Spiral

You want a girl just to show off? You’ve got low self worth. Getting a girl will not make you happier long term and won’t work out unless you fix that first.

Took me way to long to realize this had nothing to do with music, regardless is certain types of music bad for you?

@Arcangelo When you talking to someone the important thing is to make it fun and emotional, the information you exchange is rather trivial. If you have or don’t have kids is not particularly interesting if she doesn’t know you. Be more forceful, it’s more fun if you don’t give away all the information instantly. If she asks you if you have kids, say with a enigmatic smirk on your face “yeah I’ve got plenty” or with strong eye contact say “no”. It’s more fun if she is unsure why or what you even meant by your answer. If you have gotten a somewhat far and she asks you if you like children. You can simply say that you like to making children, with once again a smirk(but not answer her actual question). Be less safe, ask her directly without asking what she is doing next. I generally try to avoid sensitive topics like rape, abortion or anything that else relates to equality or feminism. Be open minded but clear about how you feel, if you have to come across the topic anyway. An other topic to avoid is sex in gross detail like talking about the mechanics of male birth control. Sperm growing old is not a very nice lunch topic. I do agree with aurum, skip the coffee unless you include it in the lunch, instead get the number and try to get out. Making the interaction longer doesn’t make it better. If you have a surgical plan and thought things through before asking the girl out, you’ll find girls greatly appreciate that. Instead of just making the interaction last longer but not really going anywhere. Come to think of it he knows his shit, aurum I mean. Implement that what he said! Overall nice interaction though! P.S a girl that wants more might actually care whether or not you have kids, you’ll need to pick up the vibe. But if it’s asked really casually then probably not.

@billiesimon If you break up and want to remain friends avoid each other for 2-4 weeks first. The more the better. I did what you did ended up being together again, broke up a few months later. A waste of time.

I come from quite wealthy family, dads a CEO and all that. I suppose I just had the insight that money doesn’t make you happy earlier than most because basically everyone I’m my family is miserable anyway. Felt very unmotivated to work up until I became independent. Also a bit spoiled in general.

You need to deal with the emotions somehow, speaking with him is probably the easiest and quickest way. You have been sweeping it under rug so to speak.

I would advise you ask someone with Aspergers who obtained great abilities with the ladies. Looking at getting nice posture and walk technique and go for the bad boy kind style is probably the most suitable for you. Picking topic and reacting accordingly to her answers is probably the tricky thing. So being neglectful can come in hand. I mean you don’t have to answer her questions and instead talk about something else. Maybe have a friend you can practice on and she’ll tell you what you did wrong.

I'm ESFP-A. Althouht I don't think spending much time analysing these types and trying to oppose your life after them is very fruitful. You find the weaknesses you have iron those out and move on. I mean it's nice to know what you are like but it's usefulness is limited. Plenty of other variables to take into consideration.

Avoid getting unnecessarily physical contact and let them know your taken. Girls tend to lose interest, making think your gay also works.

@Max_V Yeah, hope you didn't take it personally. I guess I'm just a bit harsh today

@Max_V I would say it's the mindset of someone who is spoiled, why should people like you? You shouldn't you be angry? because someone told that anger is useless? If you get angry then you should get angry, you haven't had the required insight to avoid it. Look at Star wars for instance, these shoulds if unrealistic is really harmful and cause you to do the opposite of their purpose. The other ones are habits mostly, pick one implement for 3 weeks and then go on to the next one. Pick the easiest first.

You could just talk to him, if he is annoying your girl. What you mean by dating? Are you a couple or did you just meet and as of now can't be unfaithful?

@John Iverson Fuck that, interacting in real life is way superior. If social media leads to you interacting less with the person in real life then it's a problem.

@Shin It's fine. I got a awful iPhone, I know the struggle.

@Shin I didn't say that!

How to win friends and influence people. While making friendship isn't probably your goal, knowing proper social behaviour makes you likeable. Influence makes you powerful which is attractive.

@Source_Mystic Gender is not the same as sexual preference. @willen1995 None of the word you used are genders. Being a man is not a gender, being male on the other hand....

I get this sometimes, it very strange because it not like I actually want to be with anyone. I've got it right now as I'm writing this, I've seen Leo's video on it were he advocates suffering through the whole experience. I mean sure I can do that, it disappear while I sleep. So I normally just go to bed. I'm not the most fun to be around anyways when I'm like this. So I actually avoid creating last minute plans. Regardless of how I deal with it comes back after a few days. It's normally trigger by me seeing other people doing something fun. I can't really say that I've had any fun for a long time, over a year. In the past I would really enjoy going out partying, now I get really depressed by alcohol and find the idea of partying kind of depressing. Not that think that I'm better than that, it's just I don't have that fun at them and when then everyone else gets buzy and I'm all alone, wondering aimlessly. I do have conversation regularly with friends but I don't consider them fun it's just me doing something to pass the time. Or because someone is in need of assistance. Well the best solution is obviously to get rid of all loneliness for good, but I can't just isolate myself for a month. I have work to do that involves other people among other things.

@Arctica If you are happy with the person you are with, stay with them. Trying to "upgrade" will not work out at all. I mean what if you after spending 3 years with that new guy, you find yet another "better" guy. On the other hand if your are on the edge of cheating, that's not good either. Also note the even if you find someone else, doesn't mean it's gonna work out. The old guy won't take you back. The older you get the more difficult it will get to find someone you want as well. Now yes I get, it's a very common issue, I was with a girl who have had a boyfriend for 12 years she, is 26. She is kinda a mess now, cheating regularly and so on. Not my proudest moment if I put it that way. It not to late to improve the sex you already have you know. You can both learn and practice some tantra and do some crazy stuff. Also other ways to bring more excitement to your life.

Well let's do some math, let's say the city has 500.000 inhabitants. Half of those are male.(250.000 left) Say one forth is in the right age group for you. That leaves you with 62.500 girls. Now let's say you also want attractive girls, with somewhat high standards, say 1/6? Now you have more then 10.000 girls to approach. Excluding tourists, I would say that's plenty and hardly a problem. I mean if you want to get good at game having the girl actually be attractive is not essential.

@BobbyLowell Find out why you feel that way and fix it, by changing how you view that specific trait etc.

There is chronic depression and so on, that's a great ride, not a hopeless existence at all. Wouldn't say that makes you neurotic though, it's "just" mindless suffering.

@Andre Quinonez There are other things than enlightenment you can experience when you experience complete ego death. Less fun things. Just look at christianity they have some unique wisdom to offer when it comes to (ego)death.

I've never seen a successful open relationship, although I rarely see successful "closed" relationship with today's youth. I can imagine it's better then being single but I won't want it.

Well you don't really have anything to lose here right? She might hate you but at least you tried. On the other hand he might have learnt his lesson, I doubt he wants to have someone to abuse. Might happen anyways, because he is messed up.