The Monk

@Max_V yeah man that's right! So can we arrange this small chat for ourselves at like 9pm Netherlands time. Till 9.20? Everyday? Eventually I'm hoping to develop this into skype calls so as my actualized wingman we can get more personal rather than type xD.

@Max_V So what time zone are you in? I'm the UK.

@Max_V Your someone of the same age right, and you seem quite similar to me I do personal development at home and play League of Legends, but judging by what you've told me I think I'm higher on the scale of confidence and in terms of approaching women. Since were alike, how about we talk online at Actualized, I'd love a actualized partner to chat to, to discuss what happened during our days so that we can constantly provide suggestions to one another to better ourselves, how does that sound? We can message each other on Actualized using private messages.

@Max_VI'm one year older than you are. Take Leo's lesson be authentic man. Just go up to her and say something Say hi, how's life? What's your passion? ask her about her passions. Come up with these things by yourself be authentic don't ask for cheap pick up lines. I remember when I actually was taking a break just before class with all my fellow classmates and in front of most people I forced myself to walk up to a girl and have a conversation with her using the limited skills I have. But what I most importantly got from that was psychological growth, as my confidence grew, as I now find it easier to approach women and talk to them, even if I'm talking rubbish . So, do what's emotionally difficult and just do it, not for the women but for that great psychological growth (rise in confidence) because that is what leads to this, and is what will lead to you finding it easy to get the girl you want in the future. And also this will increase your communication skills as it will encourage you to think. Also I just asked out my dream girl and got REJECTED VERY LITERALLY 2 MINUTES AGO. and things are going to become awkward at school. So, Don't be discouraged its not the girl you want, it's the growth.

Hey guys, I have read most of Leo's books on emotional mastery and on how to avoid criticism. Also I've watched his videos which help sometimes. However being a high school student discussing meditation and having high aspirations people criticise or make fun of me or take advantage of my kindness. Some say I'm weird and even today I was eating lunch with some friends, then although I got the last seat at the table and a random guy knowing my friends came by and took the chair, without my consent. And he also was asked who would you kill if you had to kill someone on the table? And he pointed towards me and said it was because I was weird. Which had really being troubling me lately, because although I use the techniques I've learnt I still am confused and angry that this happened. I'd love some help.

Hey Leo, My friends are disappearing! where are the high conscious?. I'm a high school student and feel like ever since I've started Actualization I've become more disconnected with everyone else. What I would personally like help with is making higher consciousness friends in real life, obviously. Also, I feel like I'm losing relationships with my friends and don't feel like being the friend either, as they are neurotic and toxic. But since I have no one high consciousness people who I can make friends with or find since there is such a small amount of them, It's hard. Sometimes I secretly make wishes for them . Can you give me some direction or help to find some? I fear the future, due to poor expectations. Also as I have a limited amount of friends now since I began actualisation work as I've become more disconnected from people, and I've been getting bullied recently. The bullying is troubling me, it's small amounts that considered joke like, so I cant report it. Its stuff like making fun of the way I look or the fact that I sweat a lot usually and smell. Confused? As to Why people are bullying/ making fun of me, since I did nothing to them, I'm just in their presence. Sometimes not even communicating directly to them. Stuck? I'm stuck on whether or not I can laugh (this is a question I've posted twice , but got no definitive answer to) since laughing at someone grows the ego, and someone laughing at you grows their ego and psychological and physical suffering, as a result. So my main concern is can I laugh? What can I laugh at? Also I'm stuck with conversations as I'm struggling to have conversations with girls and boys as I usually cant relate to them, and feel like I'm being awkward sometimes. Wondering if you could help me with being a good conversation maker that will help me make friends and relationships.

@Ray Hey Man, I like this idea. I actually had a friend who was a Life Purpose partner, but he remained unaccountable and didn't like being held accountable for what he did, and didn't like that I focused on habits that he didn't. E.g. Mediation. So I was thinking that because of geographical boundaries I wouldn't be able be a face to face life purpose partner, but I would be happy to join you and your in real life, life purpose buddy. I would do this by communicating with you on a daily basis. This would be preferably on a kind of group chat e.g. on Actualized. I would be grateful if I could join you!

Habit Streak from the 3rd of April Meditated for 20 minutes. Read self help book for 1 hour. Took care of myself, and rested. Studied for 1 hour and 30 minutes. Didn't file my notes. didn't do coursework. Did I learn from the mistakes of 2nd of April? I did to an extent, as I did watch videos for a large amount of time, but now I'm getting over videos and T.V shows and limiting my time around them. Which is good. What mistakes did I make on the 3rd of April and how can I learn from them? Spent too much time watching T.V shows and YouTube. But I'm overcoming that. Objectives to meet by the end of today Meditate for 20 minutes. Do Exercise. Eat healthy. Do C/W for 3 hours and 50 minutes. Read self help book for 30 minutes/

9.15, 20th October England. So, here it all begins, the path to try to attain amazing grades, enlightenment, freedom, peace, tranquility, and to truly alter the world for the better, by the time of my inevitable death. Firstly It's time for changes to the habits that I have created. I'm going to meditate a lot, eliminate games, and meaningless youtube and internet browsing and clean up my diet, as well as read some self-help books daily. But, so far none have bee created so, I'm going to start on creating a solid meditation habit, work/studying habit, and eliminate watching youtube, or reduce my time significantly, day by day. Even though Homeostatsis will be felt I must remain strong willed and focused to allow the purifying fire of reality to shape me into what I will become...

Hey Guys, I need help! I want to get into a functional relationship, but I don't want to be needy for sex, how do I get rid of this? In one of Leo's videos I recall him saying go into lots of relationships have sex and burn it out of your system. But that's something I don't want to do, and can't do. So what are your suggestions, and how do I get rid of my neediness for sex? Thanks for your suggestions

@egoeimai That's a great video!! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@Leo Gura I know we said I should try figure this out myself, but I can't and I really would appreciate your help.

@Shin But when approach a girl I think about her body and having sex. I WANT TO GET RID OF THIS SO BADLY!

????? to realise how stupid it is?

@egoeimai and how do I do that?

@egoeimai How do I do that?

@Shin but I don't want to die. So I should just meditate? And hope to gain enlightenment? Also I watch porn could it be caused by that? Also does the first option really work? @Shin

@Shin Do you no longer neediness for sex? be honest. And if you ever did how did you get rid of it?

@egoeimai It's just when I see attractive girls it occurs.

Habit streak from the 2nd of April didn't meditate. Read self help book. Took care of myself. Exercised. didn't study. Didn't eat healthy. Re-planned my time. Did I learn from the mistakes of April the 1st? NO, AND I'm pissed off. I'm trying to overcome this because it disgusts me how much time I spend doing stupid crap like watching YouTube, TV shows and porn. I'm currently trying to overcome this addiction. I am starting today (quitting for 30 days to see if I'm addicted) What mistakes did I made on the 2nd of April and how can I learn from them? I spent far too much time watching TV shows, YouTube, and talking to others. So, I'm going to read about how to overcome resistance and also use what I already now to do this. Objectives to meet by the end of today Meditate for 20 minutes. Read self help book for 1 hour. Do coursework for 2/3 hours. studying for 1 hour. File my notes (optional if I have time)

Habit Streak from the 1st of April Meditated for 20 minutes. Read self help book for 30 minutes. Took care of myself. Studied but only for 2 hours and 30 minutes. Objectives to meet by the end of today Meditate for 20 minutes. Read self help book for 30 minutes. Practice calligraphy for 1 hour. Exercise. 30 minutes. Study 3 hours. Re- plan my time . Take care of myself by eating healthy. Did I learn from the mistakes of the 31st of March? I did I overcame resistance and I WILL continue to do so for the rest of my life. But although I did waste 3 hours watching YouTube videos and T.V. Programmes today I will make sure that when I catch myself wearing away from doing what's important I will redirect my attention. What were the mistakes of April the 1st and how can I learn from them? I spent too much time watching T.V. Shows and YouTube videos, exactly 3 hours! Which really made me feel disgusted, but it was just resistance. But today I will apply the techniques I've learnt to overcome resistance until there is none left.

Habit streak from the 31st of March Didn't meditate. Did read self help book. Didn't prepare myself for tomorrow. Did exercise. Didn't do h/w or study. Objectives to meet by the end of today Meditate for 20 minutes. Read self help book for 30 minutes. Motivate myself. Take care of myself. Study. (3-4 hours). Did I learn from the mistakes of 30th of March? I did eventually eliminate distractions, and did overcome resistance, but it was too late I spent 5 hours doing meaningless things again. So, I will try harder today to ensure that I am capable of meeting my objectives by overcoming resistance. What can I learn from 31 of March and how can I use that to help me? What I did learn is that I should definitely do less talking and saying I'll do things, because saying isn't doing, doing is doing. And I NEED TO APPLY what I've learnt to slay my greatest dragon resistance to be the hero of my own story.

Habit Streak from the 30th of March Didn't meditate. Prepared myself for tomorrow. didn't wake up early to watch a motivational video. Objectives to meet by the end of today Meditate for 20 minutes. Read self help books. prepare myself for tomorrow. Do exercise. Do h/w. Go to sleep on time and wake up early. Did I learn from my mistakes? NO YOU STILL SPENT 5 HOURS ON YOUTUBE!. Did take action but it was late and around 8pm, when actually I got home at 3pm. What can I learn and how can I improve from this? Overcome resistance, by using what you already know! Both resistance from you and others! Eliminate distractions

Habit Streak from the 29th of March Nothing........ Objectives to meet by the end of today Meditate for 20 minutes Prepare myself for tomorrow. Wake up early and watch a motivational video. What have I learnt from the mistakes of yesterday and how can I learn from them? Stop wasting time YOU SPEND 5 HOURS WATCHING YOUTUBE VIDEOS. Don't just know its bad, FUCKING TAKE ACTION!!! I'M SICK AND TIRED OF THIS, YOU ARE GREATLY LIMITING YOUR POTENTIAL AND YOU KNOW IT! Also STOP being pushed around if someone says do this or that SAY NO! YOU HAVE SHIT TO DO HAVE PRIORITIES AND MAKE SURE THEY ARE MET! MEET YOUR HIGHER PURPOSE.

I think that the new format of the journals was good, but its simply time too time consuming, and as most of it is repetition I think its unnecessary, so I'm going to take Bruce Lee's advice and 'absorb what is useful and keep what is useless' but that obviously will be done in the form a journal. So, I will keep what is useful and leave what is not.do So the sections I believe are the most useful are mistakes I made, did I learn from it? what habits did I complete, and what I need to do by the end of the day. As these will allow my to learn from mistakes and thus, enhance the quality of my life. And it will make me prepared for the day, as it will be planned out and ready to be completed. Mistakes made on the 25th of March -rather than get immediate stimulation or gratification I should have kept eating healthy and learning, rather than going on Facebook, Instagram or YouTube. -stop arguing with low consciousness and unaware people, as they will never realise what they are doing is bad. And thus, just limit your time around them. Habit Habit streak from the 25th of March - no meditation. -no exercise. -Ate relatively healthy. -studied for 4 hours. -didn't get time to read self help books. Objectives to meet by the end of today -Meditate for 30 minutes. -Do coursework 1. 30 minutes. -Learn 2 hour and 20 minutes. -Exercise for 20 minutes. -Eat healthy. -Prepare for tomorrow. -Take care of myself e.g. take my medicine. -Motivate myself.