Spiral

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@Lauro Chapa If you do, let us know how good it is

Yeah and I’m sure most are giving their gfs some attention and confirmation. But is it enough? What if they have a fight and he doesn’t don’t give her any for a few days? She still needs it and a photo is real easy to take and post. I don’t think she’d would mind if he posted a foto.

Well let’s say you are a girl and you love your partner, however you do have poor self-esteem and his isn’t giving you the confirmation you need. For you it feels being starved of water. It’s not like you are intend to actually meet these people or cheat on anyone. You are suffering and everyone else is doing this, so why shouldn’t you? He never even said he mind this, maybe people will be jealous of him? Arguably I’d never date a girl like this but I can certainly see their perspective.

Something one should consider is the low amounts of testosterone in women. Testosterone is essentially confidence juice. A cheat for men that promotes behaviors that are useful. A lot of women/girls are insecure and society tells them that their value lies in their appearance and beauty. So it is only natural that they’ll want to feel valued. Flaunting their body on social media works and the perceived downsides are low. If you were insecure, all your friends did this and it made you feel better, wouldn’t you?

@Jannes No!

I’m sorry you have to suffer this injustice. Appearing to have atrocious hygiene may help

I don’t like being negative but I’m not impressed by the relationships of my friends, colleagues or family. At least those I’ve been given enough insight into. Women who don’t respect their man enough and men who don’t show enough love to their women. I think it’s sad. The only exception to this rule is my grandparents on my both sides.

On the one hand, you don’t seem very close anymore. So not going probably wouldn’t be a big deal. On the other hand growth is found in suffering and I get the feeling you care a lot about the options of the people you would end up meeting. I would go, if you have any interest in meet him or the people there. Sometimes we need to shake things up and challenge ourselves. To disrupt your meditate state for a couple of days shouldn’t be a big deal.

Why do you want to meet new people? If you want to make friends I don’t think the clubbing scene is the best choice.

I made up this rule myself. I call it the 5% rule. The idea is quite simple. Try to identify the average of most quantifiable traits in your city/neighborhoods/town. Then try to be at least 5% better in all of them. Dress at least 5% better, work out at least 5% more/harder. Have a diet at least 5% better. You get the idea. Everything. Something’s you’ll already excel at so you can leave them for later.

I don’t understand what you mean. Not all things of high value can be bought and sometimes are free. Like air.

No it doesn’t matter. I personally don’t care about diamonds. To me they are just shine rocks. My society values them and therefore sets the price. So I still have to pay the same price as everyone else regardless. Sure to you have don’t have any value, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t high value women in general.

What constitutes high value is determined by society

Friends is actually my weakest point in life. I have friends, the shallow type you just go out to have drinks with or have lunch together. It been like this for about 9 years. The only close friends I’ve had are girls who were actually interested in something else than friendship. Here some take aways. 1. With guys you need to have activity that the two of you do(assuming you’re also a guy). Typically this is something like going out for a beer once an every two weeks. Gaming also works for instance. 2. Some things will make you unattractive as a friend. Take care of your hygiene and wear nice clothes. Try to look as nice as you can. Also avoid talking about odd stuff. I have a colleague at work who constantly talks about aliens and conspiracy’s. Might work with some who are into that, but most people will not approve. Also get out of your house as much as possible, internet brain is awful. 3. You need to invest in friendships, ask people to do things with you. Go to meetups. But also be ready to cut your losses if someone is not interested. 4. This one might be a bit unpleasant but you also need to offer something to someone. I know a guy that’s not really my type of dude but he always gets invited to things because he brings girls. Some people are funny, some people are rich. Some people organize fun events. However be careful not to be taken advantaged of. 5. Lastly and most importantly. Passion and suffering is the secret sauce of friendship. A lot of people make friends in the military because you suffer together and thus grow closer. This applies to work also if you have a terrible boss for instance. Passion works the same way, if you are both passionate about something it’s a lot easier to become friends over it. I realize that many of these examples might not be super relevant if you are in school.