’ll find that you don’t even feel bad about it. So there is nothing stopping you from doing it again.

Some chicks small down there, sometimes too small. Personally not a big fan of that but maybe something you’d appreciate.

@Arcangelo Awesome! Keep up the integrity. If you haven’t seen that side of girls before it’s a great lesson and not harmful way to learn it. It can be way worse.

Get your habits in order, you have low self worth because you feel like you haven’t achieved much or because other people give you that idea. So build you will power and get somewhere in your life. Start small and progressively make it harder. PD is almost entirely habits: mediation, healthy eating, noFap, working out. Learning how to master your emotions and so on and so forth.

@F A B I guess to some degree it’s kinda unnatural. Although the original idea behind it is admirable, like many other green ideologies.

You want a girl just to show off? You’ve got low self worth. Getting a girl will not make you happier long term and won’t work out unless you fix that first.

Took me way to long to realize this had nothing to do with music, regardless is certain types of music bad for you?

@Arcangelo When you talking to someone the important thing is to make it fun and emotional, the information you exchange is rather trivial. If you have or don’t have kids is not particularly interesting if she doesn’t know you. Be more forceful, it’s more fun if you don’t give away all the information instantly. If she asks you if you have kids, say with a enigmatic smirk on your face “yeah I’ve got plenty” or with strong eye contact say “no”. It’s more fun if she is unsure why or what you even meant by your answer. If you have gotten a somewhat far and she asks you if you like children. You can simply say that you like to making children, with once again a smirk(but not answer her actual question). Be less safe, ask her directly without asking what she is doing next. I generally try to avoid sensitive topics like rape, abortion or anything that else relates to equality or feminism. Be open minded but clear about how you feel, if you have to come across the topic anyway. An other topic to avoid is sex in gross detail like talking about the mechanics of male birth control. Sperm growing old is not a very nice lunch topic. I do agree with aurum, skip the coffee unless you include it in the lunch, instead get the number and try to get out. Making the interaction longer doesn’t make it better. If you have a surgical plan and thought things through before asking the girl out, you’ll find girls greatly appreciate that. Instead of just making the interaction last longer but not really going anywhere. Come to think of it he knows his shit, aurum I mean. Implement that what he said! Overall nice interaction though! P.S a girl that wants more might actually care whether or not you have kids, you’ll need to pick up the vibe. But if it’s asked really casually then probably not.