Spiral

@Spacious The gender gap is not a myth, because it exists regardless of the reasons behind it. There is also a income inequality between people in comas and consciousness people, for obvious reasons. Now is the gender gap a problem? no, not at all if it's justified. In other words I was joking it's a ridiculous statement.

@Epiphany_Inspired Well I’m all for free speech and I expect people to behave in their own best interest. I would prefer if they did not corrupt vulnerable people sure, but I value free speech more. Thinking of things in terms of whether or not something is ok, to me as a nihilist is kinda of irrelevant. You can’t do anything about it anyway.

@Spacious Since when did reason justify inequality? Although certain “female” jobs are undervalued like nurses, lots of stress, danger and a academic requirement. Although that’s kind of a different topic.

Something that is social inappropriate, like meeting someone only to not talk to each other. Why because the intention was to talk verbally so not doing so is a failure. How to prevent being awkward? Develop a sense of what is appropriate topics to talk about and how to talk about them and with whom. Body language can also play a role. But how? Well practice makes perfect ? you can also have friends or family give you pointers about what you do wrong. Also if you feel like a conversation is awkward that feeling will spread even if the conversation isn’t normally considered awkward. If the conversation is awkward but you are none reactive to that awkwardness you can reduce other people feeling of awkwardness.

@wavydude Well men increase their salary more than women, to a big degree because male traits predict advantages outcomes from negotiation how much they "should" earn. They are still employed at the same rate. Now is that unfair? well it depend on how you view equality.

@8Ball You already "won" basically. I would consider taking her somewhere romantic. The weather right now is great for a picnic, maybe with some white wine. Although pulling of good a picnic date is difficult.

@zoey101 I don't disagree with @SFRL at all, just you in regards to the service industry. If I owned a restaurant and could pick a ugly or good looking guy to be a waiter I would absolutely pick the better looking one . I may live in Sweden but i'm not that much of a socialist Now sure you have like hooters but I mean normal restaurants, I would feel ashamed going there to be honest If we are talking about any other industry, the movie industry for instance people are absolutely shown in the way @SFRL described.

@zoey101 Well I suppose we have had different experiences then. Different probably countries too.

@zoey101 Well if it’s the service industry looks do matter, maybe you have noticed that in the really high quality clothing stores it applies regardless of gender.

Have you tried Leos course?

I personally (unseriously) flirt with everyone besides children family, guys, my boss and girls. It’s simply the way I communicate. But if my GF asked me to stop I would comply, her happiness is more important to me then my habit of flirting. Although I would have to be asked to do so, because girls are tricky to understand for us guys. I do advice you follow the other peoples advice, but if that doesn’t work out getting into nihilism could be worthwhile. I mean if he is just as worthless as everything else at least you are equal.

Not cure but you won’t get soft as easily let’s say, but PE gets worse if that is possible. I mean I can last really poorly while on noFap unless I have sex multiple times a week.

Question: If you felt like the date went alright to go in for the kiss? Because the girl is not. I have never had a girl go in for a kiss, regardless of good the date was. Also the first date doesn’t have to be sparkles and desire. Just a good time where you get to know each other is enough. Is sex appeal on the first date preferred yes, but not required. It’s ok whatever happens, you don’t need to take dating so seriously, it’s fun to get to know new people if it doesn’t work out well at least you had fun and you might even learned something. Try to enjoy the process more and you’ll find that results come on their own. Find yourself with monkey mind?Take a deep breath lean back and relax. Maybe make a flirty comment, to get into a flirty mood.

@BobbyLowell Correct me if I'm wrong. You like a guy. Your friends do not think you're his type. They tell you nonverbally that "you're not good enough for him". You cut those friends out. I'm not everyone's type neither is anyone else. I can understand that it feels like they are just saying hurtful things, but it could be that they are trying to help. As in "we don't think it's going to work out and so we advice you find someone else" rather than "you're not good enough for him". Alternatively do they nonverbally say "you're not good enough for any guy", that's something else entirely.

How about open relationships. Is that something you have found yourself being “lectured” about. This is something I encounter more regularly at least in person.

I think it’s completely rational for poly-people to want to convert the rest of us. They want more people to pick from and so they are trying to make more available.

While I never really considered myself a PUA, I merely watched theory and tried my luck online. It was my way into PD, this seems to be a common occurrence. Pick up has a lot of redeeming qualities that don’t involve sex or relationships. Especially if you, like me were a introverted gamer completely devoid of social skills. Social skills of course, but also among other things learning to enjoy the company of others and being away from the comfort of a screen. Learning to and start to appreciate taking care of yourself, physically and healthwise. If you have success you start to have faith in the growth process and try to improve your life in completely different areas. Not to mention confidence. But things come to an end, and so should the pickup life style. One should move on to bigger better things. A lot of people get trapped and this is where you find the problems with pick up culture.

I can imagine it's advice they received as children: "treat others nicely to be liked" combined with desperation in the form you described.

@billiesimon Do you know what is the cause for the nice guy syndrome? (Actual question, I really don’t know). I just find it fascinating.

@Paulus Amadeus What do you mean in this case? What advice do we give, that we lack results in? Well some people arguably merely share their options.

@Applejuice Why do you want a girlfriend? The answer will partly dictate the way you should approach the matter.

@SaltyMeatballs it’s normal, you’ll probably change your mind at some point. Better to find yourself and so on before you look for someone else.

Almost everyone judges everyone else. It’s very human to do so.

Don’t forget to wear a seatbelt if you not used to the car. Regardless how confident you are in your driving abilities.

I didn’t have a great time either to be honest, although I would probably have regretted it if I did not go, because I would thought it would have been fun. If you don’t wanna hang out with your classmates I wouldn’t go and either way I wouldn’t go if I couldn’t dress up. How about borrowing something?