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@zazen yea you make some good valid points, this is my dilema- I need an emotional connection before sex, but i know the issue is men arent biologically programmed the same way and also for the sexual compatibility with the other. Yes some men will look at it with respect and others wont care either way. I know all depends on the guy.

yes true, I can see both sides of the coin, but the expression 'why buy the milk, if he can get the cow for free' comes to mind.

thanks @Preety_India, boundaries are key @Leo Gura, Yes you are absolutely correct with everything, i liked the analogy . I do want to express my sexual energy with him, or someone in general and have a commited relationship. I still have a lot of inner work to do, especially with self love. Intresting to hear a males perspective on 'No quality guy is going to commit to you before sex'- never thought of that before. However saying that I do still belive that *Some* guys will just take advantage of the sex if it is just given in the early stages, thus unlikely to commit. Again just my belief and what Ive found with past experiences.

@KennedyCarter hehe every woman needs to read/listen to him!

@KennedyCarter thanks for the recomendation, recently discovered this author and currently listening to 'ho tatics' which is really relatable/ funny. will check out this book after

@FlyingLotus thanks for confirming, i havent been notifed either in the past when he updated. @peqkno maybe i misheard, but i thought he said recently. thanks anyway

@FlyingLotus Thanks for your hard work, really intresting. great summarys

@Gianna I know how you feel, i can totally relate. I enjoy friendships with men also, but do not want anything with them romantically/ sexually. I feel bad/ like a bitch when i have to reject them and struggle to say no when they try to make a move on me. I too need to stop being too nice and just accept it. I do not like to hurt peoples feelings either but thats life. Good luck girl

congrats! I'm happy for you it was very entertaining to red, even better that a Erotic novel. enjoy it

@ivankiss hehe happy to hear that with your fwb situation, quite an intresting post. As a Female I myself try to direct my energy in other ways whenever an urge arises, but as @WelcometoReality said 'You cant control what you desire, but you can control how that energy is expressed' - You cannot control control your thoughts, they're not here to be controlled. It is what it is. Im from london but currently living in Barcelona

what are you currently doing to transend your urges? hows your journey going? out of curiosity where are you from?