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The role of a female has been ingrained in since childhood when daughter starts learning from Mother and other females just what a Girls role is. Woman are often pleasers , Men , often want to impress others. Both want be to be loved and respected. My drive for instance is to impress others at my own expense , Knowing this has allowed me control it. When I am thinking in my other people pleasing fashion I now catch myself and do whats best for me instead of what makes me look the best. I am thinking this approach might help you , when you are in a stressful situation and start to auto think of people pleasing , you can nip it in the Bud and do whats best for both you and them. Compromise and be forthright. remember others ego's are as tender as our own.

Claimed everyone is messed up and needs to start following his way right away The Messiah has entered the room complex ? Humor me and read his posts , 90% is nothing but a big big ego with someones else knowledge as his flagship edit: I am working to make my ego more productive myself , the ego is not necessarily your self worth , its your doubt and the misdirection your brain does to oneself. Totally worth working on it for everyone , especially people who cause their own pain. As that would be caused by a out of control ego , imo. , from my findings. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hey Sultan , No I met him the day before on another thread where he trashed everyone , me included. He came out of nowhere to be honest.

The way he is now he's dangerous to my and others mental health and happiness. To harsh for me and I can be a harsh person myself , if pushed. I am working on being more patience by being a nicer person , less hateful one would say. In fact I hate , hate or maybe dislike hate is more accurate.

Lord Knows that Boy needs some positiveness in his Life !

Positive encouragement however slight has an unseen effect on people , they ego remembers.

Feverishly it seems. I hope he finds happiness at the end of his learning.

Even the devil has friends , not saying he was the devil , he certainly is rude to people. If he read your Post he would try to destroy you and your post in his quote , shameless. He may of learned about himself from his stay here and may well become a better nicer person from it. We all need a little humility once in a while , it inspires growth and puts one ego back in place , until one learns its going to be a repeat cycle. Up and Down. We all slip up , its actually normal and a intrinsic to growth.

Your wife needs to trust you , trust that you will not slap her next time something does not go your way. Your only option is to apologize big time and mean every word of it. If your Man enough to show her your emotions do so , let her know how bad you feel for not trusting her and then slapping her. Each one is important let her know your ashamed of your behavior etc etc etc There is no time like the present to mend hurt feelings , the sooner you stop her pain the better Edit: I'm a little late with this reply.. thread is near a week old. lol

Someones action brought a reaction that they disliked which is straight up Vendanta in action. Maybe there is something to it after all , I don't think so but thee might be. Its been said the Vendanta is the ramblings of a aging guy trying to make sense of life I would like to turn the page now , lets move on to more fertile subjects. Please , accept my apologies If I bummed anyone out

You Don't think I read your Posts do you ? Fuk no , I gave up on that after you posted to me your insight is God , what did you tell me again ... oh take 2 steps toward God and he'll take ten towards you , which is nothing but brain washing dribble. My god man give your head a shake

Isnt it absurd though , you were looking at yourself threw others eyes when you read that, it was shocking for you I bet.

Of course you won't take my advice will you , you have a bent mission to share your nasty personality with people trying to better themselves. Thanks for sharing your hateful attitude , what a maroon !

The precious vandanta you speak of has made you nothing but obnoxious and off balanced. You need to start working on yourself and throw that idiotic vandanta theory in the trash , its not helping you its hurting you.

News flash : Vendanta is bullshit and your NOT being any type of a good example of anything to anyone. rude mfer

Whooosh , right over your head , wake up man and read over your posts they are very disturbing , you should be much more open minded if you hope to fix your unappealing self.

A ego driven person will put his insight above others and believe no one except his/her own ego. The size of ones ego is directly related to how he treats others or more so how he does not consider others only himself. Its the classic trap that weak willed people fall into , ME ME ME and screw everyone else cause I'm the shit.. oh how easy it is to spot.

The ego has a answer for everything and nothing all at the same time , its a know it all with little knowledge other then to use fear and the unknown to keep you in your current place. If one thinks he is ahead of the game , or has figured it out in record time , its a sign the ego is making the progress up with little real gains being had. Until the inner self is happy / healthy ( me included) we are at the mercy of our ego's deluded outlook of self , which subsequently causes us to live outside of reality. People can spot others ego's but do not notice their own until they study on it , despite how obvious it can be to others. It will also cause you to be afraid of change and changing and try its hardest to keep you away from others as it thrives on separation from others. Its a natural part of ourselves that could stand to be educated but can only be educated from the inside out. my take on it is - First we have to fix our minds useless thinking and improve our self image , then the ego will fall inline with our thinking and start working for us instead of against us.

I love reading peoples tips and understandings of these topics , it teaches me a more in depth way of looking at things. I am going to practice allowing my anxious thoughts to pass bye without trying to stop them as I usually do by using detraction onto positive thoughts. Worth a try

The way I understand our human world is that we follow the same laws as the animals and the environment , although at an accelerated pace do to our drive. Moving into the future by changing the present which can appear to be moving backwards but its an illusion , its the precursor to change that's needed for the change to take place. We will change our society to match our technological advances I believe deep down most of us know that change is needed to set our society / world onto a safer path.

an Awaking is a profound state I found myself in by admitting defeat and allowing myself to weep with desire and will to change my life for the better , I was struck with the notion that love and life are what its all about , not materialism and ego. This experience is not uncommon for people who have freshly committed to the betterment of their lives threw action and change. Its a real awaking a realization about the simplicity and importance of our lives It is as close to nirvana / enlightenment as I'll likely ever see.

The one unique truth that I'm aware of is love of life and living , besides that its all conjecture !

Elliot here is a sports trainer with knowledge to spare

The Mind and body are truly connected Many times a persons posture or lack of it is related to his/her emotional state , hunched shoulders and neck forward posture can be 100% emotional / stress related. Tight neck and or shoulder muscles can often be caused by stress or perceived problems in ones life. Massages are calming and enjoyable will often allow the mind to release the tension in the muscles. You need to find out whats stressing you and deal with it once and for all.

Most actors get stage fright and many of the overly confident guys are over compensating for their inner nerviness , its common so don't be feeling like your special ! lol Many girls know that most guys have a hard time asking them for their number etc. and really appreciate when a guy takes a chance steps out of his comfort zone and strikes up a conversation , without using pick up lines , instead use honest complements and general conversation to introduce yourself. Don't worry about showing your nervousness , it is what it is , we all get nervous