Lynnel

@Leo Gura About this. After listening to the Orange spiral dynamics video for the 10th time I understood that sucess as a writer for itself would be extremely shallow. But there is still a bussiness side to it and the issue with novels is well... if you view it as a product the only room for differentiation is the content itself. I mean the reader experience is very vague because every reader is very different. So Blue ocean approaches and Ux approaches fall short because you can't even understand what is happening in the market. They also fail because if you write for the market which evolves and changes every second you will most likely produce inauthentic garbage which will sell a bit and that's it. I'm thus thinking about something along the line staying true to my heart and writing about what truly matters to me (which is a issue in itself because I tend to use that to bitch and moan and complain and spread unhealthy orange values) AND at the same time providing the best reader experience I can with my skills based on this content which I feel is the truest to me. But isn't everyone trying to do that ? Also it's still very abstract compared to some other strategies in classic bussiness which if applied to books would look along the lines of : those 3 tropes are a trend, so we're gonna design a book with vampires and those three trends which has never been done then add some vampire witches, lesbian sex and long dialogue about prisoner health issues. And also how do I know for instance what is the most true "thing" for myself ? What if it's actually low consciousness and 5 years from now I would cringe while reading my own books ? (Rhetoric questions for myself I believe)

There are no pick up "tricks" you're talking about. Those date from like 30 years ago. Demonizing orange pick up is a very blueish thing to do because it goes directly against the social order and the family unit. Those "green" girls you're talking about are often very amateurish even the most green amongst them. That means they're gonna have green values but still be very orange based on consumerism and their sexual partners. Are they gonna do some charity and give poor people food ? Yes. Are they gonna give their vagina's to people in need ? NOPE. Green doesn't mean you can freely discard orange - like completely delete orange and paint over it with green beautiful hills and pretend everything is magic and "doing" doesn't exist anymore. Again Orange/Green 50/50 people are very prevalent and that's the most a human will achieve in his lifetime if he doesn't do any hardcore practices regularly nor study spiral dynamics. Having a healthy level or blue/orange/green requires a LOT of work for instance. Please be careful not to idealize those people too much because you're gonna be in for a rude awakening. Of course green is more open than a repressed blue/orange girl but that's not the point - ideally you want someone wanting to work up the whole spiral with you, now that would be a relationshipgoals worthy # : let's climb the spiral together

Hit the female with a club and drag her into the cave.

I've been thinking about this a lot. The main problem is : being truthful and honest is a complete lie and is totaly idealistic AND at the same time it contradicts green heavily. This is why for instance green has non-violent communication, freedom of speech and political correctness, elements which are STRICTO SENSU manipulation and lying. Nonetheless they are NOT a problem in themselves because their agenda is to make everyone feel included, etc and act according to green values. Socializing in itself is based to some extent on lying/manipulation - you're always doing something, there is always some structure. It is a learned behaviour no matter the labels you put on it. I mean you're simply saying oh well it's just MAGIC. But I'm just SHARING. You've dropped industrial grade manipulation YES and it's amazing but don't go arround saying you do NOTHING and it's just magic and fantastic like orange never ever existed and there is only love and everything works out. You simply went from orange pickup manipulation which is do X to obtain Y result, to "green" behaviour of "telling the truth,etc.". It's a upgrade in the sense as Aurum stated it's discovering authenticity. Nonetheless, if you're telling the truth, show your fears, insecurities it makes for a WORSE experience for the girl than if you were subtle. At no point you were considering what is the experience of the girl in front of you, it's simply you doing something differently. A truly green approach will consider what would be the best experience I can give the girl and ME (us in short because you wanna include everyone in green since she won't have a good experience if you're not having a good experience) which comes down to being sometimes extremely subtle. Girls are not gonna be comfortable with your neediness and anxieties, that's your issues to solve.

@Emerald You should be renamed as "amber" instead of Emerald because you're totaly yellow on this one I really liked your answers but nonetheless there is something I wish to adress. While I am working towards green, I am triggered by representation on purpose. Let me explain : very strong women in Star Wars 7 on purpose the crazy admiral haristyle pink air, black hermione in Harry Potter, adding gay or black characters here and there just because you NEED to add them otherwise you're racist etc. For instance some black artists complained there were no black actors at Oscars. Well if they're all bad there is nothing to be done. Maybe the do suffer from underrepresentation because they tend to have less opportunities but adding BAD black actors to oscars for equality is simply travesty. The same tendency goes everywhere : some universities in Canada wanna recruit professors who are women, handicapped and part of a minorty ONLY because hey you have to be representative and WHO care about your skills ? This is why I feel like sometime altough it might not be true - privilege is faught with reverse privilege instead of real organic solutions. Everyone should be integrated and have equal opportunites but competency is extremely important and should not assume roles, be it providing entretainement or education simply based on the fact such or such area lacks x type of people. Most blatant example of this is Katy Perry "hey hey hey" : a Jeanne D'Arc with a LGBT dress fighting off a pig-like male figure. Amazing. This is not art - this is propaganda !

@Emerald If you ever need to train your coaching skills on someone I volunteer Best wishes I'm sure you can make it !

@Echoes Weleda is a excellent brand if you live in europe.

@Hello from Russia I actually had the opposite vibe from him : college is a waste of time just do your life purpose. Which of course is plainely idealistic. Often you're not doing anything till you actually went to college or got any elaborate skills. Still going to college is a huge plus and is a no brainer honestly.

@Ar_Senses Quick question, how come you have access to Martin Ball personally ?

Yeah basically this is my orange reacting again excess green - which is totaly fine I'm just not there yet. I do view relationships as materialistic and women raging some sort of war for more priviliges since it fits nicely into a orange perspective. Like some sort of economy of emotions sexual value thingy and I'm quite bitter about it. I totaly misunderstood spiral dynamics before reading about them. Yeah I'm totaly wrong on this one. That's why I took the time to quote myself back and not spread misinformation.

@Michael569 Adaptogen. It helps against anxiety, stress, and immensly for fatigue and brain fog. I've taken 250mg daily for 2 days only and my dark circles almost disspeared while I had like 7.30 hours of sleep. Which is completly mindblowing. I'll have to test and try out some more nootropics after that ahah. Just be careful guys Radhiola is sometimes considered a MAOI : it is very safe but do it's safer not to drink alcohol or anything like very aged cheese if you're taking radhiola for a extended period of time.

I've recently bought the rhodiola supplement by solgar and I'm wondering how to take it. How often, how much, whether to cycle or not. If anyone has any experience with this herb I would appreciate any tips and advice. Cheers !

I recently started my journal because I want to get somet help : I feel like I'm really in excess orange and I need to outgrow it. First, by going to green and then to yellow. The first describes my self-diagnosis about my excess orange : So, what should I do ? Any tips on how to proceed to green ? Where do I go from there ? I really need help on this one because it's very counter intuitive for me and otherwise I'll just brush it off, yeah whatever I'll just go and achieve more success.

lol Inb4 Lynnel two months later "how to get to green fast : full guide + my story" The biggest trap for me would be to skip and not really integrate green. Like pretending I'm so yellow while I'm still a orange dick and I haven't achieved a healthy orange nor integrated a healthy green. I view green more like at college you sometimes have to take annoying basic classes and you have a lot of learning to do and only later on you realize how it fits together and why you're even using it and then if feels very nice.

Well since apparently the mind is so tricky it can make you believe you actually exist, by comparison tricking yourself you're high on some colorful conceptual scale which you think you understand is a piece of cake.

I totaly agree. Unless you've done a LOT of work on yourself you're blue/orange and maybe a little bit green. That's it. No yellow or turquoise even in sight. Anyone here aside from Leo saying they are turquoise is simply proposterous. (Maybe some mods with over 20+ years of exeperience).

@tsuki FYI, maybe I should have said it, but I've been doing 30 minutes of daily SDS meditation for 2 years by now, 5 month of kriya yoga + some more classic yoga, lots of shamanic breathing and some psychedelics. Thanks I'll check this out. Of course I do have emotions, I simply do not have very intense emotions. My ability to feel feels very limited (lol).

I've actually been thinking about that. I'm gonna take a lot of milder psychedelics first tough. @Feel Good Ohh, thank you @Nahm Wait, where is the Matt Kahn and the start loving things and spreading love ?

I was twenty when I took it once and never had any problems after. I believe the only reason you should avoid it is heart problems. Otherwise of course don't take too much, it doesn't rush blood to your penis, it simply dilates your blood flow and too much dilation MAY indeed lead to problems. Be careful as with everything

Viagra can damage your dick ? What ?

@Marinus Take viagra. Do it once and then you'll get used to having sex and everything will be smooth and fine

Got any more info ? That sounds interesting Yeah the amount of things you're able to process greatly varies with your previous experience. Yoga, meditation, psychedelics can make "you" very very strong.

@Hello from Russia Belgium.

After coming back form India I've done 2 sessions, 15 minutes and 25 minutes. Each time I stopped because the vibration was getting way too powerful to the extent I couldn't even feel my body anymore and that scared me. But holy shit that technique is effective. Two things : I don't seem to get much crying but I do get some emotional release, which usually happens the day AFTER. I also get a lot of organic insights which is very very nice. I wonder if there is a breaktrough in this shaking, some sort of deep release once you shake enough, but feeling your whole body and face shaking like that is quite amazing honestly. This is honestly one of the best techniques I've come accross so far. @wpw Give yourself time to integrate sometimes. There is more to life than increasing it's speed

@shapeshifter In my country you go take STD test together and show them to each other before you get into a relationship. Part of the culture