Spiral

I've noticed that if you have lots of stuff going on, being on noFap becomes easy. I haven't had cravings for a quite some time now.

Well perhaps you could pay the debt in 10 years rather then 1 year. Live a little, make it less of a burden on you. You can also work and study at the same time. It's fine if they watch TV, eat meat and so on. You don't have to just because they do it.

It's distracting you from being present in the "real" world.

This seems like the most common issue for people that do personal development. We should create a pinned thread about it. As for your question, new friends is the way to go.

@aurum Do be honest I do kind of feel the same way, thanks for your reply. I do think having to lose a friend because of a false assumption is really sad.

Perhaps a bit extreme, against "not so nice people". Minor acts of violence is great, try to inflict pain without making it seem like you are attacking someone. The brain is very adaptable when experiencing "danger". The side of the neck is very sensitive, so are fingers. Also you don't want to leave scars or actually cause damage to them. Sounds like sociopath behaviour? it's only self-defence. So for instance you put you thumb on one side of his neck and you index finger on the other while walking together, press a little bit and tell him to stop mistreating you. I will look like you just teasing him, that's what he will feel as well looking back at it.

@Max_V My life made a huge turn after I stopped playing video games, I came to the realisation that I had nothing of worth. No social skills, no friends, not a good relationship with my family, nothing. No real skills to speak of. Something I regret is not going out and actually trying things, get a summer job in some field. Maybe you find that you like working with people or in big teams or alone. Once you know what you like, you'll have an easier time deciding what you want to do for the rest of your life. Also maybe it's sounds difficult and boring but I can be more fun than you expect. Not to mention you'll find new people to potentially make connections with. You grow from it and get references.

That's a nice list, the trick is to embody it and not just pretend. Get this and you have more than you wanted.

@Shakazulu Yes sure thats nice and all but, I can't put you anywhere by that response. What motives you to, go up in the morning, go to work (or whatever else you do). Some examples: perhaps you need to make a living, or perhaps you really enjoy what you do for a living. Perhaps you want money. Perhaps you want power, girls(guys?). I mean more practically. Does the idea of gender equality and feminism appeal to you to a big degree. Maybe your really into helping the environment. Maybe you want to create something for yourself that you can call your own. Stuff like that. Do you consider the world to be more grayscale than black and white. Or any other way? I tried to keep the examples orange and green. So if you can find your motivations here, you know where your at. If not then you might still be there it's just outside what I thought of. Also if you don't want to share that with everyone that fine, I get it. Since it's not clear to you, your clearly not yellow. Therefor I assumed you would belong to these very common stages.

@Shakazulu Tell me about yourself, what really motives and matters to you. Be honest and don't just say, what you want the answer to be. Do you see the world as "black and white" or any other way?

@expeditus He has mentioned curing porn addiction on multiple occasions, can't remember the exact video though. Try the addiction related ones.

Rice, hummus, different types of nuts and seeds like sunflower seeds. Good oils, broccoli, good quality water. Are some things to consider. Broccoli for instance regulates your "sex" hormones reducing estrogen. Estrogen in men simply makes you more feminine and builds belly fat. Remeber to mix up your diet, it's easy to find one thing you really like and even though it's healthy it's important to mix it up.

While going up to girls who are underage might not be the best approach, going up to girls that are not underage I think is fine. If I went up to a person asking for directions, clearly I'm simply doing so for my own selfish reasons right? Now will I care if someone does that to me? No, I won't even remember two days later. I'm would probably be happy to help. What does underage mean in this case? Under 18? Under 15? Under 21? 18+ girls is absolutely capable of dealing with other people in this type of simple interaction.

@RawJudah no you're screwed now, welcome to the cult. No but seriously, yeah just do unhealthy shit until you feel bad about yourself and require constant distraction. You get back to square one in no time, not that I would advice it.

My whole family drinks quite a lot, lots of depression and stuff. I don't spend much time with them anymore. Now I wouldn't call them alcoholics, because they need to have a relatively functional mind to do what they do for a living. How to help? Not sure honestly, I would think something like close friendships but, that's hard to create them at an older age. Hobbies maybe? But especially my father picks up a new hobby rather often, spend lots of money on it and then gets bored. Girls? Maybe your father is already in a relationship. My father spend my whole childhood looking for some to keep him company. My mother is with a guy who is already taken. I would get out, it's sad and all but there doesn't seem like there is much you can do. That's what I did, my life is better for it.

If you feel anger I would advise you "go for a walk" to cool down, to not escalate the situation. This way you will not do/say something bad to your partner making them upset and causing them to make you more angry.

Can she visit you instead?

@Psyche_92 No, I'm just saying that having lower standards can be a result of NoFap. I want that sweet energy! @blazed I did not necessarily mean it to be a good thing. It's just an observation. Does anyone have any tips for how to fall a sleep easier on noFap, that tends to be my main issue.

I suppose sleeping between 20.00 and 04.00 is the most optimal if you preform best after 8 hours of sleep. This way you base your sleep around the sun which should peak at midday. If you are less than 20 you might need more sleep. 9 hours maybe for instance. Getting sunlight lifts mood and is overall good for the body.

It's too cold and there is a basically a blizzard outside right now but it's actually rather nice during summer I do admit.

Not super familiar with this terms mid and end game in regards to pick up but I suppose it has do with the actual attraction part and making the girl want to have/ do something with you. I have a few friends of mine who do "pickup, at clubs mostly. They are kind of average, most of the time they fail but sometimes they succeed. What I've seen, what they do poorly is not so much the things they say but how they say it. There is no confidence, no sense of fun. It's mostly "I have to say these things in this order are to get you to like me". Very robotic so to speak. Try to focus on having a fun conversation instead of getting laid, with some flirting and so on.

I want some nuts now I keep these things to myself, because normies don't understand nor really want to understand. I had a friend of mine mine judged as recently as last night for being into horoscopes or whatever that stuff is called.

What did you do/say?

Me while not on noFap, all girls are kinda meh. My standards are way above everyone else. Me while on noFap, is she female and not super unattractive? Awesome let's do this. Also me on noFap it's been three weeks now, if I get some action it's going to be a short experience but if I fap I'll lose interest instantly and break my streak. #harddecisions

Got your attention didn't I? Now I've pondered this topic a little bit today. I have not myself asked for nudes, although I, as i'm sure many of you guys also do, appreciate nudes. But the thing is that if one would find themselves wanting it, surely an easier and better way would be porn right? It also seems like a common misconception that all guys want nudes, this is not something you necessarily benefit from thinking as a girl. While I don't mind, it's strange to get ones that weren't asked for and it comes of as desperate. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking, but I don't get it. Now maybe it's the personal aspect, which would make some sense. Feel free to discuses dickpics while you are at it. I had too big trust issues to make that mistake when I was new in this field For guys: Why ask for nudes to begin with? Isn't porn is superior in every way? For girls: How do you feel about a guy asking you for nudes?