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In my personal biased experience. The more close to yourself you become, so the more authentic you are, the more overall/universally attractive you become. It is single handedly the most attractive quality a man or woman can convey. The more close to yourself you are the more close to God you get. The more close to God you are the more attractive you become because you will then radiate an essence that is within us all that we all are pursing even if we are unconscious of it. I'd say the Divine Masculine will be a large factor here, but at the same time a man will also start to incorporate the Divine Feminine as well the closer they are to God/themselves. All of this will lead to higher quality relationships. The irony is, even though more people will be attracted to you. Since you know yourself so well not everyone will be a proper partner. So it's not like you are slaying at the game lol. But, eventually the essence of yourself will line up with someone else who has done their work as well. Then a beautiful relationship will bloom out of that. When it comes to non-dual people. I don't believe they are truly looking for a relationship, since they already have their greatest lover (their self/God) with them at all times. But, rather they may naturally fall into someone beautiful unexpectedly and surrender to it's magic.

Well done and have fun on your date.

There is no projection of what I want, because it's not me in the situation. I've stated many possibilities of what the situation could be. I initially said it's most likely a loss to her no matter what. My personal belief is it's not worth trying to figure out the guy, because it's most likely just who the guy is or he isn't interested. But, if she truly wants a more definitive answer then she should engage more. This has nothing to do with me wanting a girl to flirt more with me because it would make me feel good lol. I have no issues determining those that are interested, in me, even without flirting, and a projection of that would be he should know even if she wasn't being direct. Again, what I state is only to find a more definitive answer. The only downside to that is living in a small town so you may see them again. I understand how not so flattering past experiences can make us reluctant to act that way again. But, as previously mentioned being authentic is very important here. If someone was really to judge you in that way they aren't worth the effort anyway. This is good advice. You have nothing to lose, even if you do live in a small town. You will either gain a boyfriend or gain the knowledge it was never meant to be. But, most of all you will gain more confidence in yourself with being yourself for taking the initiative. If you truly don't feel comfortable doing that then you can play the patience game or just opt out of it all. @NahmEverything said by you is great advice as well.

Naw, there is no hint though. She literally said she was mostly being friendly and not flirting at all. That's the main issue here. He could just be a gentleman that doesn't want to jump to any conclusions or assumptions and doesn't want to ruin the nice friendly chats he's having with her. Even if her idea of interest shown is her talking to him and asking him questions. This does not at all imply romantic interests or at least the receiving party should see it that way.

I understand your points. That last think you want is to say/do something because this forum told you it would be in your best interests and it ends up coming out forced or inauthentic to yourself. Flirting is a natural way of human communication. You seem modest enough just from what you said on the forum over time. Though, I'm not saying flirting is your ticket to him receiving that well. I just highly doubt it would for the reason your mind is telling you. But, if rejection did occur it most likely would just be due to a general lack of interest. I understand the comment about small towns, I live in one myself lol.

Something like that. I can't tell you the definitive answer as to why it's happening. But, all things including belief structures are impermanent. Because of this the ego must constantly search for "new" somethings to latch onto for lack of a better term. It can literally not experience the same thing twice. This is evolution, but on the scale of consciousness. Since you have infinite imagination your reality can be anything as long as you can believe in it. Belief may manifest reality, but viewing the manifestation alters belief. It is an ever growing self referencing system. But, it's not just limited to this forum of course. I'm sure you have made that connection, but I'll say it anyway just for the sake of it. This works in all aspects of your life and there is no clear hierarchy to it all. But, because of this it allows us to focus our attention on certain beliefs so those paradigms evolve further in our awareness. But, on the contrarily by un-believing our attachment to how we perceive the possibilities and innerworkings of reality. This allows more optimal pathways to be forged in ways you could have never perceived prior with your old beliefs. Which is just a fancy way of saying non-knowing is the key to the door way of possibilities. In order to enjoy the fruits of possibilities one must form new beliefs based on their new experiences. But, again even if the manifestations seem new, it never would have bloomed if you didn't plant the seed yourself. So you held everything within that seed, prior to planting/forging it.

You only have to gain if you express yourself freely. He will either be receptive towards it or reject it. Both will save you both time and at least you wondering what is happening. It will also help destroy the idea of gender roles when it comes to courting in turn giving you more faith in yourself to express yourself without worry in the future. This is just a thought and not actual. Even if it did manifest to the point where he literally said that to you. Why does it matter? Opinions such as that should mean very little to you or else it can cost us our emotional stability. What matters the most is what you think about yourself and that you know whatever you may do or not do, it's coming from a place of good intent. No matter what happens, it was always meant to happen.

It is meant to "be" not meant to happen. If something was truly more knowledgeable than yourself, such as another member on this forum, then you would not be aware of them. Everything in your current experience is a reflection of your own inner being. Rather, it is a direct reflection of your own belief paradigm on how you personally perceive reality in a relative sense. The creation of this forum and it's members to you hold the "answers" or a new "truth" to yourself. It is much like a seed that is planted in which it's fruits will shift your paradigm of belief and relative awareness. Though it may seem like something is or could be gained by observing those we believe are closer to truth. The actuality of it is you already know this so deeply you were able to manifest it into physical existence for it to be reflected back. You can not create what you are not yet being. Though, there is no self to experience all of this. There is still the very powerful delusion on us. To only speak in non-dualities is, not non-dual.

Considerate could go both ways. Some may see it as those who inquire further into topics you are personally discussing. It's honestly really hard to say without having the direct experience of being you and talking to him. I'm personally quite a reserved person when it comes to talking with new people. Though, I do asks questions when people are talking. I'm not huge on starting new topics of conversations using questions.

He could be not interested. He could be just a boring person who doesn't know the game of socializing. Regardless, there are more foreseeable losses in talking to a person like that with any romantic interests than there are positives. It's most likely just who he is, if I was to guess, and the main decision is if you are ok with talking to someone who will almost always be like that in the foreseeable future.

This is great advice. I've personally witnessed someone attempt to put themselves into more situations of suffering for the sake of growth. It was a disaster and the suffering they sought in order to grow was not the lesson they needed to learn. Rather that suffering amplified many times over creating situations that were unforeseen prior to taking this mindset creating an incredible amount of loss and sorrow for themselves and those attached to them. But, I don't want to make it seem more scary than it should be. The irony in all of this is they did learn their lesson and grow from it an enormous amount. Also, everyone involved was also put into a better position in life after their suffering ended as well. But, I'm just trying to reinforce the idea of trial via suffering. Let's just say, you literally do not know what you are signing up for. Be mindful of this, not just for yourself, but for others that may be caught up in the waves you will generate. I'll also add I'm unsure if they desire to purposely suffer was born out of wanting to truly change, boredom, devilry, deep intuition, or a combination of all.

When I was much younger with other partners in life I had a jealousy issue towards things like this. It was a question I would ask and would make judgements against them. Sometimes even use it against them if we were arguing. I wouldn't say I ever was truly horrible about it, but my insecurities leaked out. This was all prior to using psychedelics, but after everything changed. With my current partner I do not care at all. I don't ask questions unless the topic is brought up and even those questions aren't out of jealously, but just curiosity and I know my partner likes when questions are asked to open new avenues of communication. Sympathy/empathy is given if some of the experiences that are shared happen to be a negative experience. Other than that someone else's past is not going to dictate my present emotions. But, it is a lens of understanding that can help both of us navigate her self structure. I'm a firm believer it is important to give others the space to be themselves and express who they are or who they use to be without holding judgements towards them. I'm not saying be a robot, no emotions, towards all of this. Obviously we can still hold opinions towards it. Just harsh criticisms or becoming jealous ourselves isn't going to help anyone. If one believes they won't be able to handle the news then it's best not to ask. Though, mostly likely the only way someone will ever get over hearing this news is to put themselves in the uncomfortable situation and realize it's not as bad as the mind perceives it to be.

Delta 8 is so lovely! I can't praise it enough and it's great for the types of introspection that comes with powerful psychedelics without the harshness that can come with them as well.

I know with some sexual predators they do this. Even after they pay their dues if they consistently fail their rehabilitation there is a good chance they will be thrown back in prison.

An eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind. A murderer neither deserves to die nor do they deserve to live. Whatever may happen to them, is meant to happen. Our thoughts on what they deserve mean nothing to the story of their life. The only thing our thoughts about them accomplish, is what it says about our own selves. To live in love that is unconditional, it has no motives nor does it have any sympathy/apathy for the murderer or their victims. This is where people like to insert the argument "You wouldn't be saying that if it was your loved ones who was murdered". To that I would say: Two lives were ruined at the hand of one. I have the choice if I wish to add another life to that pool. Though it may be difficult, the highest human virtue is acceptance and allowance. Only suffering remains without these virtues and at the end of that suffering the answer remains the same.

My goal is to have no goal. Should I say a gold that is ever evolving, every flowing, and ever changing. There is no purpose in my life, but rather my life is my purpose. I have already reached my goal of no goal lol. I'm completely content in life.

That did me a chuckle.

Leo is not giving you absolute freedom from your ego. He does not have that ability and is deluded himself, as we all our. Truth be told, he is a distraction to your "true" essence inside and his teachings are nothing more than moving a set of goal posts on the playing field of life. As long as you are on the field you are always playing the game. The mind literally can deceive itself in infinite number of ways so no matter how hard you try to "escape" or understand the very delusion you are in. It will and can manifest any projection that will reflect your current and potential awareness in a way what reality "becomes" is always what is a possibility to your own mind. Because of this infinite nature, what he teaches is no more profound and/or liberating than yawning while taking a poo. An answer may to be this "Don't speak like this because it can confuse those who are new to the journey" but that sentence itself is just part of the delusion of ego to actually believe there ever was a journey to be had in the first place. To truly realize and embrace this, would make everything Leo has and will do in his life null and void. But, since there is no foreseeable "escape" it's important to go along with the narrative even if every aspect of that is nothing more than a relative self deception. There is still the perception of feeling more comfortable within this dream as well. Even if that doesn't matter, due to the power of the illusion it's difficult to truly live in the mindset it doesn't matter. So, buying into the story is the only thing we can do.

There is a radial sense of contentment in the now. It is, what it is. What is it? Is'ness. Though starting the process is much like a fantasy. As if your reality is now heaven. It can be almost overwhelming at times. Eventually, most people will have a dark night of the soul. Which is pretty much the polarity to the heaven fantasy. Rubber banding will happen between these two ideas with each movement being significantly less than the last. In the end though one realizes the delusions of the rubber banding. They don't just let the more hell'ish aspects go, but also the heavenly. Realizing all is equal, all is perfect: Always. Thus, permanent contentment is established. Life is pretty normal for the most part. But, you are no longer breathing life. Life is breathing into you. But, this is reduced to there is no you to be breathed in. There is no breath to even be breathed. It just is.

"Nothing lasts Forever. No thing lasts forever."

I never said you did. But, you did say "My personal explanation is that maybe a male incarnation is more conducive to reach higher states of consciousness. Or maybe being male drives one to actively seeking these higher states more than being female." To the question of: "Is it "easier" to reach non-dual states as a male?" I'm not implying that. My only aim was to show there are many biases in our perception. Just because we perceive something, like more male spiritual teachers, does not mean a male incarnation is more conductive to reach higher states than female. I don't believe you are being sexist or hateful. I just think you are asking a question and I'm just trying to answer the best I can lol. I would give the counter point that: Wouldn't it be females that have reached more non-dual states because their ego doesn't feel the need to teach/preach what they have learned? It can be spun either way, but our own personal biases will attempt to see it a certain way. When it comes to things like this though, there really is no way or should I say due to the circumstances of what we are trying to find out: "Is it easier to reach non-dual states as a male?" the answer would be difficult to find real definitive answers of who has truly reached such states in the first place. Since the idea of sex/gender is null in those states I don't believe one side or the other would have an easier time accessing it.

No, we only see what we choose to see. There are no real differences once it's accepted this way and unseen. It is a disservice to ourselves to create these boxes we put men and women into. Reality will always reflect your own belief system. Some people will see men as those that can reach non-dual states easier, because this is what they belief and they will look for aspects of reality to confirm this biases. Just as the same would apply for those that belief this of women but also those that belief they are equal. If reality is then a reflection of yourself, why not see it as equal if that is what will now manifest. We need to stop making excuses, either physical, mental, or biological, as to why something can, can't, or struggles to happen. These are once again a projection of yourself. People see reality in certain ways because it is most "comfortable" for their ego to see it this way. If you believe men are more non-dual then I implore you to talk to more women. If you believe more women are non-dual then I implore you to talk to more men. More important why you can not see the other side as equal is because the part you are viewing is not fully illuminated inside yourself. Because of this it creates a shadow. Looking at someone's occupation in life such as a spiritual leader/teacher/guru is not, nor should it ever be seen this way, a reflection of their own inner workings as to how non-dual they actually are. Specially using this as an example to make claims about a certain group of people.

I would say perspective is a better word than body. States like astral projection, remote viewing, some forms of dreams, states inside your imagination, and some high states of consciousness all can be experienced without a body. We can even experience multiple perspectives at once, specially during certain states of ego death. But, at the same time it's always our own personal " I " that is doing all of this.

This channel is truly a blessing. <3

My point is there is nothing to be fixed. It's already perfect. The irony is that more you believe there is something that needs to be changed, the more reality will manifest/reflect concepts that need to be changed. For every superhero a villain appears. The more powerful they become the more villains appear. The superhero can never reach a point of power where they can destroy all the villains. I agree with this part, though the above issues I stated will still be an issue. But, what you said here is more practical. Maybe I made the mistake of taking what you originally said in an Absolute way rather than in a more grounded relative sense. If that is the case, then my bad.