CirclesofMastery

I'm in my mid 20's and have moved to a new city but have been here for over a year now and only have a few friends and acquaintances. It's really the mechanics i struggle with as when i was in school like most, it just came naturally. For me creating single relationships here and there are no problem but want to build on this. It's the the small group to the large group dynamics that i haven't a clue how to cultivate and manage. The benefits and opportunities i feel i miss not being the connector of people and not being connected to people are obviously massive. Br CoM

How best to learn a new skill

Thanks! very helpful!

Learning the process and priciples of how to effectively aquire new skills. LEARNING HOW TO LEARN. Defiantly a very specific topic. The "catchy title" is subjective and up to Leo to make the judgement on to keep or change. Stop stiflingly my creativity with rules.

Manchester, England

Take action immediately and commit to whatever it is you have decided to do.

What's your point?

Hi All, I have saved £10,000 ($14,500) and need some advice on the best way to invest it. I want the returns of Buffett but not cash returns, personal growth and development returns. I was thinking of picking my most influential YouTube mentor, buying a tent and pitching it outside their office until they took me as an assistant...... Any ideas? Br CoM

Read "the way of the superior man"

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Ever heard of RSD?

Hi All, Can anyone recommend any from personal experience? Br CoM

Dude where you are at the moment you have two choices A) Do fucking nothing B) Use EVERY fucking resource you have available to you to forward you in any direction (in reality you have no other choice than this one) Just taking action, growing or forward action, WILL result in unique changes for you. You should be constantly making mental notes of which avenues you feel are opening up to you by the actions you take. You can't sit on the fence, there is no middle ground despite what your ego may tell you. e.g. "i'm calculating my options for the right moment so when it feels right i will move towards it". *Though experiment* When you think about it all you can ever ask of yourself if you want to get to a new place in life is to take action in a direction you have no experience in, if growth is your ultimate goal until the day you die. Any other method is absurd and illogical. How can you change and move into something you already are!?! That would be like being in two places at once. You can only ever go from unknowing to knowing. Imagine you are a hunter with a shotgun (you and your gun being all your energy, resources and actions) in the woods (woods being the earth, holding within it every possible outcome for you) and you're trying to hunt down the ultimate beast (The beast is your ultimate life purpose). Of course at the start you have only just entered the woods with no idea where to start, the only thing you can do is take action and walking into the woods keep walking and walking, take a snack out (Cliff bar) and continue. Snap! you hear a branch snap directly ahead in the distance, pull up your shotgun and fire. You hear this roar in the distance (After throwing actions, energy and resources into seemingly nowhere you can now sense the obviousness of taking a certain direction) and you now have bolt of energy and chase down the beast for now you have a direction to travel, the closer you get your killer instinct will kick in, you keep firing shots and the direction and clarity of the action you are taking don't seem at all random anymore. You are now on your purpose. Nothing can stop you and before you know it you're standing over the ultimate beast you have been chasing. But something changes inside of you, you now are bored of this beast and want to chase down another! but now it is different. You now have the experience of looking for something with no clear direction and from your experience you now know that focusing on the process and journey is the key. the most important thing is to take actions in any direction of growth when you have no idea of your path. This is the ONLY thing you can do. Keep reminding yourself of your own mortality and that the only way is to go after your purpose ruthlessly. Br CoM

This is very helpful. Now i think about what you have said i am trying to control situations to much which shuts down a lot of possibilities and opportunities for me for me. I have no problem with the friendships I already have. I feel being social isn't the issue here i can socialize as good as anybody in a bar or club setting with strangers it's just not consistent enough. Lesson 1: Stop Trying To Control. Very powerful point. I feel once the above is handled, Next if i can get these two principles down the ball will start rolling rapidly. Principle 1: Having a plan and strategy in place on which to measure success against. Principle 2: Taking massive and consistent action on Principle 1. On making Principle 2 happen, I know you did say You must of had a process and set of rules you went through on the weekdays and weekends that enabled you to become the party starter/collector of people/sociable man, even if it felt organic. You may have cycled through this in your mind so fast it felt like second nature. You say you are not so focused in this area and it wasn't what it once was. how would you get back to that place? I have heard from somewhere if it can't be measured and quantified it isn't a skill.

Hi All, I have heard a lot from business and self-development gurus on how having mentors is a key and fundamental part of helping you get ahead in whatever it is they happen to be experts in. I have the idea this is not the usual acquaintance relationship and should be handled differently. How is it that i can get somebody to invest their time and effort into me for little or no return? Should i offer money for their expertise or will this then change this into just another tutor that will withhold information until they get value from me which would be money. Once i have identified my potential mentor how do i proceed? Any experience shared would be so valuable! Br CoM

Leo, what do you feel has given you the most credibility when it comes to advising people on how to go about their lives?

I have not seen any "in-depth" how to guides on developing social circles. I've moved to a new city but have been here for over a year now and only have a few friends and acquaintances. It's really the mechanics i struggle with as when i was in school like most, it just came naturally. For me creating single relationships here and there are no problem but want to build on this. It's the the small group to the large group dynamics that i haven't a clue how to cultivate and manage. The benefits and opportunities i feel i miss not being the connector of people and not being connected to people are obviously massive. Br CoM

"Never judge a thing you see, it's only what your mortal eyes will want it to be!" LOL I want more people in my life to share it with. I feel i have things to offer. Maybe your perception of social circles is stupid??

Hey man thanks for the post. Ok so always thinking how to connect people, how individuals may click with others, actively being creative with group events, keep the plates spinning. What specific sacrifices did you have to make? I have Friday Night, Saturday Day and Saturday Night, Sunday Day and Sunday Night. So essentially 5 separate segments in which to find and develop the group/groups. Now to find the people I want in my group how would you say the best way to do this would be? what was the combination that worked best for you? Putting yourself in proximity to these people and approach (kinda like cold approach pick up) , organizing events with random people to join then cherry picking from this, actively meeting friends of friends, overlapping mentor searching and some how be effective at being getting people to connect you with others? Br CoM

@Jecht Spencer Jeffy Allen HAHA I've read/listen to both of his books. He's definitely character......

Thanks for the detail in your reply. What have you found the differences are in experience and results when using a real life mentor as opposed to a virtual one (online or books)? Br CoM

I really thank you for your time in replying and giving your opinion on this topic. I think it's an important one. How do apply this proactively in finding a great mentor for my specific needs? I guess unless the mentor wants a mentee nothing will happen right?

Hey dude very very helpful. I feel that i am just a spectator when it comes to mentors online and through books etc.....(simplex communication) The duplex communication is worlds apart. If i literally soaked up and embodied everything from the lessons to the techniques i read and watched (literally 1000's of hours) i would be the ultimate developed person. i think we all would be right!?? If i was to say to you..... Can you advise me how you got you approached your mentors and how you managed your mentor relationships. How would this typically go? Br CoM

hahahah "how to be a comedian" more like