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@JevinR The deal is : there is no other way to get the experience, the references and to build up the "skillset" if you wish. Your other options are : do nothing. OR : Spend even bigger amounts of time to gain a huge social circle and instead of introducing yourself to girls you wanna meet, have your dozens of friends introduce them to you. -> Cold approaching is technically learning to socialize. And you can get really good at it. There is nothing wrong with cold approach in itself. But @Endew (Btw are you distant light from RSD nation? I'm glad having you here ) stated something I agree almost entirly. Hence we are having a huge paradox. Although you are learning and evolving, because doing cold approach could be seen as a sort of behavioural therapy, well...it is unprofitable. You could make a huge list of factors that fuck you up in the end no matter how good you are, starting from "the girl was drunk" to she just changed her mind. BUT, while learning it, you will have a huge number of experiences, and learn great great principles such as freedom from outcome, calibration, empathy, having fun, which it's almost impossible to have naturally. Also, you will be required to make inner changes, such as learning to deal with your emotions or with your belief system. And it will give you leverage to handle all those issues. Despite all of that, even if it changes you sometimes on a core level, making your more attractive by having empathy etc and more confident due to all the experiences you had, it's still on a quote on quote superficial level. I love to use the game and game analogy because it's often times true : View all of this upgrading process as : upgrading your gear and getting skill points by leveling. Yes, they have an impact, and yet it's usefull, but on a deeper level, you also need to level up your stats. You are attractive as who you are, what you're doing in your life, what you offer to the world, how meaningful your work is, the dept of your personnality, how evolved and true to yourself you are, etc. Looks and money don't matter much, I've seen that, and it's not marketing coming from big companies. But personnality, values etc matter a lot. Knowing languages, having different skills, reading, life purpose, everything that is making you a high quality man is extremely important. The goal here is not to be a high quality chode : being rich or famous without knowing how the whole dating thing works and simply not knowing how to convey your personnality but to grow your inner potential and then express it. With the same amount of cold approaching, different people will have VERY different results based on how they built themselves.

A book by Neale Donald Walsch. What can I say ? I knew most of the stuff but the your life flows out of your intentions lesson hit home. He was talking about how he was sad loosing his job, to which god answered something on the lines of: You see yourself as a victim, but in fact you didn't choose the job. You were not motivated and thinking about doing something else. Your intentions are powerful.

Has anyone here practiced any letting go of emotions method, such as a energy cleanse, or sedona method, to achieve courage, acceptance or peace ? I feel like for some reason I'm always stuck on apathy. Does anyone have specific tips for that ?

Are you a guy or a girl ? Either way, practice is the key.

Following up the Leo's video on why you're getting used for money. I'm not at that level of course but I can't see what I need to keep in check here. Amongst my insane number of normals and nice interactions, I have recently had really weird situations, such as : I'm always man to women, so I am clear in my intentions. I meet the girl and we have a great interaction. I have randomly met a girl at my uni and the conversation was great, and she would not go on a date and later told me she had a boyfriend despite all the great vibe, like If she was trying to friendzone me. Same with another girl we when on several dates with, we kissed, but when it came to sex she simply bounced. And now I'm coming from a 2 date where I had kissed the girl and she even proposed a netflix and chill 2 day ago, which we had to postpone, well didn't wanna kiss me and like friendzoned me. Overall which is a huge huge waste of time. Lord. It MAY sound retarded and maybe my mind is making this up and it's a temporary bug (Since it doesn't happen that often, but often enough for me to worry), but I feel like I'm getting used to validation/attention, maybe just for a nice conversation...like just for the emotionnal stimulation.

@Will Dude you're giving such high quality feedback I wish I knew you when I just started pick up ahahah ! Thank you ! It's more sublte. The feedback I am getting in this case is not relevant and doesn't help much, hence I could be getting way more interesting feedback somewhere else. It's all about efficiency. This happens only in 1% of my interactions and I'm thinking about those things simply out of perfectionnism. And also because sometimes smaller problems can help uncover bigger issues ! I forgot about the whole thing the day after so it's really not something huge. I would delete the whole topic if I could because it sounds like small nonsense to me now x) I've recently started a relationship I am enjoying a LOT, so I don't have any closing problems

I am really glad that's the case for you, and yes I believe this could be seen as a more "mature" way of doing things. But : Moving on is NOT easy, and taking 2-3 month of not moving on simply because you failed to get rid of the person in your life is not affordable. I am sick of watching all those drunk text memes and so on, it should never ever happen. Most people lack strong boundaries and staying friends with their previous partners will never be beneficial to them. Of course any advice has to be taken with a pinch of salt

She will feel it yes. Then reframe it in a funny way : I haven't been outside in a month because of x project and I forgot how to socialize. You have to go trough the fire and burn away the impurities. There's no other way

@Canadian Go out and talk to girls a lot. This solves any basic problem you may have. Behaviour therapy for the win

@The Son Thank you ! I hope so, I was seeing so much break-up topics I thought I could help some of those folks. @Diane Prego @Henri Thank you ! I stated the 25 year old thing because I tend to believe that before that age you are not gonna find any life partner thus making any break up totaly irrelevant in the long run. But after 25 messing up a relationship with a potential life partner could be disastrous (Well, you're gonna have tremendous amounts of emotionnal leverage and change into a whole new person and have an even better relationship...so...actually not ). Simple put be more attentive when you settle, have enough experience, so that you don't spend years and years in a relationship that goes nowhere while you where looking for a life time partner. Either way, always remember that there is nothing the human spirit can not overcome

Why can't I edit my posts to add more content several day/weeks later ?

@Ray Positive affirmations are great but by themselves they're not gonna help you getting the relationships or beautiful women you want You can't get good at interacting with women without interacting with them a LOT and there are no magic pills or shorcuts !

@Donnie Maybe you do not feel integrated in what you percieve as the "white society" and you believe getting a white girl will on a symbolic level change that ? You tend to project whatever you lack into someone you fall in love with to solve that by getting the person.

@kalter000 Yes, because external validation is hell and low consciousness. I disgusts me more than anything almost I'll just erase this story from the record and label it as 5 random weird percent of people. Topic closed.

22 ! @kalter000 Ahahah we got quite some things in common

@Princess01 I wrote a full guide today for people like you You may be addicted to abusive partenrs so you definetly wanna explore that part of yourself to check whether it could be true or not

I watched RSD videos and products. I have watched and taken notes on all the free RSD videos from Tyler and Julien and most of Todd's. Blueprint, shift, pimp. Oh god, I watched some parts of PIMP like ten times to undestand where I was fucking up in my interactions They have general principles and are explaining how to make yourself more attractive. No bad pickup lines, that stuff is primitive now. Yeah, it's all about upgrading yourself and cutting the crap, returning to your core, etc. I couldn't agree more !

ahah You're right. You can't close every deal. Altough, ABC ! Well you know what feels good. Imagine going out with a random girl who you would never sleep with because she's not attractive enough but you simply hang out because the vibe feels good. And she hits you up and you're like okay that's cool we can hang out but you don't mean it in a sexua manner. And I'm the girl in this case, and at some point I will be like : wtf you're wasting my time if you have no sexual interest. It bugs me even more because I was clearly man to women. I wouldn't care if she considered me in a sexual manner and then said sorry we don't have chemistry. But when you're in not for the same thing it's just annoying. @clytaemnestra sorry you are heavily off topic.

Nooo I'm suffering from it, I wouldn't be posting about it otherwise. I feel like they like the attention but some of them don't wanna go further than that and I can't undestand why. Or maybe I just went full retard mode, Sorry.

@reez Thanks for using the thread What are CoC and GS ? Simple Pickup is cool for taking action but it's too soft. I started with some French Websites I wouldn't recommend, because they use gimmicky game and are like..primitive to some extent. I have actually not read models, I've mixed it up with Mode One which is unrealistic. Models seems to be loved overall by the community and I don't yet know why. I'll read it sometime and report back I did my research on the spot. By going out a trying all the different stuff. And now by having some experience I can see what's bullshit and what's not. Just from the 4-5 days of going out per week and the 30 day challenge I recommend the RSD stuff ( Tyler Hotseat at home/ Julien Shift and PIMP are just the perfect products) that you find the most relevant to your situation. They really have great concepts and it helped my game tremendously. They have some sort of monopoly almost because of their great reputation and well..it's deserved !

@Samir It's not a permanent solution, but it's a permanent fix if you wish. Once you have sex once, your brain is gonna rewire itself and be like : oh wait it's actually fine I was full of crap. View it as some sort of behaviour therapy

@MelanieWalker You're welcome and best of luck. You have all my support, I know how harsh it can be.

@Niki Thank you I try to be the most pragmatic possible and call people out on stuff which I find retarded due to first hand experience.

I love how everyone is missing the real problem. Dear @MelanieWalker. Have you ever looked trough your window, and felt like : What are all those retards doing? I would expect yes. That's called being gifted. ( At least in Europe). I personnaly would refuse to suffer because of other people. No, seriously. Why are you doing this to yourself ? Cut it out. People do what they want. Don't care about them. Only on a logical level. But still. I cut all empathy because...well... it was bothering me, and I come first above everything. And if I wanna see any changes in this world, well, I have to handle my own shit. So do yourself a favour. Stop caring about the pain in the world and all the stuff that is out of your reach and you have no control over. Also, for the love of god, don't create a identity out of it. Consider it as not being able to master your own psychology and abilities. Being sensitive is simply a power and you should not be a slave to it. And it requires quite some experiences to be able to live with it normally TLDR : get as much egocentric as you can and once you have gotten less fragile you won't experience this problem anymore.

Hold on! Could you provide a full explanation for this ? I've played the game some time ago and I've had trouble understanding the DEEP meaning