Spiral

I don't like dating apps/websites, due to bad experience with the girls I met there. Ironically if you're a guy, you need to be in the top 20% to really get anywhere and if you are in the top 20% you don't need dating apps. Stay away from selfies, they are awful. The angle of Aurums profile picture and so on, works very well for instance.

I like to take notes in oneNote, make em all nice and organized. I have java program that spits out random questions I make in advance.

I have it as well reading regularly helps.

A nice haircut, girl love that shit. Facial hair, that's taken care of.

I don't like being someone's company just because they are lonely, to me that means i'm not fun enough as is.

I would expect things to get serious if I had 3 dates already, although if we haven't had sex yet.

Skip porn. It’s unnecessary.

@MM1988I would describe it as being authentic and possibly dominant.

@MM1988 Please clarify what you mean.

Here are 4 things in no particular order, there are more. Confidence/Emotional resilience. Purpose. Looks. Abundance. (This is one tricky because girls/women can dislike it rationally) It's not that you shouldn't care, it that it shouldn't slow you down or alter your confidence.

@Shroomdoctor People want to be shown love differently, discover how she wants to. They are referred to as "Love Languages". By selecting the right one(s) you can maximize the positive effect while minimizing the harm. Here is a video on it.

The respectful, kind, extrovert and feminine type. Bonus points if she’s smart and educated. Or did you mean physically?

@Cammy I went to see a movie on my own once it's felt weird but no one care or even noticed. I would definitely do it again if I "had" to.

@Spacious The gender gap is not a myth, because it exists regardless of the reasons behind it. There is also a income inequality between people in comas and consciousness people, for obvious reasons. Now is the gender gap a problem? no, not at all if it's justified. In other words I was joking it's a ridiculous statement.

@Epiphany_Inspired Well I’m all for free speech and I expect people to behave in their own best interest. I would prefer if they did not corrupt vulnerable people sure, but I value free speech more. Thinking of things in terms of whether or not something is ok, to me as a nihilist is kinda of irrelevant. You can’t do anything about it anyway.

@Spacious Since when did reason justify inequality? Although certain “female” jobs are undervalued like nurses, lots of stress, danger and a academic requirement. Although that’s kind of a different topic.

Something that is social inappropriate, like meeting someone only to not talk to each other. Why because the intention was to talk verbally so not doing so is a failure. How to prevent being awkward? Develop a sense of what is appropriate topics to talk about and how to talk about them and with whom. Body language can also play a role. But how? Well practice makes perfect ? you can also have friends or family give you pointers about what you do wrong. Also if you feel like a conversation is awkward that feeling will spread even if the conversation isn’t normally considered awkward. If the conversation is awkward but you are none reactive to that awkwardness you can reduce other people feeling of awkwardness.

@wavydude Well men increase their salary more than women, to a big degree because male traits predict advantages outcomes from negotiation how much they "should" earn. They are still employed at the same rate. Now is that unfair? well it depend on how you view equality.

@8Ball You already "won" basically. I would consider taking her somewhere romantic. The weather right now is great for a picnic, maybe with some white wine. Although pulling of good a picnic date is difficult.

@zoey101 I don't disagree with @SFRL at all, just you in regards to the service industry. If I owned a restaurant and could pick a ugly or good looking guy to be a waiter I would absolutely pick the better looking one . I may live in Sweden but i'm not that much of a socialist Now sure you have like hooters but I mean normal restaurants, I would feel ashamed going there to be honest If we are talking about any other industry, the movie industry for instance people are absolutely shown in the way @SFRL described.

@zoey101 Well I suppose we have had different experiences then. Different probably countries too.

@zoey101 Well if it’s the service industry looks do matter, maybe you have noticed that in the really high quality clothing stores it applies regardless of gender.

Have you tried Leos course?

I personally (unseriously) flirt with everyone besides children family, guys, my boss and girls. It’s simply the way I communicate. But if my GF asked me to stop I would comply, her happiness is more important to me then my habit of flirting. Although I would have to be asked to do so, because girls are tricky to understand for us guys. I do advice you follow the other peoples advice, but if that doesn’t work out getting into nihilism could be worthwhile. I mean if he is just as worthless as everything else at least you are equal.

Not cure but you won’t get soft as easily let’s say, but PE gets worse if that is possible. I mean I can last really poorly while on noFap unless I have sex multiple times a week.