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When I met my partner of four years she was pregnant with her fifth child. She was a spiritual person, but not in the non-dual way more in the new age way. Before that she was a Muslim for 5 years. Most of her life she raised her children out of the responsibility of raising them, the right right thing to do in societies eyes. When she was a Muslim she did it for Allah. When I met her she did it once again because it was the right thing to do. She eventually woke up to the illusion while we was dating having God realizations and such. She realized that she was completely wrong about motherhood being some divine extra special thing only women can have and having a child was no more or less special than a poo on the ground. She had an attachment to her children that was from true love, but a social conditioned love and a love born out of her own personal traumas as a child. When she realized this is helped her release the attachment she had to them which largely was toxic for all parties. She wouldn't have children again because she perceives there is a sense of selfishness that is inherently involved in having one which stems from a sense of lack in the self rather than seeing the perfect harmony that is the present. She no longer has her children, long story short she had a mental breakdown on psychedelics. She didn't hurt the children at all but since drugs were involved she lost them to both her parents and her ex husband. She sees this as a blessing in disguise and fully believes that God(her self) or however you wish to say it set these lessons up for her to have children but eventually get rid of them to help her become a better person. She doesn't want to be a mother, she has seen too much she believes to accept that motherhood is a spiritual path, but rather it's a hindrance to the self to be tethered directly to children. The children all have better lives now and so does she. So in the end all things turned out perfectly. Because of this, it gives her more faith in herself and God to always give the best for people who are willing and open to any possibly that may happen. She still sees them and has a more healthy relationship with them. She has also made amazing progress with herself mentally and spiritually and I'm quite proud of her. How do I feel about it as her partner? She is free to feel anyway she wishes about anything she wishes. I cast no judgements and she never directly mistreated the kids. I agree all is an illusion and people are only fooling themselves believing motherhood is something more divine than anything else and I'm just happy all is well. *edit* As for the actual pregnancies themselves there isn't much to say outside of what you would normally hear about being pregnant from a non-spiritual person. Though sometimes it would make her astral project more than usual and many times it felt like demons were watching her when she was in the astral.

My thoughts exactly.

@ConsilienceThat was very lovely, thank you for sharing. ❤️ Had to subscribed to her gem of a channel.

Star Wars lore, specially deep lore, is fascinating. But, you are truly trivializing the dynamics of Anakin and what actually happened to fit your own biased agenda. Though, there is a large amount of relativity to how we can perceive him as a character. He was far more than just an evil dude. He was manipulated by someone more powerful him "at the time" who feared Anakin's potential power. So, what he loved was used against him. Anakin's own fear manifested what he was trying to stop. After, he became a prisoner in a torture suit who could do nothing to retaliate first. So, he fully lived in his hatred. He wasn't evil just to be evil, but rather calculated with his vengeance on those he saw that wronged him. He was blinded by his loss in life. But, you see, as powerful as Vader was. It's not him that is the almighty in this story. Rather, he was just a pawn, a sacrifice to someone else. That was his son Luke. Luke is the light that brought balance to the force, but it was Vader's change of heart to love before he died that gave Luke that spark. If you ever read some of the extended universe on what Luke could actually do, he was pretty much space Jesus lol. To simply it, don't be evil. That is the trap. Be like space Jesus Luke who can find the good within the evil that is around them.

I'm a pescatarian, so I'll eat fish(seafood in general) but not land animals. I initially went vegan after my awakenings out of empathy for animal life. But, eventually I realized how all was an illusion made from the same substance so me believing not eating a certain food was empathic, was just that, a belief. So after going vegetarian for about a year I settled on pescatarian. I have nothing against eating meat again one day, it currently just doesn't sound appealing. With that aside I eat relatively healthy. I rarely ever eat junk food and sweets. Lots of fruits and veggies are in my daily diet and fish every few days of the week. I tend to stay away from processed foods if I can and I try not to eat too much bread. All of this I don't put too much energy thinking about. It's not too important and besides maintaining good health there is no overall goal I'm looking for such as weight loss or muscle gain. I mainly drink decaffeinated back tea, water, and I'll have some kombucha a few times a week. All of this is quite enjoyable to me. I don't feel like I'm at a loss of something or something needs to be cut out that I'm indulging in. I feel great and healthy everyday for the past 4 years I've been eating this way. Though, my prior diet was never that unhealthy either the only difference was I would eat meat as well.

I'm not sure if I can answer this question. It's not for me to say what someone should do when it comes to personal development work as a clear pathway to understanding. Meditation is great and so are some practices, but it's very possible to make your everyday life a form of mediation by surrendering to the experiences that naturally arise. By seeking all things come full circle, but this is just the ego confirming itself. By releasing this seeking, or rather should I say understanding that all the knowledge you gain is perishable, formless, and the "truth" can change the circle changes into an inward spiral. There is a great mystery here, for if there wasn't it would once again bring you full circle. Though, sometimes we need the practices to realize how important faith truly is. But, do whatever you feel comfortable with. Just attempt to drop the need or any strong desire to do these practices and do them because they feel like the right thing to do at the moment. No expectations. Doing the thing(practice) is the goal and any perceived changes or "accomplishments" within the thing is equally the goal. "Ever desireless, one can see the mystery. Ever desiring, one can see the manifestations. These two spring from the same source but differ in name; this appears as darkness. Darkness within darkness. The gate to all mystery." ~Tao Te Ching - Chapter 1

I would still say that is doing something and not surrendering. Surrender would imply you just live out your daily life without thinking about the self or doing exercises, regardless of how you perceive the actions or lack of action within the exercise itself. I can't point to what I'm taking about because that's not the point. Though if you did sit and rest as you are saying you may replicate what you seek. But, what do you wish to gain from it? The more "no self" experiences infront of the mirror you have, the more your mind will relate no self to the mirror. Potentially making it more difficult to flow with no self during your day to day activities.

The wanting stopped because you "did" the method and I will assume it took you by surprise when you experienced the no self. Now you have that experience in memory there is an added layer to your mirror method that could interrupt a potential new experience. In my opinion, yes. The answers or experiences you seek are found by not looking. Specially since you've had prior experiences before.

@Endangered-EGO There is no harm in trying. It's best to see for yourself lol. I could 100% be wrong.

You can't by talking like that. By thinking like that, you won't. If you have prior knowledge to something you did before that involves no-self and you try to replicate it all you will do is end up with more self, rather than less. I'll be more specific: Attempting to get there again while in-front of a mirror is both pointless now and counter-intuitive. Use the reference you had to find this state, or lack there of, in all aspects of life. Honestly, it would be best if you forgot what happened in front of the mirror and told yourself that you don't actually know what happened instead of drawing a conclusion to there was no self. These experiences will ultimately trap you like a ball and chain holding you back and they are only the illusion of progress. Having others congratulate you or tell you that you are correct in thinking that way is equally a trap in itself. The idea is to release all ideas and allow yourself to flow. Don't seek to have another no-self experience for that will only create a divide. Don't think about how you are a self or aren't a self. Just be, always be. Don't reflect, for it creates the divide. You will never know when you are in that no-self mode for the moment you point to it your efforts (or lack there of) is now in vain. This includes talking about it or using "language" on a public forum to others.

That is just silly. It's all about survival of the fittest. People wish to protect the life of their own species while seeing other animals as lower on the totem pole. Making blanket statements such as that is unwise.

@Preety_India All those questions have many answers to them depending on who is answering. But, if I was to answer most of those I would say "You are not entitled to anything, yet you are entitled to everything." This paradox is caused by the varying entitlement people have and how they will eventually cross and contradict each other. People have their own personal views and reasons, many of them valid, yet there is no concrete answer. I'd say the closest answer is to allow other's to have their opinions, even if some of them seem downright evil and/or ignorant. Spirituality, it doesn't matter, it's just part of your imagination. But, I know you don't like those non-dual answers. In a more personal sense of spirituality it's again relative to who is perceiving it. Ultimately there will be people who fully see it as a sin to kill an unborn baby. Other's will see it as just part of a greater karmatic plan or something of that sorts. Neither is more or less spiritual in the grand scheme of things. Personally, I would say whatever happens is the spiritually right thing. If that's her making her own decision to keep it or not. Her being influenced by an outside party to keep it or not. The government or some regulations stepping in to tell her what to do. All of this, I believe is what was meant to happen. The sin isn't the one that is taking the action of abortion, but those that attempt to change the natural flow or judge to harshly on how that aspect of consciousness is forming itself. This doesn't mean we can't hold our own preferences though. Disagree with only a mother understands her child. I believe ideas like this are extremally toxic and only cause division. There are a few ways to see it. Just because you "create" something does not mean you understand it. Just because you don't "create" something, doesn't mean you can't understand it. We are all One, you can understand anything within the One, because it's you lol. Just go with how you personally feel on it all. Not because you see the evil's in the world and wish to be a flame in the darkness. But, because your own inner voice tells you that is the right thing to do. You are aware of yourself enough to make the right spiritual decisions if/when the time comes. Have that faith in yourself holds all those answer to the questions you presented. Even if those answers are only shown by your actions alone.

Disagree fully. As you believe a woman is entitled on what she does with her body. Everyone else is entitled to hold an opinion on whatever they wish as well. I personally don't care what people do with their bodies and believe it is their choice, but it would be both biased and ignorant to not give others that right as well. People are fully free to make it all of their business if they wish. I mean.., male abortion doctors literally make it their business lol.

@Preety_India When it comes to views on abortion. I've been proven time and time again women have the most radical ideas on it. I don't mean those that are against it. I'm talking about those that are for it or don't care either way. I can't even count the number of women who have absolutely zero compassion for the life that was in them or would be in them and the extent they went to so they no longer were pregnant. How they would talk about it as if it was some joke. The only regret they had about getting pregnant was the toll that would effect the body after the abortion. I can understand why they have the most radical views considering what having a child does to the body and some people aren't willing to accept that let along the responsibility that comes after. When I was younger I always believed there was some type of maternal instinct that would link a women to their unborn child to the point where they would be even irrational and still have a child under horrible conditions. But, I've learned that there is a much much more powerful force than maternal instincts and it's within all of us. That is called self preservation. Obviously what I said doesn't apply to everyone, but it's a bit disheartening how many view it this way. Of course I've seen women who felt the exact opposite ways and put themselves and the child in a horrible situation because they didn't want the guilt of killing it or giving it away. There is also those that take having children just fine or as fine as they can I should say, but that goes without saying.

Why attempt to escape something you are clearly enjoying? The trap isn't the games, the trap is the mindset that time could ever be wasted in the first place.

Knowledge is power and with great power comes great responsibility. But, this of course, is determined by how you wield the power and not a guarantee that it will be dangerous no matter what you have learned. To simplify it...knowledge is usually perceived dangerous when one hasn't realized the "other side" to the knowledge they gained. All knowledge that comes full circle is inherently liberating. A tip would be either to investigate further to bring it full circle, thus liberating you or letting whatever you perceiving go for it's not an actuality but rather just a perceived manifestation from your own self biased. It's best to flow with knowing you know nothing, rather than be burdened by thinking you know a lot of something.

To reject something because it appears to exist within duality is to go against the idea of non-duality. There are reasons why people believe in the ideas you mentioned and none of them I would label as new age, but rather something that has been talked about throughout all of human history. This doesn't mean you should automatically believe in it though. Just allow whatever happens with concepts such as that to happen. I personally wouldn't put a massive amount of time/resources looking into all of them. But, that doesn't mean they should remain uninvestigated. As for a psychological explanation for what you are talking about. There are loose rationalizations you can become directly aware for each thing you have listed with enough investigation. But, it's not for me to tell you what those actually are.

@Tangerinedream okie dokie then.

That is a very naïve view on men and trivializes both the emotional and intellectual capacity of a man and a woman's comfortability and confidence in her own independence and what she has created for herself. Men who think like that are boys and women who think men are like that are girls. Neither the believer or what is believed to be are of high quality and thinking like this should be avoided if anyone wishes to seek something of actual value. Have faith men will actual love you for what you are and what you have created. I wouldn't say love you "just" because of your success. But, rather be happy with you that you were able to lead yourself in a good direction in life. Again, children get bored easily. Don't find yourself a child. You owe no one the validation of constant fluctuating entertainment to keep someone's petty ego interested.

What is this "honest" one thing that men are after?

Sounds like you are asexual unless these feelings also weave themselves into other aspects in your life then it may be hormones. You'd know if you were gay and you would know if you were straight. Though bi-curious may be a bit more foggy to figure out without experience. Im fairly asexual myself you could put a 10/10 nude woman, or man, in front of me and there would be zero sexual arousal unless I had some emotional/intellectual connection with them. All I would see is a person who is naked as an objected truth to what is happening. Though I'm not disgusted or see genitalia as dirty. It was a bit confusing in my teens and early 20s, but after meeting others who are like this within both sexes helped me realize it's just the way I naturally am. There is nothing wrong with it. Again, unless you are feeling this way towards life then it may be hormones.

Trust it as much as you trust a sand castle. It was "real" the moment it happened. But as time passes, it perishes or shifts into a new "truth". What is, is not what was.

They give one more faith at the time of acquiring one. But, once they are unrealized they carry no more importance than anything else in reality. Both "steps" are helpful on the "path". As someone who has personally acquired one, at first it was one of the main reason I believed in awakening. But, the very essence of it leaves more questions open than answered except the idea that "anything is possible". Though, I could see how someone could get lost in their own siddhis believing they are something grander than they actually are which would solidify a greater sense of separation. Personally, I only see it as a thing that is happening rather than anything special. I prefer not to talk about it, specially in details. I can attest though they are indeed real and not even something in a trivial easy to guess form. But, it has helped me realize the illusionary nature of reality. As you said they are enjoyable for what they are, but it's not practical for anything of real substance outside of some very very specific situations. I suppose I could parade myself around like some circus act proving everyone of this supernatural phenomena. But, proving to others means absolutely nothing to me and considering the nature of it, specially in the modern day, most would assume it was some trick.

“There is Buddha for those who do not know what he is really. There is no Buddha for those who know what he is really.” ~ Kobori Nanrei

"When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly. When people see some things as good, other things become bad. Being and non-being create each other. Difficult and easy support each other. Long and short define each other. High and low depend on each other. Before and after follow each other. Therefore the Master acts without doing anything and teaches without saying anything. Things arise and she lets them come; things disappear and she lets them go. She has but doesn't possess, acts but doesn't expect. When her work is done, she forgets it. That is why it lasts forever." ~Tao Te Ching - Chapter 2 "The Master, by residing in the Tao, sets an example for all beings. Because he doesn't display himself, people can see his light. Because he has nothing to prove, people can trust his words. Because he doesn't know who he is, people recognize themselves in him. Because he has no goal in mind, everything he does succeeds." ~Tao Te Ching - Chapter 22