The Monk

@Sukhpaal I was in the same situation you were in, but I'm happy now by myself. Remember this you are only ready for a relationship when you realize you don't need one, and since you don't need one, you don't need one . But, It's definitely good that you've acknowledged the fact that you are avoiding the pain, so like my good friend @Max_V "look inward, be quiet and just meditate. So, leave her you're not ready for a relationship and what you will create is simply a dysfunctional relationship rather than something forged with true authentic love from two non-needy entities, because that's what neediness creates. Additionally, in order to incorporate this into your meditation practice, and see quick results you can shut your eyes and say to yourself in your head whilst sitting down and meditating, imagine yourself drifting away from x and no longer needing her because you are happy by yourself visualize yourself breaking a shackle chaining you and her together by the hand and you then walking away with a smile on your face , then simply continue meditating. This is what I personally do as well since I had the same problem a while back with another girl with myself being needy, but now I really am happy by myself and I am seeing great results. Thanks to my good friend @Max_V whatever choice you make, Good luck!

Hey guys and girls, I've been having a real problem lately, and that is I can't be detached from needing a girl in my life. She is of similar age to me and enjoys life, but I seem to be very attracted to her. Since she has an awesome life and isn't needy of anyone else. I think she has also come to realize that I have a crush on her and she seems not to care, she says she doesn't want a relationship, because she is happy with what she has. But still I'm attached to her since I think about her and have dreams about her.So I feel like I want what she has, which is the ability to see attractive people and not get attached to them or not need to be in a relationship with them, or even friends with them and still be happy. How can I do this? How can I stop thinking about her and get the sense of detachment that she has gained? Also she doesn't meditate she's just a high school girl who studies a lot so where and how did she develop this profound power? Because I don't have it feel sad that I'm not in a relationship with her and I think constantly about her. So this is what I also want. Because, I was actually talking to her on Facebook and I realized that I was subtly trying to re-kindle the chance of us getting into a relationship , but she wasn't and doesn't want to how can I do this? Stop thinking, so caring, stop getting angry/ frustrated/ upset, and become detached from needing anyone? Also I've already watched Leo's video on how to be attractive, but I feel like it just doesn't give enough information on how to really end this once and for all. Thanks for the suggestions guys. I really appreciate them as, they have the ability to improve my life greatly and change the world for the better.

Hey Guys, I just finished watching Leo's video 30 ways how society fucks you in the ass and finished writing up my notes on the topic. But I would love it if someone could give me a definition of what low consciousness really is to allow myself to better understand how these 30 things are appealing to the low consciousness in me, any related videos would also be helpful. I defined as when one exhibits irrational, illogical behavior found in chimps is this correct and do I have any thing to add to this? I'm a bit unsure as to whether it's correct or not. Thanks for the help guys.

Hey guys and girls, I've been having a real problem lately, and that is I can't be detached from needing a girl in my life. She is of similar age to me and enjoys life, but I seem to be very attracted to her. Since she has an awesome life and isn't needy of anyone else. I think she has also come to realize that I have a crush on her and she seems not to care, she says she doesn't want a relationship, because she is happy with what she has. But still I'm attached to her since I think about her and have dreams about her. So I feel like I want what she has, which is the ability to see attractive people and not get attached to them or not need to be in a relationship with them, or even friends with them and still be happy. How can I do this? How can I stop thinking about her and get the sense of detachment that she has gained? Also she doesn't meditate she's just a high school girl who studies a lot so where and how did she develop this profound power? Because I don't have it feel sad that I'm not in a relationship with her and I think constantly about her. So this is what I also want. Because, I was actually talking to her on Facebook and I realized that I was subtly trying to re-kindle the chance of us getting into a relationship , but she wasn't and doesn't want to how can I do this? Stop thinking, so caring, stop getting angry/ frustrated/ upset, and become detached from needing anyone? Also I've already watched Leo's video on how to be attractive, but I feel like it just doesn't give enough information on how to really end this once and for all. Thanks for the suggestions guys. I really appreciate them as, they have the ability to improve my life greatly and change the world for the better.

I thought that this is a topic that needs to be addressed since many personally don't understand it including myself.

@Loreena @Shin @ajasatya @Nahm I was asked by a friend to add you to this, since you are all known for given good advice. So, as amazing advice givers please listen and answer. I'm having a huge issue, I live with exceptionally neurotic, toxic manipulative controlling parents, and I'm 18 years old I just finished school and staying at home full time. The problem is that they are always fighting and shouting and this gives me headaches makes me stressed and have an expectation of me to do things for them such as, chores when I am working on personal development and other things. Since it's 'tradition' because I'm younger. I also get verbally abused by my brother on a daily basis and I don't know what to do. Additionally, my parents don't allow me to talk to girls since it's not 'tradition' and harms their own pride, and so I'm scolded for talking, being close to, or being friends with any girls, as they want me to marry my cousin which I think is disgusting and will lead to a a very dysfunctional relationship and me dying unhappy if I do so. Which really saddens me because they are constricting what I can and can't do. It's like I'm living in a cage and they controlling me. When I try reason with them they say that they will run away and never come back or tell me about how their parents did the same and so I should shut up (whilst shouting at the top of their voices) or they threaten me by saying how they will take away my laptop or kick me out of the house. What do I do, I can't afford to live on my own since i'm only 18? I have also gotten serious stress problems arising because of this and have no one to talk to, I tell them I have stress and they think the solution is to go to my cousins house to play? But really it's that I want a life where I can do the things I want. I also can't even spend my own money to buy self help courses or books. Even though I worked hard to earn that money? I also am worried about bad grades. I have What do I do? What do I do? I've gotten huge stress because of this, and because of this I believe I grind my teeth in my sleep, and so that is literally destroying my teeth, and the only solution is to lower my stress. What do I do? I feel hopeless, trapped and very sad. perhaps even, suicidal.

@Loreena that's what I was thinking tbh. My parents actually own houses and rent them I wanted to have a room in one of them, but it seems like they won't give me one, since they want the income that it provides

@ajasatya but I think that although I have the ability to move out, it will significantly hinder my growth if I leave with no laptop or self development books which are in my house?

@ajasatya Like I said I'm 18 and don't have the money to do so. So therefore, if I suddenly 'get out' I would likely die of starvation on the streets or lack of warmth or since I live in a rough area I'd likely die. So now what do you suggest I do realistically because that option is out the window. I have already considered that.

Hi guys, do you know any people who are enlightened 2016, who I can listen to? And what are the characteristics of enlightened people?

What is meant by being, what is it? and when do I have it? Why does Leo emphasis this so much? Thanks for your knowledge

Hey guys, I recently went to a party with 18 year old smoking drugs and doing alcohol. Obviously I don't drink or smoke, so what I focused on was social interactions I had interactions with 7 different girls, and 5 of them gave me a hug, but to be honest I asked for a hug from 2 of the girls. Only 3 of them gave me a hug without asking. Would you say this is good and I should do this more often? But the problem is I didn't tell my parents where I was going or what I was doing or else they would have come searching for me and found out what I was doing, apparently my mum was crying and really stressed when I got home she shouted at me a lot because I said I was going to a friends house and I didn't tell her where I was, but I couldn't regardless or she wouldn't have let me go to the party . What do you guys think is this good or bad? I'm an introvert btw.

Hey Guys and Girls, recently, I've been losing a lot of low consciousness demotivated friends who are actually motivated by selfish desires. So I'm basically here to make so new friends. If any of this stuff resonates with you let me know and maybe we can get to know each other, motivate each other, aid one another, and enjoy each others company. Who Am I? I can't really tell you who I am till I really know you on a deep level like with some of my other actualized friends, sorry but it's just because of the toxic and dysfunctional people I'm surrounded by in real life, and to be honest I would like get punished for going on this path, but I'm my own man and I'm here to greet ya'll. What I can tell you though, is that I'm a sixth form school student(kind of like a high school student for those of you from the US) at the age of 18. Throughout my life I've been bullied from the age of 10-18, but to be honest with you at the age of 8 I was a bully and I did terrible things. The subjects I study for my A levels are Economics (love it), History (love it), and Politics (Don't like it so much now that I've realized what it does to people and how most people act whilst supposedly studying Politics, even though that's the subject I'm best at . Also I'm a boy. Things I like Walks with Nature. Walks with Friends. Learning new things about self- development, and having wonderful insights into how I can improve myself. Socializing ( Having trouble with this though, I'm become an introvert, because of my past) Going to the Gym. Eating healthy. Motivating others. Learning new things about the human body and how it functions and how to maximize and unlock its full potential. Martial arts (huge fan of Bruce Lee) Playing Video Games (occasionally) I also like Dogs (I'm not allowed to have one, but since I like walks I thought that maybe it would be fun to have someone with me) Helping others. Praying. Anime. Music. Excellence, and determination. Brutal Honesty and Feedback to better myself. Trying out new things. Mediation. Things I don't like or don't like to associate myself with. Doing any Drugs. Being around Negative people or Depressed people or violent and or abusive people. A Liar. What are my achievements? Some level of control over my emotions. Having a few insights from meditation. Passing all my GCSES. Recently winning an award for huge amounts of determination and ambition. Gaining immunity to most criticisms. What am I currently working on? My A levels. Healing my inner self. Loving and caring more for others by doing consciousness work. Getting rid of addictions. Eliminating toxic and neurotic people from my life. Becoming better at social interactions and with girls. Learning to overcome loneliness. If any of these things resonate with you, I'd be happy to chat with you. Then, we can determine whether or not we can become friends.

Hey guys, Yesterday I went to a party there I encountered my friend who was also on a Actualizing path. He drank a lot and later got really drunk, but I drank nothing and smoked nothing. During the party he was forcing girls to hugging him, he was laughing hysterically and jumping on people and saying weird shit. The next day (which is today) I advised him not to drink so much, to develop himself internally and externally, but he told me to stop and said he didn't like my vibes so, he said to me stop contacting me and unfriend him on Facebook so I did. Which was because I told him that although he was talking to people and approaching people that he was scared to approach before, it was not natural and the alcohol also alcohol harms you physically. Besides to be honest I think those kind of beliefs will cause him to have a reliance on alcohol, and thus I should just let go of him, he's left the path of self actualizing. What do you guys think?

@Arkandeus No I didn't really help him I was thinking that I was on a higher level of consciousness and awareness, and that I was above him like on some kind of pedestal. So, truth be told I kept laughing and making fun of him with others. Because I thought he was a drunken fool and I was a wise conscious and highly aware person.

@Arkandeus I don't understand please simplify this for me. I was laughing at him btw I didn't help him get home because I had to get home too.

@Leo Gura Can I get your view on this topic?

@username Ok. But I'm still slightly concerned about his own well being

Hey Guys, I plucked up the courage and looked at online YouTube videos how to ask a girl out, planned it all out and I wasted 3 hours studying girls, and I got rejected. I'm 18 I asked out my high school dream girl and she rejected my date that I proposed on Facebook (this rejection occurred literally 10 minutes ago) she said she didn't have time, because exams are coming up soon. But I ultimately, believe its just because of my image that she rejected me I think. Guys this was the first time I asked out a girl on a date and I got rejected, I'm shaken up and feeling a little sick, as a result of it. Please help. And provide suggestions.

Hey Guys, ever since I was 11 years old I used to purchase my crushes gifts. I think I had the belief stamped into my mind that if I buy her a gift then she will like me and we will get into a relationship. Now that I'm 18 years of age I got a new crush and I bought her a gift, but the intention behind it was the same and I know Women aren't attracted to money or gifts they want emotional stimulation. But, there is always this burning urge in myself to buy the girls that are hot gifts, because I still have this belief buried within me. I'm losing money and getting nothing back, but a thank you before I never see them again. These are just school girls BTW the same age as me. Also the girls still seem awkward around me, like nothing has changed even after I give the gift that I spent hours working for. When should I buy girls gifts? Should I just stop completely? My initial plan was stop buying girls gifts unless I was in a relationship with them. Because, I'll otherwise attract dysfunctional girls and needy girls, rather than the ones I would prefer to be in a Relationship with. What do you guys suggest? Thanks.

@heisenburger What I usually do is look for the sings of attractions. If you have become good friends and she is exhibiting these actions, then it's safe to ask her out on a date. If these are showing they translate to (your a cool and attractive guy I would hang out with you).

@Spiral Nah I thought about at, and I came to find that it actually was a investment. But I was just frustrated because I did all of this for her.

@egoeimai What do you mean by my inner world and that I have an insecurity I don't feel insecure.

@Max_V I usually watch trippadvisor (dating coach) learnt about him through his interview with Leo. But I'm definitely going to check out MAX RSD too he seems like a cool guy.

Is that good with you man? @Max_V