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In the Garden of Eden we were in bliss as we lived in ALIGNMENT with the structure of reality. But we also had NO AWARENESS of it. As consciousness wanted to know itself, the fall happened. Humanity started to OPPOSE the structure of reality and friction was created. This friction is what we call pain and suffering. And so pain and suffering have divine purpose as it informs consciousness where opposition of the structure of reality is happening. Thus consciousness learns about itself by learning about what it is NOT. And so as you start your quest of UNDERSTANDING the strcuture of reality you will WELCOME pain more than anything, as without you would be lost. And as you realign your interpretation of reality with the truth, you will be able to correctly predict the outcome of an action. Thus your ability to create your desires will merely be the reflection of the accuracy of your understanding of truth.

Transformation Series (by The Perception Trainers) Part 1: Awareness Practicing awareness comes easy to me. I often worry though that I don't do it correctly or that I am not going deep enough. Over the last few days I have been mainly focusing on awareness which makes me feel stable and calm. I also don't feel like I am going anywhere though. I feel like the mud has settled but like I am still there where I always was.

Up until now, I always worked from the paradigm 'There is something wrong with me, I need to fix myself'. I have had success on the self-improvement path but it is time to let it go. What would I do if everything with me was right? I would listen to myself for guidance. I would listen to what I wanted to do and would try to understand why. I would see my negative emotions as a messenger for my needs not being met. I would relax, knowing that insights will just come to me. I would be humbled by myself and would support me. 30 Days of Learning to Trust Myself As long as it is feels relevant, I will write about my journey and discoveries.

@modmyth Ahh, I just read through your journal it's honestly so cool! Yes, definitely when it comes to self-love I literally feel like a toddler trying to walk for the first time. Thank you so much for your encouragement!

Over the past weeks I have been soaking up a lot of spiritual information (mainly 'the perception trainers' on YouTube). I definitely overdid it though and tried to apply everything all at once which led to a few crazy breakdowns I am ready to do things properly and to change my beliefs slowly and steadily, being gentle with myself. I started reading 'the transformation series' from the perception trainers again, which I funnily read over 1.5 years ago already. I dismissed it at the time because seeking external change still felt too real to me. I am excited to get back into it but I am also doubting myself. What if thsi is just another thing you are adding to your tools? What if you are not ready, what if you are moving too fast? The transformation series is basically all the information from the perception trainers put together in order so it's not even like I am jumoing into new tools but I am still questioning myself. I highly recommend looking up The Perception Trainers on YouTube! As radical and effective as spirituality and personal growth can get imo.

@tastefullyoverdone Yes, that relates a lot to my experiences! The more I awaken the less I get tangled up in pleasing others because I can see my path much clearer. An interesting thing happened a few days ago. My housemates were throwing a party and even though I knew that it didn't want to attend, I was still hoping that approval and attention will make me feel better. At the party I felt kind of numb and ended up breaking my sobriety. I clearly saw that happiness will never come from the outside and that truth is the only thing worth pursuing. I like the quote from the perception trainers 'For a while death is going to feel like life, and life is going to feel like death'. The more I get tangled up in approval seeking (what feels like life in that moment) the more I get thrown off center and need coping mechanisms (death). I am grateful for my realisation and I can clearly see the changes in my life. I have more vigor and life just feels a lot fresher and juicier and I gravitate towards fresher, more alkanine food as well. But I am still sad because I don't see the truth about approval seeking that clearly anymore.

I feel like I cracked the code. The last few days have been quite intense and many areas where I was misaligned with reality showed up for me. For the past four days I allowed myself to just do what I felt like doing and simply observed. I reminded myself that I am worthy of my love, no matter what I am or do and that the human is a perfect creation, a sophisticated system doing everything for a reason. I spent most of my lying in bed, just being with myself and my emotions but I also watched a lot of The Perception Trainers on YouTube. This was an extremely radical process for me, as I always believed that the human is of animalistic nature and that I need to control myself in order to evolve. I have gained many insights and am very proud of myself that I took this leap. Lesson #1 My thoughts flow naturally. In order to gain new insights I don't need to try to 'figure it out', 'fix it' or analyze anything. I am perfect and I evolve through the feeding of information, which is the same as love. I am already my higher self, constantly evolving. I can simply have loving awareness for myself, and life will carry me. This was a major thing I was struggling before. I was constantly analyzing what I was doing/thinking, to the point where I was not even able to focus on my university lectures anymore. Lesson #2 The only reason I go to university is because of my parents. This is not a huge concern, as circumstances don't determine my happiness. After watching a video by The Perception Trainers ('Why The Thing You Hate Most About Your Life Is Your Biggest Blessing') I feel excited about the idea of allowing yourself to exist in the frequency that matches who you know yourself to be (the feeling I have in my visualisation practice) in a situation that I resist. This may sound contrary to the idea of 'I am perfect in this moment' which suggests accepting your emotions but I see it as an evolution. I was perfect before when I listened to my emotions and now after having received new information I am perfect in allowing myself to exist in a joyful vibration while acknowledging and nurturing my emotions. This is a bit of spiritual gymnastics, again, I am just excited to play with this teaching. The more profound relief from this lesson is the acceptance that university is the reality for me right now, even though it is not my passion. Lesson #3 Discipline and commitments is necessary. Although I learned more about myself in the past few days than ever before, I realized that just following what you feel like doing is not a sustainable way of living. I am not completely sure why. One idea is based around being in a state of love/fear. In a state of love we evolve, in a state of fear we devolve. Constantly forcing yourself to do things you don't want to do puts you in a state of fear but so does just following your momentarily likings, as you are literally at the mercy of your emotions. Discipline and commitment can be great tools to achieve peace of mind. I am still not at the point where I have integrated doing what I feel like doing and commitments. For now I have established my usual morning routine again, but I will keep it flexible if other things come up. I will also use discipline to focus on my tasks. I am very pleased with myself for having gained these insights, but the main part of the work is going to be actually applying these lessons to my life.

@tastefullyoverdone Thank you so much for your encouragement! Today was quite hard for me and your comment made me feel very supported. Monday 10/22/19 I woke up feeling quite hopeless. I had planned to get my studying done right after my morning routine but dreaded it, as I felt quite worried about life and generally did not feel very inspired. My tendency to want to self-improve or fix myself is very strong and I think I applied that tactic to the self love path now. This made me afraid of thinking because I tell myself that it is not okay to want to fix myself, that it is not okay to encourage me and cheer myself up, that it is not okay to do things to make me feel better. It's okay. I love and nurture the part of me that wants to fix myself. I love and nurture the part of me that just wants me to feel better. I love and nurture the part of me that ultimately knows that I should live a life that is so much more. I ended up not getting any studying done and instead went to sleep for about 2h, watched The Perception Trainers on YouTube and got some chores around the house done. I felt very anxious and fearful because I felt like life was slipping away and that I would never get anything done. I felt like I have to constantly uphold some kind of construct in my head, because ultimately I still feel like I am wrong. That is okay, honey. I love and nurture the part of me that believes I am wrong, I know that you are here to protect me. If everything was right with me, I would just think about what I felt like thinking. I would encourage myself when I felt like doing that. It all feels very new to me. I am worried that I am doing things wrong. I am exhausted. I am worried that my life will break apart and that I will just end up staying in my bed all day. But I know that this is not true. I am changing my beliefs on a fundamental life and it is normal that fears come up. That does not mean I'm wrong. That does not mean I'm bad. Now go off and live freely, don't have a care in the world of what you should do, think and feel freely.

@Sidi Do have any other symptoms like fatigue?

@Sidi Do you think it has an emotinal or a physical cause? For example when I get nervous I feel sick and can't eat but I still feel biological hunger. Or do you feel full like after having a meal? What happens when you do eat? Do you feel sick like wanting to throw up or do you feel overstuffed like after eating a portion that was too big?

Yesterday I had a discussion with a good friend of mine. She showed me a video politics/news video and after a while I felt as if the politainment industries isn't really aligned with truth and is more ego stroking, as in it does not develop your political view but rather distracts you and keeps you unopen to new information. Since she watches a lot of politainment we got into a debate. Her view is that your political view is one of the most important things in your life and is the most effective thing concerning impact (through voting, demonstrating, etc). I said that life purpose as in your profession would be the most effective tool, while that could of course be in the field of politics. I just think that if politics is not a top 10 value of yours you shouldn't get distracted by that. Since we criticized each other at the core both of us felt really hurt. Now to my question. I do not know how I should have handled the situation better. I could have just said nothing but it does not feel healthy to me to stop talking about meaning things just because you have a different opinion. Should I have been more open-minded? I told her that I absolutely understand her point of view but at the same time I just know that people underestimate the impact your life purpose makes. I have difficulties being open-minded when I know that I put more time researching in something than someone else. Like if I learn that enlightenment exists and then I debate with someone whether it can happen or not, I'll stop listening to their arguments when I realize they didn't research it. So how do I stop unnecessary debates while maintaining 'deep talks' with friends? And how do I stay open-minded while valuing my own research?

@Lord Bwyra Trying to fully understand the other person's view sounds really fun actually when I think about it. Like understanding it so deeply that you can explain it in your words and seeing through the eyes of the other person. Other people recommended this in this thread too but the 'fully' only made it exciting. Thanks!

But wait, that's me!

I said to her that this is just my view and that it is not neccessarely right but that it just fits in my current model of reality and that her view is of course appropriate too. And then she told me that doesn't make sense and backed it up by Kant's definition of maximes, the desire to make your own maxime everyones maxime (very sloppy explanation). I then we started debating whether truth is relative or not

@PetarKa Yes! But how should I end the conversation? Of course my friends will ask me what I think. And if they won't agree they won't shut up I need some smooth debate closers

@Joseph Maynor I know that you are probably right. But like I explained in the post above it's hard for me to be open-minded when I know the other person has just picked up information from society by default. I think that is hard for me because I am trying to fight my own beliefs that were picked up by default and do not want to backslide.

I also do this with my friends and then I actually gain new knowledge with that. I only have a problem with it if it is not a 'new idea' but the default position. For example my imaginery friend would claim that nutrition has nothing to do with heart disease and would back this up with arguments supported by the pharma industry. This is the default position where I once was but through research I got to a higher level. In this case I don't know what to do. I could shut up but I believe my knowledge is valuable. I could try to understand my friend but the possibility is there that I already do because it is the same default position where I once was. I could explain my point of view and also why this view isn't popular which can hurt my friend's ego. The solution is probably to try to understand the other person first and see if I can gain knowledge from their point of view, then explain my view if I feel like they would like to hear it and if they don't shut up. Yes, that is true. I noticed that I need my existing views to be right because my happiness is attached to them. I will defend the belief 'You can cure anxiety' with all my heart because I myself do not believe it 100%, so better pursade everyone else.

@Leo Gura That's probably the best thing to do. I don't think wasting your time with politics is a good thing to do so I shouldn't waste my time giving unsolicited advise. Thanks for the clear response.

That is so nice to hear!

Enter the arena hahah that's perfect I love it

So touching! Especially the openness of the inmates

Also indirect approach! Let your gaze defocus and look in the direction of your target. When you catch him looking at you (most people look at others from time to time) look him in the eyes and smile at him, as if you caught him. This will greatly diminish his fear of approaching you, but he still thinks it was his idea to do so. Direct approach works of course too but the indirect approach takes a lot less courage.

Learning to seduce the other sex is not an art form exclusively for the men. While it is true that cultivating physical appearance is really important when trying to attract guys, there is a lot more to that. I have to mention I am not an expert but I recommend the books 'The art of seduction' by Robert Greene (for both male and female, talks a lot about the sirens in history) and 'the new rules of attraction' by Arden Leigh. The second book does not really teach you how to communicate etc. but gives a step by step guide for becoming a better seductress, for example creating an alluring persona, personal branding (being who you are - times ten). Really recommend those two books I will also start implementing more of them soon!

It's nice to hear that rules work for you, I think food is something where everybody has to find what works for them. But with eating more after you are full: I don't want to dismiss the fact that you do that because it is an old habit of yours but what is helping me is telling myself gently: "Hey Charlotte, you know you can eat again when you feel a gentle hunger. Do you want to wait until then with continuing eating? The food will taste so much better when you feel hungry and the food you have in front of you does not go away!" Oh you are lucky Thank you to you too!

That's a quick summary of the book. One note I have to make: the book really stresses the fact that they are no bad and good foods and that you should give yourself unconditional permission to eat everything you desire. While I think it is true that no foods should be forbidden, I think you should still decide with your intellect what is healthy AND make sure that food tastes amazing to you. Although the book encourages eating healthier when you feel ready it dismisses the amazing healing power of food IMO. The book is quite nuanced itself so it might be better to read it yourself!