Spiral

@NEW11 Yeah I suppose so, although I do prefer friendship. Some sex and dating can't hurt. Maybe some flowers, she loves that stuff. Although if it doesn't work out surely the friendship will suffer afterwards .

@NEW11 Yeah i'll do what you said, I pretty sure I had a very minor crush on her a few months ago. At the time despite my feelings, I did not see much potential in a long term relationship. The reason I care so much at that it's a very meaningful friendship, all my other ones are very shallow and due to a lot of people moving away within the next few weeks (to other countries) my social circle is going to "take a hit". Also this friends is into PD and so on, so she has a lot of growth potential.

@NEW11 I do think I've made myself clear to her before. We have casually talked about it that topic. @Lynnel Well it's not the first time she said it, in the past I've just not seen a very serious statement. In the past I've told that's wasn't the case. This time she actually wants to meet and talk about our friendship because of this whole thing. Most likely we will have this convo tomorrow and we'll see what happens. Currently i'm considering stopping eating and cuddling with her, and remind her of my lack of feelings. We'll see where that goes.

@Moreira Yeah, that's how you train your PC muscle. You can get way more dopamine from doing that over and over again. So don't, it would be worse then fapping. It's meant for sacred sex!

She is a adult legally if she is 18 right? I would also find it strange but if you both want to, what's the harm? If the brother is a close friend you might want to reconsider.

@NEW11 Yeah and she has shown interest before in more clear ways. Although I don't think it would be a lasting relationship and so I don't have much desire to invest in something that serious. I feel like I'm putting her in a bad spot if I say that. @ElenaO She knows I have tons of "side chicks". She came up with the term(not creator)and consider herself one. I made a stupid joke about jealousy when we discussed it. I actually very common that my female friends bring up each other even though they don't hang out yet know that I do. I just assume they like gossip and stuff. P.S I'm single so don't think there is anything unethical going on here.

Words are meningless and forgettable. The greatest joy in life comes from silence.

What if: I can't see if anyone upvoted my comment. But other people can? The stages of getting rep: Wow someone liked what I said Cool this smart person agrees with me. Got an alert, thats irritating. Not even someone who quoted me.

Day 4 is for some reason the most difficult for me if you look at it in isolation. It's like my body is telling me "wow man these are old liquids, are you expecting me to deal with this?"

She needs more friends, if she has a bunch of friends to go shopping with for instance, you won't have to. You should do something together once in a while in my option like, go for a walk, cuddle up with a movie or make a nice dinner together. If you're always hanging out the relationship gets boring.

I've noticed that if you have lots of stuff going on, being on noFap becomes easy. I haven't had cravings for a quite some time now.

Well perhaps you could pay the debt in 10 years rather then 1 year. Live a little, make it less of a burden on you. You can also work and study at the same time. It's fine if they watch TV, eat meat and so on. You don't have to just because they do it.

It's distracting you from being present in the "real" world.

This seems like the most common issue for people that do personal development. We should create a pinned thread about it. As for your question, new friends is the way to go.

@aurum Do be honest I do kind of feel the same way, thanks for your reply. I do think having to lose a friend because of a false assumption is really sad.

Perhaps a bit extreme, against "not so nice people". Minor acts of violence is great, try to inflict pain without making it seem like you are attacking someone. The brain is very adaptable when experiencing "danger". The side of the neck is very sensitive, so are fingers. Also you don't want to leave scars or actually cause damage to them. Sounds like sociopath behaviour? it's only self-defence. So for instance you put you thumb on one side of his neck and you index finger on the other while walking together, press a little bit and tell him to stop mistreating you. I will look like you just teasing him, that's what he will feel as well looking back at it.

@Max_V My life made a huge turn after I stopped playing video games, I came to the realisation that I had nothing of worth. No social skills, no friends, not a good relationship with my family, nothing. No real skills to speak of. Something I regret is not going out and actually trying things, get a summer job in some field. Maybe you find that you like working with people or in big teams or alone. Once you know what you like, you'll have an easier time deciding what you want to do for the rest of your life. Also maybe it's sounds difficult and boring but I can be more fun than you expect. Not to mention you'll find new people to potentially make connections with. You grow from it and get references.

That's a nice list, the trick is to embody it and not just pretend. Get this and you have more than you wanted.

@Shakazulu Yes sure thats nice and all but, I can't put you anywhere by that response. What motives you to, go up in the morning, go to work (or whatever else you do). Some examples: perhaps you need to make a living, or perhaps you really enjoy what you do for a living. Perhaps you want money. Perhaps you want power, girls(guys?). I mean more practically. Does the idea of gender equality and feminism appeal to you to a big degree. Maybe your really into helping the environment. Maybe you want to create something for yourself that you can call your own. Stuff like that. Do you consider the world to be more grayscale than black and white. Or any other way? I tried to keep the examples orange and green. So if you can find your motivations here, you know where your at. If not then you might still be there it's just outside what I thought of. Also if you don't want to share that with everyone that fine, I get it. Since it's not clear to you, your clearly not yellow. Therefor I assumed you would belong to these very common stages.

@Shakazulu Tell me about yourself, what really motives and matters to you. Be honest and don't just say, what you want the answer to be. Do you see the world as "black and white" or any other way?

@expeditus He has mentioned curing porn addiction on multiple occasions, can't remember the exact video though. Try the addiction related ones.

Rice, hummus, different types of nuts and seeds like sunflower seeds. Good oils, broccoli, good quality water. Are some things to consider. Broccoli for instance regulates your "sex" hormones reducing estrogen. Estrogen in men simply makes you more feminine and builds belly fat. Remeber to mix up your diet, it's easy to find one thing you really like and even though it's healthy it's important to mix it up.

While going up to girls who are underage might not be the best approach, going up to girls that are not underage I think is fine. If I went up to a person asking for directions, clearly I'm simply doing so for my own selfish reasons right? Now will I care if someone does that to me? No, I won't even remember two days later. I'm would probably be happy to help. What does underage mean in this case? Under 18? Under 15? Under 21? 18+ girls is absolutely capable of dealing with other people in this type of simple interaction.

@RawJudah no you're screwed now, welcome to the cult. No but seriously, yeah just do unhealthy shit until you feel bad about yourself and require constant distraction. You get back to square one in no time, not that I would advice it.

My whole family drinks quite a lot, lots of depression and stuff. I don't spend much time with them anymore. Now I wouldn't call them alcoholics, because they need to have a relatively functional mind to do what they do for a living. How to help? Not sure honestly, I would think something like close friendships but, that's hard to create them at an older age. Hobbies maybe? But especially my father picks up a new hobby rather often, spend lots of money on it and then gets bored. Girls? Maybe your father is already in a relationship. My father spend my whole childhood looking for some to keep him company. My mother is with a guy who is already taken. I would get out, it's sad and all but there doesn't seem like there is much you can do. That's what I did, my life is better for it.