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Why do you want one in the first place ?

@Niki Of course. You will upgrade yourself endlessly attracting more high value people. You will also learn to communicate better, and most importantly for relationships, build it in a NON-needy, WIN-WIN way, which unless you've done QUITE some work on yourself will never happen. Most of the concepts are either to upgrade yourself or to be able to have a better experience with someone else, so yes it helps quite a lot

I have exactly the same, but it's litteraly 50/50 ! But I'm considered as INFP. I can also switch to E because I trained myself to gain energy with social interactions.

Sorry, the answer may seem harsh but : it's because you're a match to that. You attract what you are. The way you framed the problems makes me think that you are not in fact positive, because it's like : I LACK HIM where is HE frame, which is a form of neediness. Do not worry : with enough progress you will attract many great people into your life.

I've been on nofap for 5 days now, benefits : - More confident - WAY MORE energy. Can sleep 4 hours less and be full charged. - Way more present, smoother. - Mood is EVEN more stable. - Meditation is even easier. - Emotionnal healing is also made easier. (Finally can see images while working with emotions). -> 100% recommended and approved.

@azlatev9 Thank you will check that and report back, seems really cool

@Endew Learn pick-up, spent like 1 hour a day for it to geet moving with A. At the same time fix whatever issues you have with B since A is being taken care of.

@Jesper Watch : shift ( aka making a shift) by RSD Julien. It covers your issue entirly. 100%. From start to finish. Feel free to ask any questions once you're done Also, I have started really really low and built myself up quite high, so I will tell you right away : it's doable. It is doable. But there is a price. I will tell you a bit more about my journey so you can understand. While in school, I had only 2 friends, and girls wouldn't even give me the cheek to say hi. I've never got a girlfriend till I was 20. I've had many many devastating hearthbreaks. After my break up, thinking I would never get laid again I got into cold approach pick up. And I got laid again. It took some time but I did it. I had litteraly the GREATEST experiences of my life. I won't spoil you, but you're gonna be amazed at the possibilities of life. AMAZED. You're gonna look at the sky in PURE AWE and thank god you were born. But, since progress is quite...painful...most of the time, you will be in pure pain and trauma and wish you could die. It's not easy. Here I've been gifted with optimism, and in the darkest times it helped me a lot, being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But the more you evolve, the more you overcome, the more happy, solid, and overall great you will be. And you will feel pride in what you've accomplished. I choose not to stay as I was because I felt truly miserable. What about you ?

@Free Spirit Yes of course, I simply meant to warn that just being nice isn't gonna help you getting a relationship in the first place. I love being caring and gentle but those are mostly irrelevant in making a women attracted by you. (Unless she sees a lot of value in someone who is caring and gentle, depends on her blueprint).

@JSeuss @cena655 Yes : - Shift by RSD Julien for the blueprint of learning pick up - PIMP by the same guy for learning what to do exactly => Gives you more than enough information to start Once you have some degree of experience, watch the RSD blueprint, it helps with social conditionning and such. + The hotseat at home should be insane. I've studied RSD in some depth, because I loove tyler and I can relate very well with him, and all of his youtube videos helped me understand a lot. In terms of other ressources, well, you have to select content based on your experience. You have to indetify what you struggle with while doing pick-up, and look up content for that only. Simply if you are unsure whether something (product, coach, video) is quote on quote good or not ( because well let's not lie, people are sometimes full of shit) stick with RSD, it got the most effective and sophisticated concepts. But after some time with enough experience, you'll see immediatly whether what's been said is retarded or not and then you should look into any materials available to extract the most useful data possible #scientificapproach

@Sarper It does not. You're looking for something on a logical level but it's not what you actually emotionnaly respond to. On a baseline level women are NOT attracted to anything specific, like doing this or that, but more precisly what it's subcommunicating. What is important is value. Anything that helps you survive, aka traits such as confidence, manliness, etc. Look up the RSD Blueprint if you want more data on this. Aside from that, good emotions. The rest does not matter at all. Reckless or insensitive or muscles don't work by themselves, simply they allow the person to act in a confident manner Don't be fooled by the superficial Careful there : The evolution is HARSH. If you are not getting laid, you don't deserve to from a biological standpoint. Hence, no matter how you treat them if you can't get attraction is irrelevant to a great extent.

@zenny Alert ! As stated previously : there is no magic pill. Your authentic self will not be attractive unless made attractive !

@Scarlett_A HOLD the horses : COLD approach doesn't mean that when you go talk to someone you're COLD and HEARTHLESS to them. It means that you are trying to initiate contact with a stranger. The modern version ( quote on quote high consciousness even ? ) of the definition of pick up is " Endless process which thrives to make you as attractive as possible and "getting" women as a byproduct of that process ". You have to learn to convey your personnality and SOMETIMES you will sound fake or seem unauthentic only because you have to learn new behaviours. The goal is to be able to express yourself freely and be love for who you are, so it's the opposite of authenticity.

Belgium, Brussels !

No, unless you have a standard good looking profile, and even then it's not really worth it. Go for afterworks, bars and clubs. You will have to screen a bit but for that all the major events have pictures. Don't forget to reach out and find wingman if you need some PS : RSD Tyler break up video has helped me tremendously over the years. PSS: Feel free to ask any question in the FAQ.

Hold on : I meant that you always need to question whatever beliefs your society has put into you no matter what society it is. Nothing else. Honestly at this point it comes down to self-image preservation. Do I wanna see myself as I person that has light-hearted sex ? 1) Seriously ? I never mentionned true freedom. But someone who doesn't feel the need to preserve his self-image or doesn't feel judge is MORE free than someone who isn't. 2) Having no sex at all gives you no experience at all. Not much is always better than nothing At least for me ahah. Everyone has his own idea of sexuality and if your requires emotional trust and deep admiration go for it, but you can't speak for everyone. I do agree that it's a huge factor, but it doesn't encompass the whole sexuality in itself. It doesn't make you good but it makes you better. Practice makes perfect. For me it's exactly the opposite, the more experiences you have the more you are able to create connections and have great sex. One of my best sex was a one night stand which later evolved into a relationship with the best sex of my life. You don't sleep with RANDOM people in 5 seconds, you get to know them at least on some level, and it can be really deep sometimes. 3) I feel really sad reading this because you imply it takes effort to stay with someone. Comitting is not a skill and you cannot be good at it. It's simply enjoying the relationship and investing in it because it's the best you can create. And to know what to cherish you must have experience. Having experience prevents cheating because you know that there is NOTHING better out there simply because you have tried everything ( to some extent, there is no absolute) and you know what you exactly want. Practice is really different from theory, and what you feel you want may not be what you actually want once you try it. This is why I believe experiencing is key and you should be free to do so no matter what. To conclude, the question should've been different : Is it beneficial or detrimental to me to sleep arround ? Everyone has to answer that for himself.

@Harry 1) Prerequirements. It's a book often quoted in the pickup community because it helps round out the angles if you will. 2) Everything. You have to be attractive in the first place so you have to be on top of everything that can make you more attractive. Basicaly instead of the usual Hi, chat, and moving arround, and dates you can cut the thing short and be like : look I'm attractive let's make it happen. If you're not, well...what did you expect ? Black magic

@SenshiAna@Natalya @Baby We are on a self-actualized forum. It includes (and even for me implies) being above social conditionning. Imagine you have slept with 30 guys at 25 years old. Unless you have told it on your facebook page, no one is judging you besides yourself, and more precisly your own mind. Nothing and no one. It is simply a thought in your mind which was implanted there by society. Can you prove in any way that sleeping with that many guys is bad in itself ? If you view it simply as a thought there will be no more problems. Society views sex as bad because from what I've seen and learned, guys cannot settle nor marry with a women which had more experiences than he does because he will feel uncomfortable/miserable which doesn't help monogamy. Or it so happens that marriage and monogamy is a pillar for society. (To some extent). Therefore by not repressing femine sexuality we can achieve also more confident men and move society towards a better future. I've had a very close female friend who thought sex was special. She viewed sex as giving herself, like it was the biggest deal of all. When she said that I almost died inside. I found something inherently toxic with that. The more you make sex into a big deal, the more repressed and fucked up your society will be. Also, it's not special by itself. Sex is special only because of the connection you have with the partner. No matter how much sex you've had before. You can find someone you connect so well with that even after having been with 40 guys before that you'll experience something absolutly new. Why I believe women should have many sexual partners or at least as much as they want : - They should be free and not repressed => Quite a valuable factor in terms of happiness - They can explore themselves and their sexuality - Less likely to cheat because they know what they want

I can definetly relate to what you're saying, is there any book written on the subject or arround it ?

@stalker Okay, guidelines. This may sound HILARIOUS but I wouldn't yet recommend talking to the wall as @kalter000 said, as *sigh* it's an advanced exercice. The goal there is to stay unreactive, not going into your head and expressing yourself completly freely. Here you're struggling with holding a conversation. 1) You have enough content to talk about whatever you want to. This means something is stopping you from doing so. Be it anxiety, low self-esteem or lack of experience. Self-inquiry is required here. 2) If you can't interact with people in real life, try to hold a chat in omegle. God, look up some popular girl's facebook conversation, I don't know. At worst, learn conversation lines just to get a feel on how it's done. Anything counts as long as there is progress. 3) What you say is irrelevant to a huge degree, the most important is the way you say it and the emotionnal subcontext. 4) Go out and socialize. Do your best and build on feedback. Never let anything stop you

@kalter000 Shift teaches you how to learn and acquire the skillset, while PIMP explains the skill itself on a very practical level ! It's like the web and the internet, shift is the infrastructure and PIMP is the program

Nothing is bad in itself. There is nothing morally wrong with it. It depends if you come from a lower or higher consciousness paradigm. If you do it to feed your ego, still do it, notice the pattern and cleanse yourself. If not, well, enjoy as much as you want. Limiting yourself to a precise number sounds unjustified for me. Careful here : although it might be a great book, most often when things are that EASY (in this book the whole point is : be yourself come up and say HI I want you) there are A LOT of underlying premisses and nuances. Unless you have handled your life really well to a great extent, this book will be pointless.

@kalter000 You're welcome ! Feel free to ask any other questions you may have I'm really glad because everytime I ask a questions on the RSD forum I can't get a proper answer and people can't relate, and sometimes I feel like I'm an alien with my whole DEPTH and SCIENCE thing ahaha

@cena655 Comes down to 3 questions. 1) Should you do it on a daily basis ? You do not have to unless : going out to pick up feels unatural, your emotions are not aligned with it, etc. If you're just starting and it's not natural, if you do not go regularly you will slack of, get demotivated and fail. Then, it comes down to HOW FAST you can make changes and internalize, study and analyze feedback. View feedback as an unrefined ressource you have to convert to obtain progress. You have to think, look up content and make changes, then go again infield. You have to find a balance without slacking off, plus having time for dates, generaly starting from an intermediate level 3-4 times a week is a good pace. But be careful not to slack off. Nonetheless, usually, the more you go out, the more progress you have, so go out as much as you can. (Unless you are too traumatized emotionnaly or just broke up and it still hurts in your chest). 2) Should you have a plan ? Yes. If you want progress, you must keep in mind a general idea of where you're at and what you need to work on. So on some specific nights you wanna be like : Okay tonight I'm working on only physicality etc. Some other night you can simply go out and go trough the process and simply harvest feedback. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is simply going out and being like okay I'm doing the process I've done on the 100 girls before. That's how you get into plateau (= long periods of time where you're not evolving) : you simply forget to build and modify the what you're doing and simply go trought the motions while at the very start you had to learn each step. (Also, should add that welcoming change and new ways of doing is neccessary for progress). 3) Should I work high volume or low volume ? If you are learning something practical or trying to understand some of your issues and sticking points, work high volume. You can do low volume only if you can have a really solid interaction you could pull right off the bat or that will not flake and give a really really solid date, when you have natural chemistry. The biggest mistake guys make is staying in set too long. Two intermediate guys in my city for instance spend HOURS in set that then go no where. During this time, I got a number and 5-6 interactions. Who learned more ? Might seem small, but on a larger scale, I'm able to learn in one week, what guys learn in MONTHS simply because of this !

@MonikaBcn Well we attract who we are. It's really harsh but that's kinda true in my experience. You are very welcome. Feel free to ask more questions Of course the more time you invest, the more progress you will get, but you can evolve at a very sustained pace without investing A LOT, even doing 30 minutes a day should be good enough. You will spend several hours watching content, but unless you are an hardcore scienticist who thrives to achieve an elite level like me you won't have to spend 60% of your life on it. Amongst the benefits : It boosts your self-confidence, you get lots of self-trust and self-reliance, you feel better, and basically it fixes all your psychology because the journey will make sure you notice it and suffer if it's bad. You are also always motivated to fix whatever is needed to progress further, be it health, habits such as meditation, getting your purpose on point, etc. If you optimize your life correctly it can be learned without any downside.