Spiral

Cold showers to stay healthy and warm during the winter months. Not really the advice you want tho

A heard a “hot witch girlfriend” is the rolls royce of a girlfriend. I want the best, so suppose that’s what I want. On a serious note. A friend I enjoy sex and cuddles with. Bonus points if she really likes what she does for a living.

You could say they are already inside. I didn’t know they care.

@Vzdoh Fear isn’t reasonable! Besides if you don’t fear the lion before it attacks you. It’s too late to be afraid. So to me it seems like a high risk low reward sort of thing. Which isn’t a great investment. That being said I’ll still do it. Was in a relationship a few of months ago. It’s easier with a girl you know very well and trust to act sympathetically and honestly towards you and others.

Confidence and nothing better to do. It doesn’t happen often but it’s always been attractive girls in my experience. Girl can be rather creepy about it tho when they want to but don’t have balls to do so.

My resistance to committed relationships has nothing to do with girls I’ve dated or that want to have a lot of girls sexually. If I have my needs meet I’m happy. My issue comes from what I see in my family, friends and colleagues relationships. Their relationship to me seem terrible and toxic. With the expectation of my grandparents I don’t know anyone who’s relationship I’d describe as even decent. Now don’t get me wrong I don’t mean it’s the girl/wife that’s terrible. Some times it is, sometimes it’s the guy in the relationship. Sometimes there both great but just not a good match. Yet they all stay together anyway. With kids, marriage, a shared economy and the laziness that come from having a partner I get it. I don’t want that to be me. That is what I fear and associate with commitment, because it means that I’m serious. In addition I don’t care for commitment, I’m not the jealous type so I don’t feel like it has intrinsic value.

@Random witch Alright fair enough. That’s fairly common criticism of men. Can’t speak for other cultures however where I’m it’s considered rather unappealing to associate with people who have sexist and/or racist views. A lot of western cultures are way behind tho in this regard.

Besides perhaps vulnerably and nurturing are those really feminine traits in your society? Not saying their masculine either of course.

Holding hands and kissing her(rather then teasingly not do so) seems more romantic than sexual. I do like other tips tho.

I do prefer paying every other time and girl the does the same. So we don’t have to split the bill, it’s considered rude to the waiter where I’m from. But I would absolutely not pay for a girl in the “I pay because I’m the guy” sort of way.

This thread seems toxic. Perhaps banning the “gender x is terrible and y is wonderful” sort of topics could be a beneficial approach.

Facial hair seems to be a big factor also.

The whole struggle of which gender is more terrible and oppressive seems to me to only be escalating. Making the life’s of everyone involved worse. Victim mentally runs rampant on both sides. In more metamodern(aka strange yellow) circles I’ve seen that this isn’t really a problem. How do we move past this here on the forum and have a positive effect in society as a whole? P.S No gender complaints please!

Morally its better to get out so she doesn’t get needlessly hurt if someone wants something more. Although I’m an ass so I wouldn’t have done so either

Sorry to hear that. I this is actually a common and tricky unintuitive issue that’s a bit outside what can be communicated on a forum. Listened to great podcast about I couple of weeks back featuring post-feminists. Unfortunately it’s in Swedish.

Vagueness like “not looking for anything serious” is less of a turn off. However a lot of girls just want some dick as well. People hurt themselves or others when they sleep around. Harm reduction is mostly kind bonus. Don’t get me wrong, sleep around but don’t assume that there is a way to it completely harmlessly.

Great more options, heard guys know their way around dicks a little bit better too.

I find this stuff creepy af when it happens. Power outage is annoying also.

Can be a surprisingly big rush even with strangers

Glad I can offer some extra joy to your life On a serious note, I'm sorry you perceived me as antagonistic/toxic, that was not my intention.

Although we are going thru a paradigm shift so it’s bound to be messy, bloody and terrible. Harm reduction is something we should try to aim for.

I do also think that people take offense to critical observations on a gender as a attack on themselves. Most people have a relatively strong gender identity. So if someone is critical of men for doing x, other men get offended needlessly and try to justify themselves even if they don’t do x. This obviously doesn’t help the situation and leads to needless bickering. So careful wording criticism of the opposite gender definitely help. Saying most men do x is naturally better for the sake of preventing needless bickering. In addition people tend to assume their opposition is a way more homogeneous group than it is. Feminists, anti-feminist, red pill guys and incels are all groups of people with all sorts of subgroups. Some of which you probably don’t have much against. Yet people tend to assume all feminists for instance are all the same. Which definitely isn’t true.

Both have their own struggles. Women tend to be more neurotic. So you could say men by default are more present. Men are more likely to shot up schools, women cancel and engage in destructive gossip. Men however tend to more materialistic. Violence isn’t bad by default, only when goes out thru poor outlets.

Androphobia causes a lot of issues in society. As a guy it’s certainly something you can take into consideration when for instance walking home from a night out.

Girls are different and like different things clothing wise. Confidence is more important. So dress in a way that makes you feel confident. Although clean and well fitting clothes are a minimum. Looking neat and well groomed is a bonus. Colors is also something to take into consideration. Darker is better for winter than summer for instance. Matching colors is good while all blue is not.