Spiral

Try to understand girls, not *just* pickup techniques. I found that this a huge advantage. I see guys in their 20s lie and brag in other to impress girls, this is almost always counterproductive. That’s just one example, I can think of a lot of them. If you don’t understand why that’s bad you’ll make similar mistakes. Don’t focus sooo much on what attracts them. Focus on how they think, what’s important to them. How girls communicate and why as well. As for me, I lost my virginity at 19 and had my first GF at 20. You really don’t have to feel bad about not having much success yet. Your situation is rather normal these days. Social skills in general is very important. How do you make a good impression and so on.

I don’t want someone like that in my life to be honest. If am in the hospital, I’ll be in the hospital until I’m dead or better, them being there won’t change that. I won’t expect that of family either. So it’s pointless for them to come. If I for some reason need them there, I compensate them for the hassle. Maybe that’s cold and individualistic, but I don’t want to expect that of anyone.

@Aakash Vijayan it’s a gamble say you would break up and then isn’t able to attract girls effectively. Partly because of your insecurities, then what? Being worried about not being masculine is not masculine ironically. Not being able to attract girls effectively is not something I consider a requirement to be a masculine men. It’s very tricky, I found that girls who face a similar dilemma often end up cheating. You can most definitely “play the field” in your 30s though.

Be more specific.

Pickup is a easy way to start if the person you’re helping is male and unsuccessful, don’t frame it as self-help. Help them out with that and they’ll get a taste for the potential.

@Lynnel I’m neutral in this question but what if the judges are a bunch of white people, who don’t get “ black culture” so they don’t like it. Then what? Katy Perry, female empowerment at any cost

I see dating as have having three stages. The Introduction stage, a short date to determine if you actually like the other persons company. The key here is to make them easy to stop when you don’t want to continue. This means that visiting a park and going for a walk or having ice cream or something very simple should be what you do. I like going to a cafeteria. This applies even if you like the girl already, since she will be more likely to say yes. Although if you know each other very well already you can skip this stage. The second stage is a more serious date with the intention to finding out if the girl is suitable to be your partner, this is were you ask more personal questions. This date could be in a restaurant over lunch or something. Date number 3 can be the so ever so romantic restaurant visit, but here you can bring the flirting up to 11 and you often end up sleeping together. This date is more physical in general. If she stayed over I highly advice making the two of you breakfast in bed while she sleeps. Picknick with wine, cooking togerher stuff like this. What about kissing? If the first date went well and you have flirted and she has too go for it at the end, otherwise save it for the second date. I generally pay unless she has a problem with it, you don’t wanna the have the awkward “who is going to pay?” situation. Be prepared that you might have sex on the first or second date but I wouldn’t try.

Most girls do enjoy it yes, but they generally have to like the guy first obviously. You also can cuddle naked and or in light clothing although this often creates sexual desire for both parties.

@SelfHelpGuy Just don’t talk about her “bobs and vegana” and ass. I’m addition don’t tell her that you want to fuck her and you’ll be fine. I as a rule of thump never give compliments on a girl appearance, even girlfriends. Although that’s arguably a bad rule.

Make new friends first, “using” your old friends.

Not familiar with this concept but surly some girls would enjoy choking you while giving you a handjob. Besides it’s impossible to kill yourselves while choking yourself, you’ll pass out and stop choking.

It's very uncommon to find people who are into non dualism, unless she is zealous I wouldn't break up with her over her religious beliefs.

@Bane I like romance in general so I might do what I described with a female friend, if I’m interested in her sexually or seriously is something else. That’s why I said that’s it’s a problem as girls understandably can get the wrong idea.

The sure seem to suffer a lot for being enlightened ? but do absolutely see your point

It’s all about context if you have a factual disagreement and the next time you meet ask if she reads she can understandably be upset.

What struggles? I enjoy dating and romance, although this creates suffering so it’s kind of a problem ? You bring a girl out in the wilderness with a tent, wine and dark chocolate. Then you enjoy the real night sky maybe enjoy a skinny dipp and have romantic evening together it’s great ? throw in a bit of sex in the end if you like the girl.

Awful of the girl to say that regardless of whether or not she meant it. Did you say something that made her upset(very often because of a misunderstanding). Either way great that you didn’t have to hang out with her Most girls honestly try to be nice, as long as you are respectful. Surely some are twisted, but you can usually notice this early. If you are unsuccessful you get the “ I have a bf” or something similar, this is them trying to be nice assuming they don’t actually have a bf that is 95% of girls are not going to insult you for trying.

If you are male and had atleast one orgasm yeah.

Were you drunk or really stressed? Alternatively wearing a too small condom? Those thing makes it more difficult, did you find the girl attractive?

Well do you masterbate? Watch porn?

I too don’t understand why it matters, I constantly try to avoid my people from my high school.

@THJ50 It not about the number of friends it’s about the quality of those friendships. Give it a few weeks and you’ll feel better about the breakup. Try to have fun, more so then to make new friends or attract girls. Who would want to be friends with someone who is having a great time? If you go looking for friends/girls it’s going to be more difficult as like the rest of us you’ll fail sometimes.

This is all a death cult, knew that already. P.S ego death to be more precise.

"Should I just break it off until I learn to accept my mistakes and let go of this guilt. I have plenty of things I need to sort out within myself." Yes and don't tell her you cheated.

Anger is a tricky one as it’s comes from being unwise. It’s not something you learn to simply overcome. No book can tell you the answer and no person can share their wisdom with you. That doesn’t mean they are wrong but listening to them won’t really help you. Most people won’t have the insight and those who experience it first hand often find the prize too high. I most definitely do.