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@SQAAD @Etherial Cat Well said both of you.

100% and besides basic hygiene there is no thought to what I look like. If you think I'm ugly, thats cool. If you think I'm handsome, I'm not flattered but it's cool as well. If anything I prefer for others not to find me attractive so I dress down most of the time. There is no reason in my mind I could think as to why I should myself more attractive to others. I did use to be quite insecure though.

Then be the you that is good enough lol. I understand though, it's difficult to see it that way. But, trying to better yourself too much in what you "believe" women want will only cause you stress. A good way to help confidence with women is to attempt to find plutonic friends who are females. Women you don't have any intention on dating or dating would be difficult so it's not even worth it such as a great distance between you two. This will help you feel more comfortable and women are very easy to talk to in a friendly way as long as you are willing to listen.

You don't have to be great to be great. All you need to do is be good at being you. Being authentic is the single greatest attractive quality we can have. As long as you can be comfortable with being yourself without the care to other's opinions on you, then you are winning the game. I do understand all of this is easier said than done. But, have faith in who you are and this faith will build on itself overtime to create better versions of yourself in which increases your faith and continues the cycle.

I wouldn't be with my girlfriend if I didn't already think I was the best for her and vice-versa. But, if she did find someone new I would be happy for her that she found someone better. She would no longer be the best for me and why wouldn't I want the best for myself? It wouldn't be a much a loss then, though I'm sure it would be unfortunate for a window of time. No matter what with the right mentality everyone is a winner here though. I spent many years of my life in fear a partner of mine would find someone better. Want to know what happens when you have that fear? It happens. Cut out the fear, cut out the happening. But, to be more specific I offered my partner something no one else nor very few people could ever help her find.

Leo's largest shadow is with sexuality, relationships, and the dynamics of men/women. I would not take his advice here to heart and you should try to accomplish what you believe is possible. I believe it's fully possible to transcend sex, but what that actually means is most likely relative. Though if you do wish to get rid of something in your life there is a quote by Alan Watts in which I'll paraphrase: "Don't tell the devil you are going to get rid of him or else he will find all the ways to trick you having him back in your life." Meaning we can't force a habit out of our life by saying "I shouldn't do this" as a mantra, but rather attempting to have no thoughts towards it bad or good. Also, allow it to happen when it happens without thought as well. Don't set up goals, but if one continues this no thought towards it eventually they will stop thinking about it at all. The thoughts will stop so much that one couldn't even say "Wow I really got over X" because that would be thinking of it and the devil will just come back, metaphorically speaking.

"As within, so without". The collective consciousness evolves with itself. There is no "other" to be more evolved than the "I". Reality is a direct reflection/projection of this "I". It is an ever self-referencing system that uses itself to evolve itself. The you that is the "I" and the other, Leo, could not be "insert anything here" unless you were already that thing or was aware of that thing. Once this is recognized, we no longer see other as that which is more advanced or has knowledge to be obtained from. Because we realize that it is the I that planted the seed of knowledge in the perception of other. If we are the I, the seed planter, and the seed itself this must mean the source in which we perceive is radiating from ourselves or is One unification. The I is not just that in which we perceive, but the I is always more evolved that what we perceive for if it was not the I would not be able to seed reality in a way we would be able to recognize it for our further evolution. Simply put, once you become aware of something (specially something that truly resonates with you) you will see it reflected back to you over and over again in reality itself. It does not matter if others are truly aware of what Leo is saying or if they are just parroting it. The recognition of it is what perpetuates the evolution of consciousness. Evolution here does not imply greater either, it just implies perceived change in beliefs we have due to the impermanent nature of reality. This projection/reflection is also a "trap" or should I say there is no ground you can or will ever find with your beliefs no matter how grand you may think they are now. Because of this the "I" searches and searches for better experiences failing to realize one of the most fundamental aspects of reality is a constant state of delusion on us.

I know, I'm just busting your chaps lol.

Didn't you make an entire thread about your awakening process lol?

Reminds me of the quote: “There is Buddha for those who do not know what he is really. There is no Buddha for those who know what he is really.” ~ Kobori Nanrei

I lean pretty strongly towards being asexual myself. So some of the broad brush strokes people make about sexuality, specially male, can feel a bit alienating. I try to be mindful that my personal feelings are not reflective of the general consensus and I shouldn't project how I personally feel about it onto others. Though, sometimes it still does leak out. Though I do believe in trying to be diverse and making sure there is a safe space for everyone. I can only speak for myself though here, but I'm very secure about how I feel with my own sexuality (it's not a response from trauma or anything) and the greater emphasis should be put on those still trying to find themselves or those that struggle making connections with others. If I was going to go into slight more detail on my views of it. Being this way, again in my opinion, has vastly and I mean vastly allowed me to connect with others and see who they truly are inside. It's also has created more harmony in my current relationship as well.

Sounds a lot like you are experiencing a dark night of the soul, God speed. This too shall pass, never forget that. You got this.

Much success is born not out of fulfilling one's desires, but endlessly trying to fill a void that can't be filled. Arrogance is then born out of a false belief one has actually completed themselves as a defensive mechanism. To answer the question I'd say it's more even than it may appear. Media really conflates success <--> arrogance since the arrogant are the ones that present themselves in media. There are many humble people who are very successful that you will never hear of in your life. Just as there are many nobodies who have a massive ego. Intelligence is much the same way, but too much intelligence can cause quite a bit of devilry.

I never said it was ok. I'm just saying it's possible. I don't agree with doing so that's why I never commented on it more. Words are very powerful and with the right use of them you can convince many people to do a lot of things they wouldn't normally. I just don't agree with Leo here that "nothing you say or write matters" because even if you aren't manipulating someone. Sexual attraction can still happen if someone likes who you are, specially when we are authentic. Which is what I said as well.

Why would someone DDoS you? Sure, some people may not agree with your content but I couldn't really see you having many enemies that would take it that far.

Tech problems can get pretty frustrating. Least you seem to have a pretty good hang of this all by yourself.

Good to know all is back up running. When things like this happen is it difficult to work out the kinks or is it more of a patience game?

What a phenomenal movie series! I know they say patience is a virtue, but I am pretty excited for the third film. The meditation series they released somewhat recently is quite pleasant as well. @BipolarGrowth I'ma favorite the video you shared to watch later. I have faith in your suggestions.

Being interesting and receptive to conversation is one of the foundations to attracting someone online. Don't allow Leo to tell you nothing you say or write matters, that is just flat out incorrect. The idea here is to be fun enough that she sticks around, but mysterious enough that she fills in her own blanks of who you are. You become the fantasy because your social game is on point. Emotions and words alone are enough to induce sexual attraction. Though, I'm sure if someone was just hideous that idea could be wiped away. People's insecurities are parts that are missing inside of them are not found within the looks of a potential partner. But, rather what emotions they can bring to the table to fill these voids. If you can emotionally fill in their blanks they will see themselves in you. If they see themselves in you, well you can see yourself in them...if you know what I mean lol. But, seriously women are not as shallow to only be attracted to a picture. There are people like this, sure but to completely disregard this aspect of attraction because you only believe in physical attraction is just silly. You can easily convince a girl to have sex with you with just clever words, but you'd have to be that clever to do so. Generally speaking it requires some type of social engineering and being very aware of your own self to be aware others. Even with that being said if you can just be your genuine self without the need to have someone find you attractive. Someone will naturally find that attractive and women, more so than men, tend to find this authentic quality sexually attractive.

I do agree with you there. Though, there are some people who aren't really awake or developed that have found their soulmate. Regardless, they are still on the same wavelength. The "dream" relationship isn't truly with someone, but ourselves. It is our relativity of perception of how we see our own relation to other. When we are internally harmonious then the world outside is also. This does not mean no problems arise, but rather what was once see as a problem is now seen as part of the dace of harmony. The universe, God, ourselves, or whatever you wish to label it nurtured our souls into being and stability. Now, it's our turn to return the favor. To express the Divine Feminine in us all, while being held in the hands of the Divine Masculine. As for healing, there is the illusion of external stimulus that allows us to self reflect on who we are. But, in truth if I was to help my partner with her own issues of co-dependency that is her relativity manifesting externally though me (herself) to help herself overcome the paradigm she is in. When we are sick doctors arise to help us get well. We when feel unloved people arise to remind us we are worthy. It isn't that simple, but holding this intention in the back of our minds at all times will slowly help. But, an important part that can literally make or break helping someone find their own self love. Is to always enforce what they have found was their own doing and not our(their partners) doing or else it will just cause more co-dependency.

Very few people have ever even met their soulmate let alone are with them and we should not hold people to such standards. Regardless, it would be a very unhealthy relationship that either party would kill themselves if the other leaves. I'm a firm believer that if our partner has co-dependency issues it's our job if we truly love them to make sure this is no longer the case. Help shine a light on their own power and self love rather reinforcing the idea love is only found externally. Unfortunality, many people have their own insecurities that just amplify the co-dependent nature of another which turns into a vicious circle of neediness for both parties.

I think he's beginner friendly. Most of his content is just the same concepts repeated over and over and it doesn't seem like he has grown much himself though I admit I haven't watched him for years. He can help others learn a few lessons until one day that person matures spiritual and then letting go of Ralph is a lesson in itself. I wouldn't get too attached to him though because there does seem to be some devilry going on there. But, again part of the growing is being able to recognize this ourselves.

"Never was there a time when you did not exist Never will there come a time when you cease to be You are unborn, eternal and everlasting You are not only this You are the universe" ~Juliet Carter

@Etherial CatThose are nice videos.

Russell Brand "woke up" a few years back and now has many videos talking about his sexual days. How all of that was nothing more than a reaction to his own insecurities, a desire to be liked, and to fill a void inside of him that no matter how many women he slept with it was never filled. He also talks about how in the end it not only hurt him as a person, but was hurting others as well. Russel is no longer the guy he used to be and good for him honestly, he has a family now. I'm sure many men dreamed to be him and many women dreamed to be with him. But, he threw all of that away to find himself and find stability in life. When someone we would consider top of the game is admitting there are many issues with this behavior, then maybe it's best to turn our awareness inside and ask ourselves why are people really doing stuff like this? Even if it is to build confidence and actually obtain self security then why do people claim their are so actualized themselves but defend this behavior like it isn't rooted in insecurities? The basic principle of desire is to believe you lack something in the first place. Regardless if the creepiness factor is determined by how good someone is and their looks it's still predatory in nature.