How to be wise

@flowboy Why do you want sex/relationships? If you keep asking yourself why, you’ll come to the conclusion that it is for happiness. So drop all the relationships baggage and just go for happiness. The Work of Byron Katie gives you just that.

I did not assume that.

@Shin so carry on, but reduce it. Cut half the time you spend on relationships away and use it to do The Work of Byron Katie. Also, try and convince yourself of this:

@flowboy to get you to see that you are wasting your time. Everything you want from them you have, because you are them. Practically: reduce (or stop if you can) chasing relationships, and chase enlightenment/emotional mastery. Very very very worthwhile.

All the above points are occurring within the mind. You can not realise your true nature without transcending the mind. Break all barriers between you and the external world, until you become it.

Well, the beauty is that without a ‘you,’ there’s no doer. So the question of ‘what will I do’ no longer makes sense. The future is an illusion. There is only the now. What are you doing now? You’re already doing it! End of story.

@Anton_Pierre Well, after you lose the identity as the self, there’s no one left to feel the pain. The pain just exists, but it isn’t happening to anybody. So how can you suffer it.

Who did she tell? You? But there’s no you. You’re just a story.

I don’t claim to ‘know’ anything. I’m actually destroying all knowledge. Including the belief of needing a partner. When you see the truth of a belief, it’s power falls away. Not seeing with the mind though, but seeing with awareness. It’s a months/years long practice. So get on with it. Fucking requires two people. But there aren’t two people, there’s only one: them. There’s no you. So who will do the fucking.

@Shin because you think you need it. It’s a belief. Purify yourself from the belief.

Yes. Very recently though. I’m speaking from direct experience. I have the awareness that there is no me. I’ve already integrated Orange back in high school. I worked towards getting some of the best grades in the school, yet that gave me little happiness. I’ve moved beyond it, so to speak. Sex is not a need. You just think that it is. Purify your mind, and your body will reflect that.

Yes, that is still true. I’m not fully purified yet. But I’m working on it. 90 minutes per day.

@flowboy I’m only 19. But I have close to no desire to sleep with a girl. If I wanted to, I would have.

@Shin Do The Work. Erase all boundaries between you and them, and Join.

@flowboy you’re creating a separation between you and them. Why? You are them and they are you?

@Highest Projection onto a future that never comes. You’re still in the illusion.

Simply. False.

@stukem You are the absence of thought. The external world without concepts. @Highest Death is a concept. The future is a concept. The only real thing is here and now.

@Ook I’ve had tens of glimpses of non-duality, and of different facets. The funny thing is that it was never a big event, and explosion of emotion. It was very subtle, yet profound. It lasts for like a minute, and then it’s out. Some however, have just stuck with me. I didn’t even realise till much later, that’s how subtle it was.

“You are delusional and ignorant,” is that really true? Is it in your direct experience?

@Tony 845 Well, if the shadow is still intact, then of course. Just yesterday morning I became conscious that there is no me, and yet I still felt fear. Until the shadow is fully purged, fear isn’t going anywhere.

@iamnotahumanbeing I guess the only obstacle to lying down would be that you would fall asleep, but if you have overcome that problem, I find no problem with it. I meditate Indian Yoga style: crossed legs, up straight, hands crossed and resting below my navel.

And can you really know that?

That’s not my experience. I have a permanent awareness that nothing exists ‘behind my back,’ so to speak. If I’m not seeing it right now, it’s not real. But sometimes, my mind starts wondering whether that is really true. And in those moments, I think about the amount of confidence and certainty that enlightened teachers have, and in that moment, all doubts cease. It’s amazing how those enlightened teachers are just so sure of it. I guess doubting comes when you have a partial enlightened view.

@Rebec If you mean evolution wise, then I’m not so sure that consciousness is increasing. What Leo said about increasing complexity makes sense, but when you consider that the universe has always existed, that theory breaks apart. If the universe existed for infinity, then we should have been infinitely evolved by now. For if you say it takes x amount of years to get this evolved, I can simply grab that from the infinite amount of years we already had. But I don’t know really. That’s just a paradox that I thought of. My mind is open to any explanation.