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I'm probably biased as I know a guy who wastes his life gaming. with that said I want to talk about the insidious side of gaming , the side that ruins peoples lives. A friend Phil has a serious gaming problem , he is university educated has money ( wealthy family) a dysfunctional wife owns his home and has gamed for the last 20 years rather than participate in life. He has friends who he shuns so he can play his online game. His online world has become his real world ,he is *never* fully with us when he finally leaves his computer room. His friends me included have stopped visiting as he will literally leave a quest sitting alone so he can play his game , Eve. The game world has become realer then his life , Its a shame to see a bright educated person waste his time on earth in such a simple minded pathetic fashion. That man will not listen to anyone , his wife included we joke that he is a Tard Instead of games I suggest 4 or 5 hours of Leo's and like minded teachers videos and presentations. Life is too short & special to waste hours and hours of it on online gaming , way too short , special.

Personally got a lot from that @Kevin Dunlop I always learn something whether I answered or started a thread , like a snowball ball effect the more we participate the more we grow.

Hey philosogi , I sent this video to a lady friend who is trying to understand her mind and ego. I think you will find it illuminating , as I did.

Being successful or unsuccessful is a outward sign our inner world. Successful people have often been raised that way or have payed for self help in the past and now have great people skills. Success is all in the head

If your not a drinker can go to coffee shops with school books , could be a great conversion starter. Increase your odds of meeting people by trying new activities , what your interested in. It seems that like minded people end up hooking up. with that in mind do things or go places that you are truly interested in , to meet those like minded people.

Generality speaking the older one gets the less problems one has to fix. Chronic masturbation for instance is much more prevalent with younger guys , most the older guys skip right on past that topic ( or should of ) and others. There are no golden rules , but as Leo pointed out people mellow the fuk out with age and they do It can seen in the jail populations as the majority of inmates are in their 20's who do not stop coming back until their mid to late thirties.

I catch myself and correct but do not judge , there is no fun in beating oneself up. Low pressure is a best way to learn , it keeps one eager and willing to try.

I have been enjoying this guys music since I was 15 years old , back then I would lay on the couch chilling with the lights off music up to 12:00

That's an excellent attitude , its the one I use when a relationship ends. I think I learned it from my Dad , he left without much fan fare or tears. Or its genetic.. Sure beats whining about it for weeks like most men feel they need to do ! side note - We ALL make mistakes , if you learn from them they become lessons.

@reez I think like you reez and I bet we both get laid anytime we want ! I know I do , I love to treat women like they are special.

That guy is onto something ,I watched his video earlier today and having just switched to vegetarianism his advice is pretty sweet. Just starting to use a universal gym again those tips are being implemented starting tonight before bed. Glad to have heard of his technique , what a tip who knew. edit: just back from doing the workout at night , I'm not ready for his diet yet , just his training advice. cardio during the day and weights before bed

Try changing things up , you may be in a rut, an improved diet less pot or alcohol if you partake. More rest less TV and fresh air instead of staying indoors. Give yourself a regular study time , try after a meal as it makes one feel more sedentary. And then there's you and what you should do to improve your happiness and drive , Its suggested with good reason to start with meditation , 20 or 30 min a day more if you like to teach yourself to be more aware. I felt like I got immediate results from my first 20 minutes of meditation , by the end of the first week of 20 min a day I was aware fast when my mind began to wander onto unproductive thoughts. Its very calming. You can learn to control what thoughts you engaged in your daily life for starters , that's as far as I have learned

Don't give up on trying. Its solid base to start the change in your life , it calms and prepares your mind for thoughtful use.

You pique my interest as I had not heard of Tolle until just now. I watched some videos of his to hear his outlook / understanding. He is thoughtful and easy to follow / understand. Maybe people become enlightened , I don't know , maybe people are waking up in stages , each one revealing more about life to us then the previous , a journey. Personally , I think people are waking up from their delusions , each stage brings one further and closer towards full awareness. But... I am a lowly student who has no real inspiration of enlightenment. Instead , I want to become as well rounded of a individual as I 'm able too , a kinder wiser person who has good effect on myself & others , love of self and others , success in business and happiness. Good enough for me !

Beats having no one in your life by a lot.

I think its Testosterone the causes Men to always be analyzing the situation but it could be the role we fit into. I believe we have both male and female traits in ourselves , men can be in touch with their feminine side , we nurture others and think with our emotions when the time arises. The differnces may be becuase Men traditionally protect others from harm , backs to the camp fire scanning the black night , its common for men to be thinking about every sound they hear analizing it and everything else all of the time. (this is just the tip of being a male) As children , boys and girls seem to be almost opposites , although not a unbend-able rule as we share many of the same human traits. I have not studied the subject deeply , but I have read articles with a common theme of how we think differently. This article delves deeper into it Neuroscientists explore differences in male, female brains One recent study found that structurally, it's rare to have a brain with all "male" or "female" traits. "One could go on and list hundreds of anatomical and chemical differences between the brains of men and women, and this would be true in other animals as well," said McMaster University brain researcher Prof. Sandra Witelson. Her McMaster lab contains a collection of over 100 brains — including Albert Einstein's. The differences between men's and women's brains — especially in the language and speech regions — interest her greatly. Her studies revolve around brain lateralization — anatomical and functional differences between people's right and left cerebral hemispheres just above the ears, and their degree of connection. "It appears that there is a more generalized interconnectivity in the female brain than in the male brain," she said. "A male brain is more specialized, has more independent modules. I think it's more vulnerable. And I think it has the potential for less plasticity." Researchers hope brain's plasticity can be used to treat disorders The National: The learning brain Dr. Apostolos Georgopoulos is the director of the Brain Science Centre at the Minneapolis VA Medical Center, a large veterans' hospital in Minnesota, where he and his colleagues are measuring the brain waves and cognitive skills of hundreds of healthy women ranging in age from 30 to over 100. Other studies are being carried out on men. Brain researcher Dr. Apostolos Georgopoulos says that in many tasks, women's brains process information faster and more efficiently. (University of Minnesota/YouTube) "Women's brains are definitely different from men's brains," said Apostolos. "What we have found is that women, in many different tasks, process information about five times faster than men, and use much less of their brain to do identical cognitive performance." But apparently, female brain speed and efficiency come at a cost. "Women seem to use certain parts of their brain much more efficiently, but if these are hit they're in big trouble," Apostolos said, suggesting that men's brains may be better able to compensate for damage. But Witelson points out that men's brains are vulnerable too. She says at the tender age of five weeks, male embryos get doused in testosterone, changing them and their brains forever. "The male brain has undergone a sexual differentiation," she said. "And if something should go wrong, it could affect the male brain more than the female brain." Women's brains more resilient to higher levels of genetic defects: study Science is just beginning to plumb the diversity of networks in people's brains — each as unique as its owner's DNA. How the hundred billion neurons in an adult brain get hard-wired — differently so in men and women — how neural circuits determine sexual or gender identity, recover from damage or age healthily all remain tantalizing mysteries for now. http://www.cbc.ca/news/health/men-women-brains-difference-1.3473154

I would suggest a pussy prowl would be more rewarding. Try going hands off say until you ask someone on a date. Let your abstinence work to your benefit not detriment. Been there done that ( didn't buy the tee shirt ) Participate in activities what ever is possible everything within reach , smiles help your going to have to put on the charm , seriously as effort equals results.

My brain works this way , men's brains work this way pretty simply lmao The male brain analyzes everything .. all of the time , I'm at its mercy ! apparently women think thru their emotions , well more then guys do

Everyone's advice is golden its important to look at it from all angles to figure out wtf to do. I am know to watch solo porn on occasion a girl and herself , I found it useful to keep it simple and boring. Its not very addicting this way guys. Its your minds you get to choose what you let enter it and what you don't.

I'm no sex therapist , I just know guys and girls both do it , its not a bad thing , being preoccupied doing it excessively is not going do much for a person social life or happiness. You may well be in the habit of it more then you actual need the release , try and figure that out

that's not unusual for a young guy at all , its pretty normal fap

Masturbation is not a bad thing in of itself , over doing it like anything else is the problem. Maybe switch to soft porn at first then try fantasying more along those lines. You need to become horny for a real live woman , not porn stars in triplicate. You need to want to meet a girl who is normal and within your reach , an average person or one much like yourself.

I agree , without finding the root of ones problems there is little chance at happiness or correction. There must be good study material out to help one find the root of their problems. I am curious about it now , I'm going to look into it right now.

For me , I had a awakening of sorts when I finally admitted defeat to myself and threw in the towel. By throwing in the Towel I broke down and cried , asked a higher power for guidance and wept with desire for change. Then it hit me , everything became clear I had awoken from my sleep and knew instantly what mattered and what I needed to do. What mattered was being in a loving state , Love mattered and change was mine for the taking. I was inspired by what may of been a breakdown , it may well of been my ego braking down , as I later studied and found my ego may well of caused all my previous pains in life. Also Take your time when studying and re read or re watch your material to help you drive it home ,and hey , enjoy your journey ishaq ! Be honest with yourself , as its the Key to self improvement

Porn warp's ones sexuality Give it up before you end up hating Women is my advice , most women are not sexed crazed bitches they are in fact tender sensitive human beings. Porn reduces women to jack off item's instead of the loving giving beings they actually are.