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It's not, they simply cope with it because they have no other options ! You didn't get my point here : I asked you to go and experience that first hand yourself. You can use pretty much any argument and elaborate complex theories but once faced with reality there are no other options : it works or it doesn't. For instance, everything I'm saying on this forum comes from my real experience of going out and talking and sleeping with girls, practicing social skills, reading a lot, doing experiments, etc, what's called first hand experience. So when I said if you want proof, I actually asked you yourself to go out and pick-up a non religious girl and trying to get a official relationship without having sex with her ! Once you do that I'll be like okay I was wrong, but I can't agree with something that doesn't seem quite right in my experience PS : I usually don't trust statistics

Well, unless you pull But never use it as an excuse to do nothing ! Massive action is required for results.

Just copy paste it there and we'll act as if nothing happened

Yes they are, and unable to create one unless with someone who is also asexual. Unless both parties are extremely religious and want to hold off sex till some later date and meanwhile still commit it should be doable altough experiences tells us that the girl will usually cheat on the side x) Either way a relationship in the common sense, like we're dating/ being together/ is IMPOSSIBLE without having sex. If you want proof, try to engage in a sexless official relationship without her cheating and being heavily religious.

It's not such a harsh truth to accept. There is way worse such as like half of married women having children with someone else without the father knowing, the huge cheating rate, the lies, etc. I'm not sure how accurate those things are but they could be true and they are way worse than simply the fact that you need to have sex with a girl to actually have a relationship.

Not at all. If you approach a fattie is she higher value than you now ? Or if a ten opens you, does that mean you're lower value than her ? You do not have to qualify yourself and should never do it. If you can explain as to why you feel like qualifying yourself, or why would she be higher value, I could give more specific advice ! The blueprint helps a lot for that one. But no, you're not lower value for approaching. If you do it perfectly you are even HIGHER value than anyone else, because honestly, do you know anyone who can randomly approach and chat a cute girl without shitting his paints ? Meditate/ Handle your emotions to be in a smooth mood And to have more energy, well. Get momentum if you want more positive energy, and become kinda state reliant. OR, go trough a bad break-up and learn to be attractive from whatever comes out. Strive to be real That's the way I personnaly learned it. It's even hilarious because when you're sad as fuck and you open while not caring you are SO attractive. And you're like...why have I spent months and month trying to self-amuse when I can just go on and chat ? Unless you can talk to a girl you like. And only if you want to. Never forget about effeciency. While you talk to some random guys your ten is flying away.

You're welcome ! Well. Learning takes time, and the most efficient way you have to learn it under time constrains is doing 30 minutes everyday, and then when you have some more time during the weekends and such do more, like 2-3 hours and try to pull. This is stated in shift as well. Problem is you need time to watch content, read and take in all the inner game stuff. Writing field reports and so on and so forth. I can understand studies being demanding. To bring more balance, try to do some pickup for 30 minutes everyday for instance before lunch, then alway write the report while eating and decide you're gonna text the numbers at a given time everyday. You're not gonna be flexible but at least your studuying and meditation won't suffer. Aside from those allocated time periods, get it out of your head. Learning pick up can also be very demanding so it's up to you to entirly figure out how you wanna proceed and what to invest your energy in. But that's the most efficient way It could be done I believe. (I mean unless you study medecine, even if you study 8 hours a day, or let's say 8 hours of lectures + 3 hours of studying + 8 of sleep, you still have 5 free hours left ).

I'm looking for habits, that once done regularly, changed your life in a really significant way. I won't include reading because it's part of my soul as intellegentsia ( Ego, seriously ? laugh with me on this one) and brushing my teeth as it's really basic. The ones that had a DRASTIC change : Meditation Going out and socializing Nofap Energy cleanse

Try it. And then come back with the result. Saying something along the lines of I just wanna fuck you is immature, inconsiderate, lacks empathy and will lead only to disastrous results. Even if you both want only sex framing it this way isn't gonna work.

Good lord no, she's gonna run away. Even if you wanna tell something of the kind, never tell it this way. It's only gonna make her uncomfortable. You are not supposed to do anything. But first : never say I love you unless you really love her and it's been some time you've been together. Otherwise she's most likely gonna run away because it feels really weird. Like the guy loves me after one date what is this ? You can tell her you want a relationship only if you want one and after sex because there is no relationship stricto sensu before the sex. No you don't have to say she's beautiful. For all the compliments, say them only if you feel like it's true and only after there is enough intimacy, or otherwise she's gonna feel like you're another random guy who is wanting something from her with compliments. That's social conditionning there my friend. You don't have to try, when you feel the moment is right, simply stop talking, look into her eyes, and lean in. Also you don't have to fuck 20-30 girls to get some sort of achievement. You seem pretty young so I actually recommend sticking with one girl for some time, because it can be really nice if done properly. Inquiry as to why you want so many girls

@JevinR If you are that bothered by those type of questions, start going out. Most of the stuff will fix itself after going out enough and talking to girls. I strongly feel you're trying to find excuses not to do it. Finding solulutions to imaginary problems, overthinking, and so on. As for the question itself : in itself it's not. Expecting to get laid SIMPLY because you have what you call a heart of gold, being a good guy, being nice, is. You can have all those qualities and remain unattractive. And you have absolutly no right to believe that you deserve to get laid simply because of that. And what you cool good guy, although is being manipulative isn't that good are often needy because they don't work on themselves. Imagine a poor guy on the street feeling like you owe him money simply because he was a good guy and has a heart of gold ? That's how girls feel. As for getting cheated on, handle the fear on itself. Usually, if you don't have any fear it usually goes smoothly. You simply have to choose right. Choosing the right girl, as with everything, requires a lot of experience You get crushed infield because if you're not used to it it's harsh. And it got harsh rules. It's reality. Not the beautiful world where everyone loves you simply because you're good.

@Consept Talk to the girl and ask her what she wants (This implies you are able to be real and attractive at the same time and also able to form a somehow "deep" connection with a girl quite fast). And actually plenty of girls will be down for a simple sex relationship, because sustaining a actual serious relationship requires time, energy and investement. There are plenty of girls like these, maybe even more than those who want something serious. In reality you can get a so-called fuck buddy relationship without that MUCH effort

Never stress that you are nervous because of her because you will appear unattractive. => Say something easy like I've been working a lot lately and kinda forgot how to socialize normally. More generally speaking it's such a baseline problem (Canadian is as of today a living proof of it : he solved it after going out for a month at 16) that I'm almost AMAZED at the amout of reaction it generates. @Canadian Great Job ! Try going for the kiss and look up concepts called : -Escalation -Leading -Pulling Basically : Once there is enough attraction you kiss the girl. Then : From there you invite her over or she invites you over somewhere where you can go on having sex. You can use a random excuse such as let's go watch this movie, netflix and chill, or whatever. Here, proceed to : whilst kissing her, start fingering her, then undressing her, then putting a condom, then having sex. If she ever says no, back off, for the love of god, and stay at ease. Never be pushy. Also don't argue on a logical level, simply massage her, talk as usual, bring some drinks or whatever. What I just said is EXTREMELY robotic but I believe you asked for CLEAR guidelines. Also, make sure not to make her uncomfortable at any stage but also don't forget to move things forward at the right pace ! Best of luck!

@Emerald Wilkins A huge huge thank you ! I will make time to actually practice all things related to OBE and shall report back

@Emerald Wilkins My opinion of Teal Swan was lowered because of this whole vaccines crap and the fact that her satanic cult story sounds a bit too...made for marketing? But otherwise she is really really great. I'm really glad to hear you had a great experience and I hope you will flourish as a spiritual teacher. When I first saw your picture you had kinda the same vibe as Teal so I'm not surprised

I've never done it but it sounds like a really interesting experience so I'd be glad if you could report back @Emerald Wilkins

1) More than one 2) Real Social Dynamics = a pick-up/dating company 3) A) Be really serious about this and seek REAL progress : meaning go out and do tangible stuff and monitor your progess. Unrelated to pick up, I've read some journals with things like I've been doing this for 2 years, and I'm like, you've been doing what ? Where are the results ? or when I asked about the life changing habits, someone told me buying flowers. In pick-up lots of people sometimes go out, sometimes talk to girls, and sometimes get results (sometimes here means once a year). Take this seriously : keep a journal, watch content, do what's hard and what needs to be done and keep track of your results. B) Take action and when in doubt trust the process. Focus on tangible doing (aka talking to girls) and learning and understanding the principles. Also put yourself out there and be real. Let your core change. It will hurt, but learn to handle your emotions and you're gonna see huge benefits and permanent change coming from that. C) Don't let your mind trick you. Self-awareness, aka noticing what's going on inside helps tremendously. Your mind will trick you will excuses, rationalizations, tremendous lies not to change. You have to recognize those and move past. I could write a lot more on this topic but I'd rather answer to specific questions like these

@Philip I always tend to give advice based on all my knowledge/experience, and sometimes, well, I feel some people can't relate nor comprehend what I'm really saying, because I need to clarify all the small things that are obvious to me. And generaly I tend not to give advice unless people ask for it, because, well, they're not gonna really TRY to understand or make use of it.

This one would be really great.

@JevinR To be entirly honest I'll also say that I'll got the best moments and experiences in my life by doing cold approach. Hence it's up to you how you use/see it. If I kinda discredited it in my last post it's because currently I am in a relationship and I'm working on my life purpose.

I've had glimpses of that, but, could you provide guidelines to exactly do it ? I feel like my pain is not strong enough anymore to be able to do that @Ayla !

I can't really asnwer this question, because it depends heavily on each person subjective experience and perspective. It would be stuff like not being able to manage emotions, holding back, resentment, and such that cannot be dealt with. The biggest problem I see happening if you're with the right person is the pain body one, that's why anyone dating me is obliged to read eckhart tolle. As for if the person is not right, well, once you feel yourself strongly attracted to someone else, to a point where a tension is created, it's usually a huge sign that your mind wants you OUT of that relationship. You have to ask yourself and honestly seek to recieve the answer. For anyone. But it comes from a man's perspective so guys may found this read more...touching/relevant? And I'd say women have it easier to some extent. Also I heavily doubt the veracity of those statistics.

Well. No it doesn't mean he is hung up on his ex. And for that you could simply ask him whether he is over his past relationships or not. It is extremely important. The number of partners, their age, the duration of the past relationships. You can understand A LOT about the person simply by their relationship history. Daddy issues, insecurities, etc. It also helps for red flags. You don't. It's actually a projection. if you're fine with your past, you'll be fine with people not being fine with it. And almost always if you're fine with your past, it's gonna be fine for other people. It's an issue only if you make one out of it. You are actively hiding it and escaping from it and of course the way your reacted about it, he must have felt that you have something to hide and are uncomfortable about it, which will make him wonder about what's wrong. Sorry if I was too harsh.

@JevinR The deal is : there is no other way to get the experience, the references and to build up the "skillset" if you wish. Your other options are : do nothing. OR : Spend even bigger amounts of time to gain a huge social circle and instead of introducing yourself to girls you wanna meet, have your dozens of friends introduce them to you. -> Cold approaching is technically learning to socialize. And you can get really good at it. There is nothing wrong with cold approach in itself. But @Endew (Btw are you distant light from RSD nation? I'm glad having you here ) stated something I agree almost entirly. Hence we are having a huge paradox. Although you are learning and evolving, because doing cold approach could be seen as a sort of behavioural therapy, well...it is unprofitable. You could make a huge list of factors that fuck you up in the end no matter how good you are, starting from "the girl was drunk" to she just changed her mind. BUT, while learning it, you will have a huge number of experiences, and learn great great principles such as freedom from outcome, calibration, empathy, having fun, which it's almost impossible to have naturally. Also, you will be required to make inner changes, such as learning to deal with your emotions or with your belief system. And it will give you leverage to handle all those issues. Despite all of that, even if it changes you sometimes on a core level, making your more attractive by having empathy etc and more confident due to all the experiences you had, it's still on a quote on quote superficial level. I love to use the game and game analogy because it's often times true : View all of this upgrading process as : upgrading your gear and getting skill points by leveling. Yes, they have an impact, and yet it's usefull, but on a deeper level, you also need to level up your stats. You are attractive as who you are, what you're doing in your life, what you offer to the world, how meaningful your work is, the dept of your personnality, how evolved and true to yourself you are, etc. Looks and money don't matter much, I've seen that, and it's not marketing coming from big companies. But personnality, values etc matter a lot. Knowing languages, having different skills, reading, life purpose, everything that is making you a high quality man is extremely important. The goal here is not to be a high quality chode : being rich or famous without knowing how the whole dating thing works and simply not knowing how to convey your personnality but to grow your inner potential and then express it. With the same amount of cold approaching, different people will have VERY different results based on how they built themselves.

A book by Neale Donald Walsch. What can I say ? I knew most of the stuff but the your life flows out of your intentions lesson hit home. He was talking about how he was sad loosing his job, to which god answered something on the lines of: You see yourself as a victim, but in fact you didn't choose the job. You were not motivated and thinking about doing something else. Your intentions are powerful.