Spiral

I think it's rude if someone is talking on their phone but otherwise go for it. Talk to people in public, most are just wasting time on social media anyway. I really enjoy having random conversations with strangers, it doesn't have to be a girl or anyone I'm actually attracted to. I remember one time (two weeks ago) on the train, where I did something embarrassing(by accident), in the end, me and a girl laughed and spoke for 40 minutes because of it.

Porn addiction tends to get you in that direction, you can contact your internet service provider and ask them to put on a family filter. If you feel that that’s embarrassing just tell them you have a kid. Then again who knows, maybe you like guys. At least half of the human population likes them so you won’t be alone.

If you are charming enough you won’t need to close. They’ll want to close you. Positivity and life-satisfaction are key here. Key mindsets. Make sure you are going out to have fun. (Not to get girls etc). Make sure you are in a good mood when you go out. When you get to your destination, don’t take yourself too seriously. Goofing around gets you incredibly far. Doing large, silly dances on the dance-floor for instance. Not only because you are having fun, but also because people want to hang out with you because you seem fun to hang out with.

When you say close, what do you mean? Get number, get inside pants?

I don't see this is a problem, now you have double the amount of potential partners. Downsides? I don't see any.

Do you like her?

Messaging people is often a selfish thing to do. Let’s say that you are bored or lonely and so you message a friend asking them how they are doing. Your basically asking them to entertain you in a dishonest way. People don’t want to used and so they will be reluctant if they notice that the conversation goes nowhere.

Asked her out via Snapchat. Work just as well as via text.

I'm going to be making quite some money soon. Charity is one of the alternatives I'm looking at to spend it on. Do you have any charities you like or could recommend? Preferably one that allows anonymous donations.

I can give you a handicap if you are struggling

Quite rude to kill a bunch of people in order to assassinate one.

Exercise more. Maybe lift some weights. As for aggression try gratitude journaling.

Let’s be honest , I and I’m sure a lot of others treat this forum like a micro-hobby. That’s not it’s intended purpose and helping by “blocking” pointless debates/topics prevents people from wasting even more time here.

Do the hard thing and stop spending time with her and stop texting with her.

I’d restrain from gambling if I were you. It’s bad for you even if you win.

I lent out money in high school to some “friends”. No more than 50 USD but I learned my lesson. I fully agree with Leo. Maybe with a slight caveat: any sum worth remembering. @Dylan Page Take a baseball bat, and go into the woods and take it out on a tree. Catharsis is a great way to move on.

@Dingo They enjoy each other’s company and the intimacy the relationship offers.

Live and let live, as they say.

Femininity/masculinity is a silly paradigm. Here is the definition of masculinely: qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men. It’s a circular description. Sure guys and girls have biological differences but in the end we want the same thing, we just sometimes go about it in different ways.

Happy holidays

Bruh, lame sex is awful; instant regret. You just feel dirty in a bad way. Nofap however

I was eating bolognese on vacation in Italy, I got covered in the sauce. I was 3-4ish.

Overall I'd say 7/10. Graduated from Uni, moved to the city I've always wanted to live in. Took unreasonably long to find a place of employment, but I did eventually. I miss my friends, who only I get to text/call. My only real goals for this year was to graduate, find a place of employment and start going to the gym. All three was a success. 2020 goals: buy a flat, make some new Swedish friends, spend more time with my father, get a GF, continue implementing habits, get my finances/insurances in check and visit some friends abroad. Note I specify Swedish because I only have non-Swedish friends atm.

Confidence is a key factor here. Testosterone also if you want a deeper voice. Charisma matrix has a “bootcamp” on the topic, haven’t done it myself but maybe worth a try?

Less energy spent, less food needed, higher chance of survival.