Lynnel

Hello there, I have been doing pick up for a year now, with some pretty amazing results, but there is always a deeper problem I find myself unable to fix. Growing up I was never part of the quote on quote cool people, and never had my first girlfriend until very late. I can easily start and interaction with very awesome and hot girls, even get solid number, and even sometimes dates, but there is a sometimes a moment where it's fucking up. (Be it the interaction after the number, the date itself or even while in the bedroom I'm unable to "escalate" aka, After some self-inquiry I have deduced that : 1) My mind for some unkwnown reason defines my own value partially by the hotness of women I am able to "get". Also, I feel inferior to all the guys who get those hot girls easily, in a not big deal frame, and I makes me feel seriously inadequate and alien, as I am struggling with this kind of problem while I am confident I am an great human being in different aspects, which of course, lowers my self-esteem. The solution of getting some hot girls doesn't work, because I have slept with girls that were quite hot, but not AS hot, and not AS much. 2) I tend to put women on a pedestal, once I believe they are hot enough so that getting them will allow me to feel cool (aka part of the cool kids, and hence socially adequate), and that sleeping with this particular hot girl may unlock the rest of it, since the mind believes sleeping with one hit girl will make the whole hot girl thing normal. The solutions I have found so far are : - Fullfilment, once I am fullfilled I do not care at all, but I only had that at the first stages of taking action, it kinda went away now, and most likely never coming back, because socializing feels really normal now. - The whole It's not gonna change my life (and women are not gonna make me happy/nothing can make me happy) insight, I have felt it at times, but it's not consistent while I wish the whole situation would just normalize. Does someone have any useful insight about solving this problem ?

Why would you say that ? She is overly spiritual in many topics and makes herself more human to be relatable, but it seems to me that she is enlightened.

It's the biggest amount of leverage one can ever get in his life to push forward and accomplish their dreams. It's just so good. It's easy : delete the person entirly and forever from your life. Cry. Deal with your emotions. And go on and rock at life It's quite hardcore, but what's done is done, and keeping in touch will most often only make matters worse !

Well honestly, I can relate, and it fucking hurts. Most of the time because you have this HUGE mind story about how the girl is special, how great both of you could be together and so on and so forth. Of course once that collapses you're left with quite some trauma. It might be insignificant, but it can FEEL very real and painfull. Aside from getting more girls and getting more attractive, and of course cutlivating abundance, I would recommend watching some teal swan about upset, trauma, learning self-love, etc.

RSD Julien defines pick-up as " A never ending process of making yourself more attractive by any means available and getting women as a byproduct of that process ". Why wouldn't you do such a thing ? Change, lots of trauma, your ego dissolving, etc. It seems to me that expansion is quite often a painful process, be it spiritual growth or learning pick-up. If you feel you can handle that, just do it. Anyone looking for pick-up materials, I would definetly recommend RSD. it's the best content out there by FAR. Althought it starts as orange, I would actually put it into yellow later on, because it is a process of self-actualization, because it's a long term solution to bringing happiness and balance to the lives of man and women accross the world. (May sound too idealistic).