Spiral

@Shroomdoctor Alright then it fine, some natural tension is always useful.

If people question your stare your probably over doing it. Still works sure but generally you don’t want to get criticism about this whole thing. Over staring borders on creepy, so if people bring it up it’s probably a warning sign. You want hear that you are a good listener and that you in the moment with them etc. Rather than complains. Its great to be present but if you are only focusing on them it’s indicative of desperation.

NoFap means you don’t masterbate, while he’s it’s better if you don’t ejaculate it still counts. The reason it’s problematic to fap(with or without ejaculate) is that you get a reward for (basically) nothing. It typically a problem if you need external stimulation as you’re not really horny then. Although not sure about the harmful effects of ASMR.

The video is ridiculous yeah of course, thinking of any girls as out of your league is not productive and often not true.

@Anirban657 Approaching women will make you more confident especially if you see some success. Although the only way to become more masculine is to spend time with masculine people(unfortunately)

Let's you have a movie night set with a girl, you tell her the movie, the time and she is fine that. A few days later she changes her mind about what time or movie you are going to watch,let's say you don't really care if its at 20:00 or 21:00 for instance. Similar examples can be the restaurant we are going to or whatever. Some people have the strong believe that you should't give in and be decisive. Others believe that you should be authentic and therefor be accommodating whenever it seems reasonable. Should you be accommodating?

Things that help at a bar: Avoid being alone with your mind. Go to the bar disk and talk the people there first thing unless you see someone you want to approach of the gecko. Once you have your drink of choice try to a approach someone/some people instantly. You can start a conversation to a bunch of guys, maybe you'll have a blast and be in a great mood. (Great for picking up girls) It gets way more difficult if you actually sit down and start to think about what to do.

“I definitely don’t see this working out” could make her upset. Just forget everything you know and show her that you like her rather then flirt with her the regular verbal way.

I would recommend her content, I'm not into guys so i haven't tried anything but it sounds reasonable, creepily so https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0NjSG_gbGRuc2XxkgIb-yw

Focus on the small habits in life, that’s a great way to start. Do your bed in the morning, keep your room clean etc. Gradually make them more difficult but let each habit have 3 to settle before moving on to the next. In addition to the benefit of the actual habit you’ll also become more confident. Has nothing to do with girls? yes I know but the small things makes a big difference over time. You’ll have a solid base to build upon.

Don't try to be. Metaphorically let people slap your penis, or rather don't consider it slapping.

Some guys become gay some are born gay, some gay guys like feminie men some don't. Everyone is diffrent

Here is a very different perspective.

I don’t do day game but I would skip the mandatory compliment. Besides “attractive” is too vague and isn’t impactful. If you have to give compliments and I would use them sparingly or not at all. Preferably use something like “pretty” or a personal compliment is better. Bonus points if it’s something she cares about that perhaps she hasn’t been complimented on before.

In Sweden this is tricky at least legally, because a couple can if they are very drunk can (legally)rape each other at the same time. Because verbal consent and honest consent doesn't count if you are drunk enough or if one person is drunk and the other is not, therefore should all participants should be tipsy or sober so you don't want one to be kinda drunk and one sober, although both being kinda drunk is alright. This law is undergoing reforms and it's kinda tricky right now. As for me I consider active participation as consent, if the girl is super drunk but is doing her best to get in my pants i'm not going to consider that me raping her, if I sleep with her. Although drunk girls, or having sex drunk isn't really my cup of tea.

My experience with american girls is very limited. Depends what you want, some examples: Easy sex As good looking as possible. Girlfriend material I for instance don't like green orange girls, but blue(within reason) and yellow/teal girls are fine for long term relationships. So certain stockholm girls(yellow) and in my experience italiens, czech, ukraine(blue) etc. Btw never meet anyone who disproves of czech girls, not sure why but their a such a blast to be around.

This is something I'm actually pretty awful at, while I often credit others for work we have done together i'm also inherently smug about everything solely about me.

Perhaps a bit of a cold approach but for me a key principle has for a long time been " You can't change people". So in other words if i were you i'd just look for new friends until the old ones come asking for advice/help. Things sometime have to get worse before they get better.

Spirals 4 step guide to making a great first impression. You focus on these in this order. Be fun, she doesn’t need to laugh but a smile goes a long way. Something I like to do is to hit the girl with my hip assuming we are standing side to side. Catching her of guard although it’s great if she sees you coming. Get her trust, a hand shake while you introduce yourself works fine. Get her respect, by expressing what’s important to you, can do this using the regular small talk questions. I would think about how you best reply to “where are you from”. Your values are more important than the city etc. Lastly show interest yourself. Bonus point don’t stay longer than you need to if the convo is dead, leave. Ask her for her number or talk to her later. It’s ok to leave the conversation yourself.

Firstly it’s messages in the study which isn’t a very metric of attractiveness. Secondly it’s the difference between 0th and 100th isn’t that big if you compare to women. Only the last 5%-10% of guys really see any particular interest, and that’s bit silly to assume only 10% of the male population is getting some action.

This attitude work well

Don’t tell her that, have fun, abstinence is not the way.

Don’t sext, in person sex is better. Sexing is just frustrating in my opinion.

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