Spiral

I do also think that people take offense to critical observations on a gender as a attack on themselves. Most people have a relatively strong gender identity. So if someone is critical of men for doing x, other men get offended needlessly and try to justify themselves even if they don’t do x. This obviously doesn’t help the situation and leads to needless bickering. So careful wording criticism of the opposite gender definitely help. Saying most men do x is naturally better for the sake of preventing needless bickering. In addition people tend to assume their opposition is a way more homogeneous group than it is. Feminists, anti-feminist, red pill guys and incels are all groups of people with all sorts of subgroups. Some of which you probably don’t have much against. Yet people tend to assume all feminists for instance are all the same. Which definitely isn’t true.

Both have their own struggles. Women tend to be more neurotic. So you could say men by default are more present. Men are more likely to shot up schools, women cancel and engage in destructive gossip. Men however tend to more materialistic. Violence isn’t bad by default, only when goes out thru poor outlets.

Androphobia causes a lot of issues in society. As a guy it’s certainly something you can take into consideration when for instance walking home from a night out.

Girls are different and like different things clothing wise. Confidence is more important. So dress in a way that makes you feel confident. Although clean and well fitting clothes are a minimum. Looking neat and well groomed is a bonus. Colors is also something to take into consideration. Darker is better for winter than summer for instance. Matching colors is good while all blue is not.

I do think culture plays a role here. Personally I wouldn’t commit without having had sex yet.

I struggle with the way this video is made. Although I absolutely see the value in the message.

The no compliments/approval approach is effective although it’s kinda mean long term.

Although a more metamodern(yellow) perspective is way more useful and introspective.

Responsive approach to employees and your business. In regards to the environment and treating them as actual people.

Is the distinction between extroverted and introverted people as meaningful as people (especially here) make it out to be? I get the feeling it’s often an excuse and a identity people have which often leads to a victim mentality. What are your thoughts on the matter?

I should elaborate and say that I mean in ones ability to make friends and find sex/romantic partners.

Haven’t even thought of that perspective.

Start doing new things. Meet new people(not just for sex and relationships). Moving can help. Getting a new job can help. Change you life as much as possible compared to when you were together does wonders.

I’d be careful setting up expectations or intentions beyond things like having fun, meeting new people and perhaps getting experience.

You give her the opportunity once if she has poor taste, what’s the point in offering it again? There billions to choose from.

Well I dislike texting so with me it would be nothing personal.

Kidney punish is a classic. Takes some practice to learn.

That’s not what I mean. I mean if your partner is bring you down on the regular and there doesn’t seem like you can do anything about it. Perhaps you should reconsider your relationship. Now sure I don’t know to which extent this effects him so perhaps he can cope.

Surely there most be other girls available?

Doesn’t matter what you say. Although bonus points if you can provide value somehow. I will (for once) agree with pretty and say that practice is really all that matters.

Pro tip: take straight guys advice with a bucket load of salt. People usually lack introspection. What a guy says he likes and what actually attracts him are often not the same thing, even the opposite as well sometimes. Applies the other way around also.

Not female however I don’t mind having sexual interactions with trans girls if they have the genitalia I’m looking for. I don’t even have to worry about pregnancy.

@Javfly33 Girls pay too. It’s just a difficult market.

Like many have said so far, I do think red pill philosophy is useful for many guys. However it’s should only be a stage and pretty early one at that. Girls and the world as a whole is more way more complicated.

Obviously people who cheat have poor morals and/or discipline. Girls usually cheat because there is a issue in the relationship. With guys this is less of a factor. It’s more akin to someone made themself available and the guy is in the mood. So girls being paranoid about their guy cheating makes sense. The “I didn’t get to be wild and crazy in my late teens/twenties and I wish I had that” argument is a classic that occurs often regardless of gender tho. Furthermore the reason we are wired to care about cheating is also different. Hence why guys less often care if their girl is with another girl.