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  1. The Japanese traditionally have this idea of the world being an organism and everything being 'alive', I think. If that's correct then that would explain how they are very open to robots. However you most likely think of consciousness as something different than I do. Same label, different content. Do you have something like this in mind with what you are writing?:
  2. Aslong as you are not a Pudding-vegetarian, it`s most lily more healthy. You need to take B12 vitamins though. Otherwise you will need a lot more sleep and still feel tired plus your mental function would be affected.
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  4. this could be moved to philosophy, science
  5. I did for a long time in my life repeatedly eat very little. I was kind of in a war state against myself. This is a miserable way to live. It is basically an inconsequent way of suicide. The only way out is to find something you like about life. The thing is: If you would consider suicide then you basically find, life is worthless to you. So it wouldn't be of any harm to just stick around a little longer and try out a few things that could possible be fun. While you're doing that, you better brush your teeth. A full set of natural teeth is very valuable. If you live long enough, you might regret spending money for less perfect artificial teeth.
  6. Don't you start brushing your teeth or do you start but stop before you're really finished? Why? Do you feel like teeth decay is something you don't want to stop?
  7. I did this and got an A in my final exams: 1. You need a bunch of practice assignments and the solutions, so you can immediately test if you got it right. Make a list of your set of assignments (everything you need to know for your next test needs to be there) and each time you completed an assignment make a green √ for correct or a red X for false, plus add date and time. Whenever you have an assignment incorrect, not only note that you got it wrong, but also look what kind of mistake you made and note that, too. It is important to distinguish wether there is something you did not understand or wether you just did not concentrate enough and made a minor mistake. Then you know what you still have to learn better or wether you have to concentrate more. You then do the same assignments repeatedly. Then you will over time see more and more green √ and fewer red X. Then you can see your progress in one glimpse. 2. In whatever topic you are currently looking at, there are a number of steps explained in the text books. Now what you do is to write these steps down in a very short form and in your own words. For instance when working with vectors you might have something like this (this is an algorithm by the way): Assignement: 2 vectors given. Have to find out if the vectors intersect, if yes where they intersect. Step 1: Replace the x of one vector's formula with the formula of the other vector. Step 2: Try to solve the formula If there is a solution, that's where the vectors intersect. If there is no solution, then the vectors do not intersect. If they do not intersect check if parallel: Step 3: ... Then you do some assignments in that area. After 5-10 minutes try to write down your algorithm from memory. The first 2-3 times you will need to look in your book or your initial handwritten page. But when you repeat this, after maybe 5 times, you will have that step by step process in memory. Then do your solving practice, note down correct and incorrect in your list, note down the types of mistakes (minor, major) and mix it with writing down your solving algorithms over and over. In the next test you will see your assignments and immediately know step by step what to do. 3. Timer. I did also have a stop watch to time how long I took for each practice assignment. Write down your times as well. In the tests I did use the time. If I had 90 minutes and there where 50 points in the test, then I subtracted 20 minutes, divided the remaining 70 min./50 points=1,4 minutes per point. Then I wrote down the time I had for each assignment. If one assignment was worth 10 points, I would write 14 min. on the assignment sheet. I would then set my timer to the according times. The extra 20 minutes are a buffer for re-calculating when I had made a mistake somewhere. You need a minimum of 10% more time, than you think. Typically I needed much more than 10%. I have a timer that has 2 timers in one. One for the total test time and one for each assignment. It is important that you can switch off any signal noises obviously.
  8. Timothy Sykes is a fraud. Trading stocks requires a minimum of 100,000 $ if you want to live from it. Forex trading is more simple to start with smaller capital. But it is the same with the amount you need to live of it. But stocks often have per order cost and require order sizes so that you can only apply risk management if your total capital is big enough. An alternative to trade stocks with smaller accounts are CFD. http://www.investopedia.com/articles/stocks/09/trade-a-cfd.asp (there are annoying pop-ups on that page, sorry) It is a difficult profession. You need to understand your psychology and develop discipline. It is critical that you select a broker who does not work against you. One that seems to stand out positively is https://www.jfdbrokers.com I cannot vouch for them, I am not a client of JFD because I don't have the money or time to trade at all at the moment. If I would trade, I would most likely trade with JFD. You can find info on forex trading at fxstreet.com and babypips.com and a forum at forexfactory.com If you'd be willing to spend on trading systems and (more important) education, then 2ndskiesforex.com would be an option. It is run by Chris Capre who is very passionate about trading. I have bought a course and have therefore access to the course forum. It is very very active. There are many other people there. If you're serious about trading and willing to spend a few hundred $ then you can learn something there. It will probably save you a lot of money. Here's a recorded webinar with Chris Capre Feel free to ask if you would like to have a few more links to specific questions.
  9. There are a few fun moments related to this point of yours in Eckhart Tolle & Oprah's New Earth video series (it's on youtube).
  10. My body is 40. People typically think I must be about 25-28 years old. I never took supplements. I haven't eaten meat for over 20 years. I don't smoke, no alcohol or other drugs. I don't drink soft drinks –too unhealthy. I ate lots of vegetables, try to drink vegetable juice every day. Longer periods with very low calorie intake. I eat 2 meals a day. Sometimes I think 1 meal a day would be enough. Did lots of sports. Since I have been living on a vegan diet for many years, lately I added cheese and rarely I eat fish (so I couldn't call myself vegan or vegetarian), I had a deficiency in Vitamin B12. I have now added B12 (plus other B vitamins), D3, and a roundup of basic vitamins and minerals. It's the mainstream stuff. No Resveratrol etc. I am cautious that I stay within the official guidelines of daily needs. Some supplements you cannot overdose on, but some can be harmful. I take nothing that I haven't researched on official sites. My point is that you can have a very healthy body without extravagant supplement intake. In general, I assume you might be on a path that is stressing you out. In that sense you could take your current body reaction as a warning. Why are you trying to optimize yourself. What you are doing is basically applying the principle of the current economic system to yourself. If you want to ever be truly happy, you cannot achieve this by optimizing your performance in life. I think that having goals and investing effort into reaching them, and enjoying the struggle, that's all fine. But if you make this the main objective in life then this might be a misunderstanding and it might ultimately make you miserable. If you want to be happy, then you need to practice being happy with whatever life gives you now. Because that is everything that you will ever get. We all (me included) have the idea that when we reach that one goal, then we will be happy. But the inconvenient truth is, whatever your goal, when you reach it, it will become boring within days and will be replaced with another. And happiness will not ensue. Never. The only way out: To be happy now. However insufficient you think your life is now, it is life. Most people who have ever been born are not alive anymore. You're alive. If you're 'stuck in the mud', in pain, have Tinnitus, you're still alive. That alone is pretty cool. I know that it is easier said than done. I do struggle with this a lot. But I don't see any other way. Otherwise you will be eternally stuck in a hamster wheel, you will never feel good enough and life will never be good enough. I'd say, listen to your body. Take only a safe minimum of supplements or none at all. Eat healthy and do sports instead. My personal estimation of supplements is that many scientists and doctors are idiots just as the rest of society. What they say is a working hypothesis that may or may not be correct. Supplements are a big market so that is also a reason to knowingly mislead people. Think of all the crap that is sold to body builders. I am very restrained with supplements and it appeared to have served me, mostly. I should have taken B12 earlier though, and where I live D vitamin also makes a lot of sense. In general I prefer to get nutrients via food, not pills. When I heard that cumin is healthy, I thought I should eat more curries now. Pills focus only on a limited number of substances while there are thousands of unresearched substances in vegetables and fruit. Before Resveratrol was found to be healthy, you wouldn't have known it. It wasn't available in shops. But if you have liked and eaten grapes 50 years ago, you would have gotten the benefits. How many healthy substances are there in vegetables and fruit that are not researched and therefore not available as supplements? By getting the veggie food you get it all. And it is impossible to overdose, unless you have some medical condition. Do some research about tinnitus. Drink water a lot. There are also therapies where you go into a chamber with 100% oxygen for a while... If I recall correctly, treatment of tinnitus is time critical (= the more quickly you act the more likely any therapy can be effective). Best of luck!
  11. Did you ever meet a person that you thought looked amazing but then when she (or he) talked you lost all interest? Is there somebody that one of your friends thinks looks great but you disagree or vice versa? Did you know someone when you were young who used to look good but today doesn't anymore? Do you think less of that person now? Do you know someone who looks good but has a bad character? Do you respect or like that person? Do you want to spend time with that person? What are the persons that you like the most? Would other people think they are attractive? Did you ever meet a person who you thought looked average or not so great but when you got to know them you realized at some point, that you now thought the person was actually kind of good looking? Did you ever meet someone who nobody except of you thinks is good-looking? Are you wrong?
  12. Proposals: Let hime know that all of you sad that he's in a bad place, worried about his future and don't know how to help. Let him know that his problems also makes all of your lives miserable. Ask him what kind of live he would like to live, what would he want his live to be like in 10 years, and if he has any hope ever moving into that direction. And if not, then why? What does he think his live will be like in 10 years if he just continues the way he does? Ask him if he has any ideas how he could get out of his situation. If not, then invite him to think about and then tell you what help he would accept. Let him know that you will give him time and help him but that you need to see things getting better. Even if progress is slow, that will be OK. But there needs to be progress. It is very possible, that he will still be living with his parents when he's 40. These problems get worse over time. Your father has to understand that although it is understandable that he is angry, that every time he verbally attacks your brother, this will make your brother put up a wall. It may take weeks before there is a possibility to make progress again. Seeing a psychologist makes sense for you and your parents, so you can develop a strategy to make him accept that there is a problem and then accept help and work on it. Psychiatrists typically work with medication, not psychotherapy, so these are maybe not the best for the job of counseling you and your parents on a strategy. Also you may need to talk to several psychologists before you find one who can really help you. Not all psychologists are good. I would also recommend buddhist societies, if there are any where you live. A lot of the things that work in psychology have been 'stolen' from buddhism. A senior buddhist monk could give you good advice. Maybe your brother is at some point also open to going to a buddhist society with you, maybe a meditation course. Also if visiting psychologists is a money issue, then buddhists are an alternative. I have been watching talks by Arjahn Brahm (of buddhist society of Western Australia) on youtube. Check them out. They should give you an idea if that could be something that might help. If you have more specific questions, feel free to ask. Many years ago I was also hard to handle for my family and did not see a problem. I did never physically attack or threaten anybody though. The fact that your brother did should be talked about. He has to agree that this is a line he will not cross again.
  13. It might help for you and your parents to find a counselor or psychologist who you can talk to to (A) deal with your problem better, (B) find out what you could do (strategy to help your brother) and what you should not do. If you can generally address the issue without your brother going crazy immediately, then I would suggest you and your family let him know that his behavior makes you worried, is very stressful your you, and that you would like to help him and are open to any suggestions from him what kind of help he would accept. This would be a completely different approach than most people would choose. It is without pressure, which obviously provokes resistance. If he understands that, although he thinks it is not a problem for him, it is in fact a problem for his family, then maybe he is willing to do something. It is possible that he won't get into his school of choice next year. Does he have a plan for that case? Does he know why he was not accepted? Did he find out what he has to improve to get in, does he have a plan to work on that, did he follow the plan so far, is he achieving is roadmap goals (if he has a plan with roadmap goals)?
  14. Ajahn Brahm has a few other talks at youtube that could give you a useful perspective
  15. I have the same challenge. A few brief hints what you could try to change your way to think about this: • Don't make decisions. Choose an option instead. • Be aware that anyone can only do the best that their current level of awareness and knowledge enables them to do. Quote: 'Life can only be understood in hindsight, but has to be lived forward.' • Consider the cost of indecision. If you ponder over a decision choice for one of 2 options over a few months, maybe in that time you could have tried both options? That's not always the case but often. In any case when you consider the stress and the time you spent thinking about your choice, which you could have used for truly constructive thoughts or action, then you'll find the cost is very high. • When you feel you need more information to make a choice, start going into one direction. It is very likely that with taking action you will quickly develop more insights that help you reevaluate your choice. Then you can continue or change course. • Trying to make optimal choices means thinking in terms of results. That is as bad as identifying with material achievements. I would recommend you try to consider a different way of thinking. Ask yourself in a situation when you have trouble choosing between several options: What is really important about what I want to achieve here? Is it arriving at the end of a period of work, which is just a brief moment? Or is it the process of getting there? If life was about reaching a goal, what would be the most effective way to live? You would have to get as much stuff as quickly as possible so you can arrive on the finish line ASAP. The finish line would be death. So the goal would be to get everything done so we can die. That's obviously absurd. It is not why we think how we think and act how we act. The premise for our achievement and goal oriented view of what life is about is that we think we will live forever. That's even more absurd, of course. Everybody knows that we have to die. But on some level, we don't believe it. Since almost nobody investigates their reality deeply, humans are not typically conscious about it –and we avoid thinking about death, so this works. Life really is about the process. That takes the weight off making choices. I won't say it doesn't matter at all. On some level it does. But on another level it does not. It's both important and not important. Hopefully none of your options is totally off. As long as all options have the potential to be somewhat fruitful, you don't have to worry too much anyway. You will learn something along the way that will be helpful for any goal you start pursuing afterwards. Also consider the next point: • If there even was a perfect option for what you should do with your time, then what if you don't know this option, yet? What if you first have to choose one of your 2 options so that you can in the process have the epiphany that there is another option which is more valuable for you? What if you are in some way not ready for the best option? What if the perfect option is not to arrive at some destination as quickly as possible but a path or route of doing different things, going from one thing to the next, while you learn and get a more and more clear idea, of where you ultimately want to go? What if the optimal goal changes depending on where you are in life? What if the optimal goal for right now is exactly what you chose and next year the optimal goal might be something else (which would be the wrong choice now)? • Lastly: 'Life is easy. But we humans love our detours' (don't remember where this quote is from). You see, a cat or any animal doesn't have a biography. They don't try to create the perfect career or find their soul mate or create a lifestyle. We humans think of ourselves like some major character in a Hollywood movie. Very important. What does it all matter what you did in 80 years? Still do create a life, be strategic, do your research before you make a decision, but also don't take it all too serious. I always think of us as shaved monkeys. I don't mean to insult anyone. I respect monkeys. Plus it makes it much easier for me to make choices.