Spiral

@Shin How often do you not hear that the relationship was great but then it felt like "the guy kind of took me for granted". The first year is the easiest part. Because you won't keep the effort up, because the hormones stops controlling you.

@sarapr Never mind.

@Psyche_92 Guess it a cultural difference, but I find the conversations regarding "sarapr" inappropriate. Not because I mind but, because the specific person where they can see it.

Wft?

Wear a thick condom and let her be on top will definitely help. Breathing out when you/she put it in helps, so breathing in just before than out for five seconds while putting it in. Lots of forplay. Controlling your breathing properly. I heard once that girls can’t get there if they hold there breath, maybe that works for guys as well? It’s creates a kind of panic of sorts. The classic trick, think of something else(nasty or unsexy), or squeeze a finger to cause slight pain also helps distract you. Odd last resort, wear a condom that’s too small for you. Kinda hurts and weak erection probably occurrences. Also worth trying go on noFap,why? Because you can go on if you finish early.

Pick a suitable partner, when you in a viable state for a long term relationship. Going slow is better. In almost all regards. Set clear boundaries early and be honest all throughout the relationship. Communication is key. Make sure you understand how to have a productive disagreement, rather than the destructive kind. Promote none sexual activities together, preferably the kind that excludes too much talking. This is to make sure you have classic fun together that restrictive in topic burnout. Also do romantic stuff, without spoiling the other person. They should not get unrealistic expectations that you don’t what to meet a year into the relationship. Great sex is of course important.

Well I find it annoying when muslims try to convert to me on the bus. Although plenty of mormons where I live as well (Also Swedish)

@Lynnel Well seems to me like a great opportunity to make some new friends. You'll have motivation and everything.

Is anything selfless? If I help an old lady cross the street I’ll feel happier, so I benefit. Without this mechanic there would be no “selfishness”. Even if you are enlightened it’s not like you are helping someone else than yourself so that also becomes redundant.

Alternatively you can derive safety from friends and family. If you lack proper friendship you kind of become dependent on your partner and that’s not good. Preferably you don’t want to be dependent on other at all but your partner is especially bad.

Find someone else, this type of girls are really easy to get some action from. Especially if they are in a long distance relationship. Feels bad man, but not worth it. Why wouldn’t she cheat on you if she is cheating on her boyfriend? I would find someone else. Being unfaithful is really bad, because if you are you’ll find that you don’t even feel bad about it. So there is nothing stopping you from doing it again.

Some chicks small down there, sometimes too small. Personally not a big fan of that but maybe something you’d appreciate.

@Arcangelo Awesome! Keep up the integrity. If you haven’t seen that side of girls before it’s a great lesson and not harmful way to learn it. It can be way worse.

Get your habits in order, you have low self worth because you feel like you haven’t achieved much or because other people give you that idea. So build you will power and get somewhere in your life. Start small and progressively make it harder. PD is almost entirely habits: mediation, healthy eating, noFap, working out. Learning how to master your emotions and so on and so forth.

@F A B I guess to some degree it’s kinda unnatural. Although the original idea behind it is admirable, like many other green ideologies.

You want a girl just to show off? You’ve got low self worth. Getting a girl will not make you happier long term and won’t work out unless you fix that first.

Took me way to long to realize this had nothing to do with music, regardless is certain types of music bad for you?

@Arcangelo When you talking to someone the important thing is to make it fun and emotional, the information you exchange is rather trivial. If you have or don’t have kids is not particularly interesting if she doesn’t know you. Be more forceful, it’s more fun if you don’t give away all the information instantly. If she asks you if you have kids, say with a enigmatic smirk on your face “yeah I’ve got plenty” or with strong eye contact say “no”. It’s more fun if she is unsure why or what you even meant by your answer. If you have gotten a somewhat far and she asks you if you like children. You can simply say that you like to making children, with once again a smirk(but not answer her actual question). Be less safe, ask her directly without asking what she is doing next. I generally try to avoid sensitive topics like rape, abortion or anything that else relates to equality or feminism. Be open minded but clear about how you feel, if you have to come across the topic anyway. An other topic to avoid is sex in gross detail like talking about the mechanics of male birth control. Sperm growing old is not a very nice lunch topic. I do agree with aurum, skip the coffee unless you include it in the lunch, instead get the number and try to get out. Making the interaction longer doesn’t make it better. If you have a surgical plan and thought things through before asking the girl out, you’ll find girls greatly appreciate that. Instead of just making the interaction last longer but not really going anywhere. Come to think of it he knows his shit, aurum I mean. Implement that what he said! Overall nice interaction though! P.S a girl that wants more might actually care whether or not you have kids, you’ll need to pick up the vibe. But if it’s asked really casually then probably not.

@billiesimon If you break up and want to remain friends avoid each other for 2-4 weeks first. The more the better. I did what you did ended up being together again, broke up a few months later. A waste of time.

I come from quite wealthy family, dads a CEO and all that. I suppose I just had the insight that money doesn’t make you happy earlier than most because basically everyone I’m my family is miserable anyway. Felt very unmotivated to work up until I became independent. Also a bit spoiled in general.

You need to deal with the emotions somehow, speaking with him is probably the easiest and quickest way. You have been sweeping it under rug so to speak.

I would advise you ask someone with Aspergers who obtained great abilities with the ladies. Looking at getting nice posture and walk technique and go for the bad boy kind style is probably the most suitable for you. Picking topic and reacting accordingly to her answers is probably the tricky thing. So being neglectful can come in hand. I mean you don’t have to answer her questions and instead talk about something else. Maybe have a friend you can practice on and she’ll tell you what you did wrong.

I'm ESFP-A. Althouht I don't think spending much time analysing these types and trying to oppose your life after them is very fruitful. You find the weaknesses you have iron those out and move on. I mean it's nice to know what you are like but it's usefulness is limited. Plenty of other variables to take into consideration.

Avoid getting unnecessarily physical contact and let them know your taken. Girls tend to lose interest, making think your gay also works.

@Max_V Yeah, hope you didn't take it personally. I guess I'm just a bit harsh today